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For Survivors bySurvivors:A Healing ResourceSexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center

For Survivors by SurvivorsIn March 2018, SAPAC created and shared a survey as a part of aproject entitled For Survivors by Survivors: A Healing ResourceCo-Creation.The anonymous survey was an opportunity for survivors to sharewhat materials have been helpful in their healing process;these are the results. In here, you will find books, poetry, songs,movies and shows that survivors have found helpful as a part oftheir healing process.If you are a survivor, this resource is for you. Not all of theseanswers will speak to you, but some may. If you are a friend orsupporter of a survivor, feel free to share this resource with them.Our hope is simply to share out resources that have been helpfulin survivors’ healing processes.2

GuideBooks: Page 5Poetry: Page 8Songs: Page 9Movies: Page 11Shows: Page 13Final Words: Page 153

Some Important NotesAll of the materials listed in this resource are answers received anonymously from“For Survivors by Survivors: A Healing Resource Co-Creation Survey.”Their inclusion does not represent SAPAC endorsement.We were not able to use all of the answers we received in the survey, for various reasons.Still, we are so grateful for all the responses, received from so many survivors, and want tohonor and validate all of the information that was so graciously shared with us.Some of the materials included have content notifications (written CN) beside them;however, if you see a material listed that doesn’t have a content notificationthat you feel should,please contact Aysha Abiade, ajabiade@umich.edu.4

BooksWe Believe You,Annie Clark & Andrea PinoUniversity/collegestudents from incrediblydiverse backgrounds andidentities "shareexperiences of trauma,healing, and everydayactivism.”The Happiness Project,Gretchen RubinOne person’s yearlong attempt todiscover what leads totrue contentment.How to Eat,Thich Nhat HanhWhen Things Fall Apart,Pema ChödrönShort meditations thatcover everything fromeating with others andenjoying our food toconnecting with theearth.Discusses using painfulemotions to cultivatewisdom, compassion,and courage, and waysfor creating effectivesocial action.The Courage to Heal,Ellen Bass & Laura DavisBeing Peace,Thich Nhat HanhIncludes activities forprocessing, gaining agreater understanding,normalizing, advice, andmore.Highlights theconnection between ourown personal happinessand the state of theworld around us.CN: Some portions of the bookmay be difficult to read, andpotentially triggering.5

BooksI Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,Maya AngelouFirst volume in a set of fiveautobiographies by MayaAngelou, recounting herchildhood.CN: The book details her childhoodsexual assault.The Mindfulness Coloring Book,Emma FerraronsA pocket-sized coloring bookthat offers a practical exercisein mindfulness that draws onyour creativity and honesyour focus.The Color Purple,Alice WalkerYes Means Yes,Jaclyn Friedman & Jessica ValentiLife story of Celie, a poorblack woman abused andassaulted by her fatherand then later herhusband; she attempts tospare her sister fromhaving the same life. Afriend helps push herfinally toward anawakening of her creativeand loving self.Brings a variety ofperspectives and experiencesfocused on the theory thateducating all people to valuefemale sexuality andWhy Does He Do That?,pleasure leads toLundy Bancroftviewing womenA counselor who worksdifferently,with abusive men uses hisand ending rape.knowledge to help womenCN: An incredibly difficult read,with depictions of brutalviolence.Sex Matters for Women,Sallie FoleyThis guide helps womenunderstand how theirbodies work and takecharge of theirsexuality. Sexualityis a lifelong journey;this book givesa roadmap forself-discovery and growth.Self-Compassion,Kristin NeffExercises and action plansfor dealing with everyemotionally debilitatingstruggle.recognize when they arebeing controlled ordevalued in a relationship,and to find ways to get freeof abuse.CN: Highlights patterns ofabusers, which can betriggering.6

BooksOranges are Not the Only Fruit,Jeanette WintersonDescribes the adolescence of abright and rebellious orphanadopted into a Pentecostalhousehold and her coming toterms with her unorthodoxsexuality.Shrill,Lindy WestWorking With Available Light,Jamie KalvinA book on how tosurvive in a world wherenot all stories arecreated equal and notall bodies are treatedwith equal respect, andhow to weather hatred,loneliness, harassment,and loss.Account of sexual and physicalassault by a stranger and howthe family, and the survivor,survive and heal for the nextfive years.Waking the Tiger,Peter LevineEssentialism,Greg McKeownBy understanding thedynamics that make wildanimals virtually immuneto traumatic symptoms,the mystery of humantrauma is explored.Empowers people toreclaim control of theirown choices about whereto spend their precioustime and energy.CN: Some content may beparticularly difficult/triggering.Wild,Cheryl StrayedWith no experience,Strayed hiked over athousand miles of thePacific Crest Trail, oneyoung woman forgingahead on a journey thatmaddened, strengthened,and ultimately healed her.7

PoetryA War to Be Won,HalseyForgiveness,Beau TaplinHealing Comes in Waves,Ijeoma UmebinyuoI Felt a Funeral in my Brain,Emily DickinsonStill I Rise,Maya AngelouThe Truth About Monsters,Nikita GillLoose Woman,Milk and HoneySandra CisnerosRupi KaurA candid, sexy and"Milk and Honey takes listenerswonderfully moodthrough a journey of the moststrewn collection ofbitter moments in life and findspoetry that celebratessweetness in them—the female aspects ofbecause there islove, from the reflectivesweetnessto the overtly erotic.everywhere"Poignant, sexy. . .if you are justlyrical, passionate. . .willing to look."cool and delicate. . .hot as achili pepper.”The Sun and Her Flowers,Rupi Kaur“A journey of wilting,falling, rooting, rising, andblooming. A celebration oflove in all its forms.“CN: Some graphic scenes/mention of assaultGloria AnzalduaLucille CliftonCarol Ann DuffyRudy FranciscoRobert FrostOlivia GatwoodRoss GayMarge PiercyClaudia RankineAdrienne Richr.h.sinBianca StoneHenry David ThoreauNayyirah WaheedAlice WalkerWalt WhitmanRecommended Authors8

SongsFind the Spotify playlist hereAlbumsBanks - GoddessBeyoncé – LemonadeKesha - RainbowSongsAlive, SiaAll Our Lives, Andrew McMahon in theWildernessAt This Point in My Life, Tracy ChapmanBird Set Free, SiaBlackbird, The BeatlesBlended Family, Alicia KeysBreathe Me, SiaBridges, Boy & BearBurning Hill, MitskiBuzzcut Season, LordeCalling All Skeletons, Alkaline TrioCherry Wine, HozierClean, Taylor SwiftCranes in the Sky, SolangeElastic Heart, SiaExpectations, Belle and SebastianFeel Invincible, SkilletFree Me, SiaThe Fighter, Gym Class HeroesGoddess, BanksI Believe, Christina PerriI Forgive You, Kelly ClarkstonI Wanna Get Better, The BleachersI Was Here, BeyoncéI Will Survive, Gloria GaynorI Won’t Back Down, Johnny Cash VersionI’m Still Standing, Elton JohnIt’s On Us, AJRLiability, Lorde9

Listen, BeyoncéA Million Reasons, Lady GagaMine, Phoebe RyanMissing You, All Time LowNever Give Up, SiaNot a Pretty Girl, Ani DiFrancoNot Ready to Make Nice, Dixie ChicksNot While I’m Around, Glee CastPower, Little MixPatience, The LumineersPeace in the Valley, Elvis PresleyPraying, KeshaRainbow, KeshaReaper, SiaRemember, Belle and SebastianResolution, Jack’s MannequinRibs, LordeRise, Katy PerryRise Up, Andra DayShake It Out, Florence and the MachineStand Up For Something, Andra DaySunrise, Nora JonesThe Show Goes On, Lupe FiascoThis is Me, Kesha10Till It Happens to You, Lady Gaga(CN: Sexual assault)Skyscraper, Demi LovatoStill, Seinaboo SeySurvivor, Destiny’s ChildWarrior, Demi LovatoWhat Now, RihannaWho You Are, Jessie JWriter in the Dark, LordeYou Haven’t Seen the Last of Me, CherYou Don’t Know, Katelyn TarverYou’ll Never Walk AloneYou’re Only Human, Billy JoelSongs

MoviesFootloose (2011)“I have been so lost. I have been losingmy mind. and you don't even see it?You don't even care.”City teenager Ren MacCormackmoves to a small town whererock music and dancing havebeen banned, and his rebelliousspirit shakes up the populace.Silver Linings PlaybookBlue is the Warmest ColorAfter a stint in a psychiatric carefacility, a former teacher, Pat,moves back in with his parentsand tries to reconcile with his exwife. Things get more challengingwhen Pat meets Tiffany, amysterious woman withproblems of her own.Adèle's life is changed whenshe meets Emma, a youngwoman with blue hair, whowill allow her to discoverdesire and to assert herselfas a woman andas an adult.In front ofothers,Adèle grows,seeks herself,loses herself,and ultimatelyfinds herself throughlove and loss.Rating: RCN: Instances of physical violence inregards to romantic relationshipRating: PG-13Perks of Being a WallflowerLars and the Real GirlAn introvert freshman is takenunder the wings of two seniorswho welcome him to the realworld.A young man who experiencesdelusions strikes up anunconventional relationshipwith a doll he finds on theInternet.Rating: PG-13Rating: NC-17CN: Explicit sexual contentRating: PG-13CN: Highlights issues of self-harm, druguse, suicidal ideation, and implied childsexual abuse.Please take particular care with movies;some artistic depictions can betriggering.MoonlightA chronicle of thechildhood,adolescence andburgeoningadulthoodof a young,AfricanAmericangay mangrowing up ina roughneighborhood ofMiami.”Rating: R11

MoviesContactDr. Ellie Arroway, after yearsof searching, finds conclusiveradio proof of extraterrestrialintelligence, sending plans fora mysterious machine.Rating: PGLady BirdIn 2002, an artisticallyinclined seventeen-year-oldgirl comes of age inSacramento, California.Rating: RWonder Woman"When a pilot crashes andtells of conflict in the outsideworld, Diana, an Amazonianwarrior in training, leaveshome to fight a war,discovering her full powersand true destiny.”Audrie & DaisyA look at the effectsthat online bullying hason the lives ofteenagers and theircommunity.CN: Bullying, suicideRating: PG-13The Hunting GroundMarley and Me"An exposé of rape crimes onU.S. college campuses, theirinstitutional cover-ups, and thedevastating toll they take onstudents and their families.”A family learnsimportant life lessonsfrom their adorable butnaughty dog.Rating: PG-13CN: Themes involving college sexualassault casesRating: PGMaleficent“I had wings once.They were strong.They were stolenfrom me.”A vengeful fairyis driven tocurse an infantprincess,only todiscover thatthe childmay be the oneperson who canrestore peace totheir troubled land.Rating: PG12

Shows (TV, Netflix, etc.)Chopped (Hulu, Food Network)Gilmore Girls (Netflix)BBC Planet Earth (Netflix)A reality game show where chefscompete to create the best dishes.A comedy that follows a mother anddaughter living in a small town.“The Planet and its Wildlife”The Office (Netflix)The Bold Type (Hulu, Freeform)A comedy about an office space, thestaff who work there, and their dailyhappenings.The Bold Type" is inspired by the lifeof "Cosmopolitan" editor in chiefJoanna Coles. The show is a glimpseinto the lives and loves of thoseresponsible for a global women'smagazine. Their struggles are aboutfinding your identity, managingfriendships and getting your heartbroken, all while wearing the perfectjeans to flatter any body type.The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt(Netflix)CN: Some scenes demonstrate sexualharassmentOne Day at a Time (2017, Netflix)A comedy featuring a veteran who isliving with her mother and twochildren.Rescued after 15 years in a cult, KimmySchmidt decides to reclaim her life byventuring to New York, where sheexperiences everyday life with wideeyed enthusiasm.CN: Allusions to sexual violence in the bunker13