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How To Be A Noble Badass 5THINGS CHANGE NOW, (or imagine I am giving you a bighug goodbye, wishing you the very best on your journey withblessings and love).Perhaps you think I’m kind of bitchy for saying this.What I’m really saying is that I honor you. You’re a grownman. You deserve straight talk. Life is too short to spend time onthe pages of a book that you aren’t super curious about, or onewhere you’re unwilling to go deeply into the questions that I posebelow. The men I can support best are ready to be both humbleand courageous, (and I’m pretty sure you know you are both ofthose things or you wouldn’t have bought How To Be A NobleBadass, am I right?) My readers and clients value the key I provideto their evolution, honor my capacity as an energetic healer, andare turned on being invited into their grandeur by a woman wholoves, admires, and is devoted to men.Great man, if we are cut from the same cloth, you’ll know it.Read on.I bet you will wholeheartedly answer YES to each of thesequestions!Let’s roll. Can you own that there’s something you haven’t been fullywilling to be or do? And that more would be possible ifyou were willing, and would allow the REAL Noble BadassYOU to show up? Even if you don’t know what it is yet?Or how? Are you ready to look your biggest challenge or block withrelationships in the eye, no matter what we find? Even ifit’s a blindspot that I’ll help you find? Are you willing to do your best NOT to judge yourself inthe process, AND if you catch yourself doing it, knock it

6 Allana Prattoff, supportively pick yourself back up again and let meinspire you with tenderness, succulence, strength, and soul? Are you willing to let go of all your preconceived notionsof who you are, of who women are, of your limitationsand stories based on the past, and dive into the unknownwith me? Are you willing to no longer need a woman, yet beconfidently vulnerable in your CHOICE to have theperfect mate for you, and savor the life of a Noble Badass? Are you willing to do whatever it takes, even if you have tolet go of the past and step into the unknown, feel mildlyout of control so you can open to an Unknown that hasyour back, and meet the REAL you? (While absolutelyhaving as much delicious fun as possible?)Cool.Sweet!Awesome. F’ing awesome.YOU, the total YOU, is what the world is aching for!Damn, I’m impressed.You move me. Open me. You are a gift.Sit with that, my brother. Open your heart a sliver wider andlet that in. Let me love you, exactly as you are, the best you can.Let this be the beginning of our life-changing, intensely delicious,quietly potent journey together. We’re officially partners. Yingand Yang, Shiva and Shakti, Masculine and Feminine. I believewe agreed to connect in some other realm in some other time and I find it the most distinct honor and pleasure to embark onthis sacred journey together.

C H A P TER 3BEING A MANWOMEN DESIREGET IN YOUR BODYFor men who are super bright and also like to be in control, beingin your body is a foreign concept, alien territory. Intelligent,logical men value thinking over knowing. They may be quitejudgmental of their feelings or emotions, such as fear, sadness oranger. They can become militant and intimidate people or theycan shut down, avoid, and disconnect. They haven’t yet discoveredhow to sit in the fire, stay connected in their hearts and createsoul/mind harmony awakening the best of their intelligence andMind when it’s sourced in the Present Moment in their Bodyand Heart. In my coaching practice, I notice these men may notbreathe deeply, they are hesitant to fail, they rarely have colorin their cheeks, they seem almost like a shell, invisible, andlacking girth, they overthink and are certain the unknown is badand should be avoided whereas the Mystery is where miracles,serendipity, coincidences, non local intuition, and beyond yourimagination support from the Field arises.

8 Allana PrattExperiencing a barrier to being in your body is quite logical .it doesn’t feel good to be in there, so you don’t go in. Many of myclients have decades of pain, emasculation, abuse, neglect, cruelty,and aloneness in their stories. I help them integrate this pain intopower, freedom, compassion, fortitude and more in a lasting way.Thus, their emasculated heart is healed, stronger than before,grateful for everything, resisting nothing. And they are free.There are several beautiful, potent guided meditations inmy Men’s Digital year-long program that men have reportedare deeply effective in releasing pain from their past. Once yourelease what is stuck, it’s quite empowering to be in your body,so easy to be present, so alive and confident, free, and limitless.You’re able to make contact with yourself so you more easilymake contact with others. People trust you, respect you, want tobe close to you because you feel solid yet unattached. You are safeand everyone from a child to a lover to a client desires to be seen,safe and understood. You will have the capacity to navigate futurechallenges with more ease, no longer afraid of the unknown,instead quite turned on by the knowledge that come what may,you’re okay, always have been, and always will be.PENETRATE HERIt’s such an “A-ha” moment when a guy who has a long-standingpattern of being put in the friend zone finally realizes what’s goingon. He is not penetrating her with his eyes, his heart, AND hispelvis. Nice guys tend to either stay in their spinning mind, or overpenetrate their energy, words and actions from an empty, woundedheart and thus, they destroy their chances to escalate romantically.So, how on earth do you penetrate her with your eyes?First, you must be in your body because this isn’t a line, or athing you do, it’s a way of being. When you look at her, don’t stopat her clothes and skin. This makes us feel like you’re scanninga lunch menu. While there are certain women who will respond

How To Be A Noble Badass 9to this surface behavior, they will most likely be short-termentertainment, just be a meeting of genital parts, and not trulymind-blowing, connected, hot sacred erotic life-enhancing sex.So, when you look at her, look at her body AND further into heressence. Is she shy, coy, artsy, driven, feminine, sensual? Noticethis deeper layer about her, VALUE this richer layer about her,and watch how she doesn’t feel just looked AT, but acknowledged,seen, appreciated for her uniqueness. Each woman really doesKNOW we are not the only woman on the planet you’re attractedto, yet we want to BELIEVE we could be the only woman atleast for the moment, because that’s what’s required so that wefeel safe, open, and able to let go. Lastly, and this takes practiceover time, look at her body, seek to discover her essence and thenlook through her eyes deep into her Soul, through her eyes intoEternity. These moments are few and far between. They mayhappen on a date, over dinner, going for a walk in nature, orwhile making love. When your barriers are down, you are beingYOU, with total ease and freedom to be together and you allowyourself to be seen, while seeing her.Being that intimate and vulnerable with another, with nojudgment, is quite seductive. It awakens a sacred, erotic creaturein you that you may not have let see the light of day in a while if ever. Your inner lover is what she aches for she appreciatesyour penis, your strong arms yet she aches to surrender toyour grandeur.Now, penetrating her with your heart, do the same thing fromabove, yet from the kindness, warmth, honor, and nobility of yourheart. Feel her. Let her feel you. Literally think of opening yourheart, not closing it. Open to possibility. Open to the unknown.Open and be curious. Think of pulling down your walls, notputting them up. Think of breathing openly, not holding yourbreath. Think of shining your heart from deep inside you for noother reason than to Be Love. Nothing to impress her with, juststand there heart open and send warmth to her heart from yours.Because you can.

10 Allana PrattLet her know it’s safe to connect with you.Show her by the way you are unattached, present, centered,and curious you’re connected to you, you’ve cultivated thecapacity to be safe within yourself. You’re coming from theoverflow here because you’ve met your own needs for safety,approval, validation and enoughness. You’re not looking to her,penetrating her with your empty heart to suck her energy soyou’re good enough. You’re giving from the over flow of a healedheart, from your wholeness, fullness, the expression of love, care,kindness, appreciation, and gratitude for simply being with her.Finally penetrate her with your cock. This is where manymen lose the game, not allowing their sexual energy to be presentwhen they meet a woman because they don’t want to come on toostrong, they don’t want to be rejected, they have been told to bea gentleman, they are ashamed that they have sexual needs alltotally understandable. YET when you don’t show up with yoursexual energy, she can’t FEEL your desire for her, thus she instantlyputs you in the Friend Zone.Now here is a key, one I teach my private and group clients.We literally practice this and I help them gauge their energy.Your sexual energy doesn’t have to be either ON or OFF. In fact,NEVER turn it off. It’s the energy of creation, it’s life force, it’ssacred, it’s the energy to birth a star, spin the planet, generatedesire, awaken creativity. So with your sexual energy, you cankeep it low, perhaps a 1 or 2 at a coffee shop, turn it up to 5 or 6on a romantic date, or ramp it up to 9 or10 when you ravish herheart open in the bedroom. So, penetrate her through your eyes,your heart, AND your cock. Let her know she’s gorgeous. At a 1or 2, you’re noble, yet sexy. A gentleman, yet not a Nice Guy. Soshe can feel your hand in the small of her back, and that she meltswhen you talk to her, even when you just look at her.Okay, this makes me wet just writing about this to you. ItWORKS. Trust me.

How To Be A Noble Badass 11VULNERABILITYThe third key to being the man a woman desires is about beingvulnerable. There is SUCH a misconception about this word.Many men think it means show her your neediness, yourinsecurities, your wounds, NO!F’ing handle your neediness in coaching, (with me)!Vulnerability is about rawness and strength, about revealingyour core experience, not a wound for her to heal. It’s sayingthe deal didn’t go through and I’m crushed, yet not blamingyourself, not blaming another and not saying it’ll be fine. It’sabout being honest about your process without being a victim,self-deprecating, or whining. It’s sharing present moment truthand sitting in the fire and just BEING with it. Like after you’vehad a tough conversation with your kids and you intimately,authentically sit with her, maybe even ask her to hold you, tellher about your day. It’s like being a weary Knight coming homefrom battle, letting his Queen hold his head against her breast,honoring his courage, honoring his journey, honoring that hegave it all he had, knowing full well he’s going to go back outthere in the morning and give it all he’s got again. She refuels himwith her touch, her listening, her gaze, her scent, her tenderness,her unconditional love.Communion.Hot.This is not necessarily communicated when you first meet.This is grown, even earned over time by noticing she isn’t ajudger, that she’s a good listener. As you share what’s true withoutapologizing for anything, she feels your depth because you don’tovercompensate, you don’t justify, you don’t prove your worth,you don’t say you’re fine when you’re not. Your words, actionsand energy are congruent. You are human too. Thus, she trustsyou, respects you, rests into you and becomes herself around you.

12 Allana PrattYou are a leader of authenticity. You inspire safety, depth, andauthentic connection.If you sense a woman doesn’t have the capacity to honor andappreciate your vulnerability, even if she’s super hot, don’t kidyourself. She’s not long-term partnership material. Sure, date her,sleep with her if you’d like, but don’t come crying to me when sheemasculates you. Be willing to know what you know, sense thatcoming, and ask the Universe: What would it take for a womanto honor my credibility AND my vulnerability? A woman whowon’t shrink back, who will sit in the fire with me, grow with me,evolve into a whole mate relationship with me?She’s out there.Promise.Remember when we believe it, we see it.

C H A P TER 4WHAT STOPS MENFROM EVEN GETTINGOUT THEREMONEYLet’s talk about who you are when it comes to women and money.Some of my clients won’t even start dating until they are more‘established.’ While women appreciate a successful man, it’s notbecause we’re all gold diggers. It’s because we can’t be all WEare unless you are being all YOU are. Vibration wise, it’s noteven possible. Women go weak in the knees when they’re arounda man who is showing up for life. He knows why he’s on theplanet and it’s intoxicating for us. It’s as if a wind of energy comesthrough us and we want to be the wind in your sails literally,with our belief in you, with our touch, with our bodies, with ourhearts. Women are turned on by men who generally have theirfinances in order. And here is something that may surprise you it’s okay, even preferred, that he’s fallen down before. This proveshe’s the kind of man who will get up again.

14 Allana PrattAre you a man who’s gotten back up again? A man who hasintegrated the lesson that losing money taught you? Do you seemoney as a tool to support your mission? Are you generous? Doyou manage your money with respect and honor? Are you gratefulfor money? Do you have a healthy relationship with worth,wealth, deserving, receiving, asking for what you need, managingyour financial growth, saving for retirement. Do you even have ahealthy point of view about student loans or alimony? Please hearme when I say it’s what’s beneath the money that attracts a greatwoman, not the money itself.Think about it. If you don’t have your shit together andaren’t manning up to live your fullest life, then WE womenhave to become the man, become the masculine energy in therelationship. That’s when women become superior, when they’renot in their hearts and void of softness.And I KNOW its excruciating when a woman doesn’t let youlead, is bitchy, or emasculating you. Many women have to bemasculine at work to compete so when we switch into dating/mating/relating mode if we’re asked to decide where to eat,it can be exhausting. And it doesn’t let us shine and be juicy. Itdoesn’t let us receive and praise you. Only an insecure womanneeds a man who isn’t brave enough to let go of control orchooses to dominate an insecure man she can control. Remember,insecurity means her heart is so wounded that she’s spinning inher head, terrified to be out of control. Bitchy arrogance on theoutside means terrified little girl on the inside. (Same with menBTW, xox.)Most quality women I know are turned OFF by a man wholeads materialistically with his money, his car, trying too hard toimpress her. She asks, “What’s he compensating for? He must beinsecure with who he is to give his power away to me like that.”While I super duper celebrate your accomplishments and wantyour woman to appreciate how hard you’ve worked to create suchwealth, I’m warning you now if you LEAD with the money,

How To Be A Noble Badass 15and not your Noble Badass self, you’ll very likely attract a womanwho will only value you for your stuff, and might leave you ifyour stuff goes away, or better stuff comes along with someoneelse. You can still have your ‘stuff’ be part of the package for sure,yet whatever quality you lead with is how the Universe is goingto mirror that energy in her. Lead with Noble Badass? ReceiveRadiant Goddess. Lead with money, titles, and achievements?Get gold diggers, and surface-level, shallow partnerships.The conscious women I know and coach say YES to a manwith understated confidence and self-assurance that doesn’t needbroadcasting. Women’s panties get wet when you have a solidpresence that makes her feel like she’s the only one who exists,while at the same time you’re aware of the room, and know you’vegot it all handled even if shit hits the fan. It’s like you’re makinglove to her energetically, even over coffee.I’m reminded of one of my favorite lovers. He had a verylogical engineer side of his brain that created great results in theworld for his company, yet he also had a noble heart. He’d lost hisparents when he was young and went through a serious illness inchildhood also which humbled his ego. He had Native Americanroots and hunted one elk a season to eat with a bow and arrow.He reminded me of Avatar, such sacred reverence of the animal,nature, and of being with his aloneness in the woods for days onend. He had found stillness in his soul. He had healed his heartfrom the wounds of his parents’ loss and a failed marriage. Heloved his kids deeply. He was willing to do difficult things inorder to create a lifestyle he desired.There was a location, the source from which his words came,that I swear was in another dimension. I could FEEL energy whenhe spoke to me. He always called me, Beautiful. “Hey Beautiful.”It melted me because he was penetrating me with his eyes, thisheart, and his cock. I felt impeccably safe with him. I trusted himto do the right thing. He felt WIDE out into space, nature, theUniverse as he drove me places, as he made love to me, ran me a

16 Allana Prattbath. And when he was stressed, or uncertain, he both took timeto be alone with his fears and also to come to me for my touch,my listening, my insights and intuition, and to get my read on hisenergy. He taught me that it was safe to surrender, to go wild, tocrumple in his arms, to be naughty, to speak up, to let go.And here’s the cool thing. He was fifteen years younger thanI was, with young children and we knew that our paths weren’tpointed in the same direction. In all transparency I didn’t havethe courage to end the relations

What I really hope to impart to you, and inspire in you, is the desire to stop seeking more accomplishments, more achievements, more security on the outside, or more appreciation or acknowledgements of being good enough. I invite you to BE who you already are, (yes, you're already a Noble Badass). You can