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Edition No. 6487884 Irish Avenue S., Cottage Grove, MN 55016August-September 2016St. Paul Chapter E-mail address: tcfstpaul2012@comcast.netTCF National Office, P.O. Box 3696, Oak Brook, IL 60522 Phone # (toll free) 877.969.0010The St. Paul Chapter meets the2nd Thursday of each month atBeaver Lake Lutheran Church;2280 Stillwater Avenue;Maplewood, Minnesota7:00 PM – 9:00 PMFor chapter information call Sandyat (763) 228-2393Chapter Website:www.stpaulcompassionatefriends.orgChapter Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/TCFStPaul/MEETING TOPICS(We discuss what is on your mind;not only the listed topic)THURSDAY, AUG 11: OPENDISCUSSIONTHURSDAY, SEPT 8: SPECIALEVENT: Our first ever massBUTTERFLY RELEASE! Pleasesee Page 5 of this newsletter forfurther details regarding thisspecial evening!The Compassionate Friends, Inc. is a mutual assistance, self-help organizationoffering friendship, understanding, and hope to bereaved families. Anyone whohas experienced the death of a child of any age, from any cause is welcome.Our meetings give parents an opportunity to talk about their child and abouttheir feelings as they go through the grieving process. There is no religiousaffiliation. There are no membership dues. The purpose of this support group isnot to focus on the cause of death or the age of the child, as it is to focus onbeing a bereaved parent, along with the feelings and issues that evolve aroundthe death experience of a child.The Mission of The Compassionate Friends: When a child dies, at any age, thefamily suffers intense pain and may feel hopeless and isolated. TheCompassionate Friends provides highly personal comfort, hope, and support toevery family experiencing the death of a son or a daughter, a brother or a sister,or a grandchild, and helps others better assist the grieving family.TO OUR NEW MEMBERSWe recognize that it takes great courage to come to the first meeting, whetheryou are a bereaved parent, sibling or grandparent of one month or many years.You are welcome to bring a friend or relative for moral support if you wish. Youwill find that it is all right to cry and to laugh, to share how you feel or justlisten. You do not have to talk at a meeting if you don’t wish to. We welcomeyour participation, but it is not a requirement.TO OUR MEMBERS FURTHER DOWN THE “GRIEF ROAD”Each meeting we have new parents, siblings and grandparents. THINK BACK –what would it have been like for you at your first meeting if there had not beenany TCF “veterans” to welcome you, share your grief, encourage you and tellyou, “Your pain will not always be this bad.” We welcome your presence andsupport!INFORMATION REGARDING OUR MEETINGSThis is YOUR group and we are here to support each other. Our meetings areopen to bereaved parents, adult siblings, grandparents, or adult familymembers such as aunts or uncles. We hope you will find our meetings andnewsletters to be a comfort, a place where tears are allowed, no judgments aremade, and, in time, that you can once again find hope and meaning in life.WE NEED NOT WALK ALONE – WE ARE THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS.
ST. PAUL CHAPTER INFORMATIONChapter Leader/MN Regional Coordinator:Cathy Seehuetter - 651.459.9341Chapter Co-Leader: Kim Pietruszewski - 507.351.4042Steering Committee: Carol & Ralph Bauman, KimPietruszewski, Cliff & Sandy Romberg, Anne Castaneda,Joannie Kemling, Cathy SeehuetterRefreshment Coordinator: Carol BaumanTreasurer: Greg SeehuetterWebmaster: Kim PietruszewskiNewsletter Editor: Cathy SeehuetterLibrary: Carol BaumanSpecial Events Coordinator: Kim PietruszewskiFacilitators: Cliff Romberg & Cathy SeehuetterRemembrance Cards: Colleen Hines & Cori Claugherty1st Contact: Sandy RombergNew Member Outreach: Liz Lambrecht & Susan KichlerSibling Contact: Alyssa FrankMailing/Folding Newsletters: Carol & Ralph BaumanChapter Professional Advisor: Lara Shea of Kok Funeral HomeOur sincerest THANKS to the above volunteers who givetheir hearts and time to make this a supportive, comfortingand hopeful place!!! You are invaluable to all of us!TELEPHONE FRIENDSWhen you need to talk, they are your listening ears ACCIDENTAL/SUDDEN DEATH:(Kim). .507.351.4042ILLNESS (Jeanne) . . .651.253.8634ONLYCHILD (Kathy) . 651.426.2446INFANT LOSS(Deanna) . .715.553.3877(Ben) . .715.553.3490CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS (Colleen) . 651.788.7885SIBLING LOSS: (Alyssa) . 763.228.1389TODDLER LOSS:(Angela) .970.568.6001SUICIDE:(Cathy). . .651.459.9341GRANDCHILD LOSS: (Carol & Ralph). . 651.739.7058OCCUPATION-RELATED LOSS: (Sandy) .763.228.2393STEPPARENT LOSS:(Cliff) . 651.528.6073SUBSTANCE-RELATED LOSS(Anne) 651.328.4771OTHER TCF AREA CHAPTERS(www.compassionatefriends.org for Chapter locator)APPLE VALLEY: Meets at 7:00 p.m. on the third Tuesday ofeach month at Shepherd of the Valley Lutheran Church,12650 Johnny Cake Rd, Apple Valley. Call Susan at651.683.9236 for further chapter information.FOREST LAKE Meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at ForestLake Senior Center Lounge; 767 – 4th St SW; Forest Lake, MN55025. Call Sue at 763-242-3528 for further information.OTHER SUPPORTTHE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDSTCF .toll free: 1.877.969.0010E-mail: nationaloffice@compassionatefriends.orgNational Website: www.compassionatefriends.orgSUICIDESurvivors of Suicide 612.922.5830Suicide Awareness/Voices of Education .952.946.7998www.SAVE.orgNATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE:1-800-273-TALK (8255)11 ANGELS – EMBRACING FAMILIES THROUGH LOSS:(miscarriage, stillbirth, early infant death) http://www.11angels.org/About Us.html (Twin Cities area)Note from the Editor: Articles printed in this newsletter arereflective of the individual writers' views and not necessarilythe opinion of the Editor or TCF. As we each grievedifferently, we will also find different things to be helpful.Therefore, a variety of views, articles and poems are includedin each newsletter to reach out to all of our readers.In accordance with the Principles of The CompassionateFriends, "We treat what is said at meetings as confidentialand what we learn about each other as privilegedinformation." In order to protect the privacy of our members,our database, e-mail addresses, and mailing list is used for TWe have a sibling contact person (see left column forAlyssa's phone number) but do not have a scheduled siblingmeeting. However, siblings age 16 and over are alwayswelcome at our regular meetings, as well as to contact her.MINNEAPOLIS: Meets the 3rd Monday of every month at St.Joseph Parish Community; 8701 – N. 36th Ave; New Hope, MN55427. Contact Carol at 763.542.8528 for more info.THE ST. PAUL, MINNESOTA CHAPTER OF THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDSAUGEST-SEPTEMBER 2016PAGE-2
OUR CHILDREN, SIBLINGS & GRANDCHILDRENLOVINGLY REMEMBEREDKeeping the families of our precious ones close in thought, sending them comfort and our loving support.LOVED MISSED REMEMBERED ON THEIR BIRTHDAY AND ALWAYS:AUGUST3rd5th9th10th12thBrett, son of Mark & Lonnie BohnenAimee, daughter of Marlys & Shane GoldsteinCarley Jean Bruening, daughter of Brenda BaumanStacey Tims Morgan, daughter of Rich TimsTravis, son of Theresa & Dave Kappel15th24th24th25th30th30thLevi, son of Sue WardJohn Norman, son of Janet LundeenSara, daughter of Katie FriedmanNicole, daughter of Joe & Denise KirbyLiam Wiggins, grandson of Lynne SullivanMichael, son of Dawn & Mike FollmerSEPTEMBER4thKellie Kaye, daughter of Joannie Kemling9thErica Ann Wilson, daughter of Jo Verdon9thOliver, grandson of Sandy Beaver12th Pierre LaQue, son of LuAnn Meyer16th Jim, son of Anne & Tony Genia18th Karissa, daughter of Steve & Lou Neumann18th Andrea, daughter of Michelle Favilla20th Bethany, daughter of Kim & Mike Mazur, sister of Jessica &Kayla20th Nicholas, son of Susan Tuomela21st24th24th24th24th27th28thAlexander, son of Pattie HultmanConnor, son of Cathy CoudronTony, son of Cheryl McColleyElizabeth, daughter of Corinne RockstadKristina (Nina) Westmoreland, daughter of Cathy & GregSeehuetter, sister of Lisa, Amy & Dan, granddaughter ofHarlan & the late Ellie PlumbJohn, son of Joe & Marlene Keyser, brother of Maureen JohnsonTimothy, son of Diane & Ken OlingerFOREVER LOVED AND MISSED ON THEIR REMEMBRANCE DAYAUGUST3rd4th10th11th12th12th,15th15thAndrea, daughter of Michelle FavillaAdam, son of Mark & Linda Triplett, brother of KatrinaTravis, son of Dave & Theresa KappelBrandon, son of Juli & Al SargentErin, daughter of Colleen ComoJesse, son of Dave RyanAllie, daughter of Bob & Nancy SnowRandi Rae-Ann Backer, daughter of John & Sher Forest3rd6th6th6th12th12th12th14th14th17th20thIan, son of Nancy and John PricePeter, Jr, son of Laurie WachCindy, daughter of Lois JohnsonRyan, son of Angela Ogle and Dave OglePierre LaQue, son of LuAnn MeyerDavid, son of Jim Franzen, brother of Tom FranzenNathan, son of Jaclyn GrayRobert, son of Janice & Mark BairdJennifer, daughter of Sue BroseStacey Tims Morgan, daughter of Rich TimsLaura, daughter of Mary & John Goering17th20th21st22nd23rd24th25th29th29thDavid, son of Peggy & Craig RiggsKarly Wahlin, daughter/stepdaughter of Lois & Gregg SwopeBrad Mathiesen, son and stepson of Sherry & Bob DaughertyCecelia, daughter of Kim & Charlie DuffyRyan, son of Cori ClaughertyLarry, son of Lois NymanKarissa, daughter of Lou & Steve NeumannPatrick Nicholson, son of Denise KiehneKerri Braun, daughter of Barb & Dave DetersSEPTEMBER20th Derek Beauclaire, son of Rhonda Donahue& grandson of Carol & Ralph Bauman21st Cade, son of Jimmy & Dione Bailey22nd Michael Jr., son of Carol & Mike Morgan27th Eric, son of Gary & Kay Yanka, brother of Stacy & Joe Kern27th Lauren, daughter of Mark & Diane Hanson27th Sarah, daughter of Jay & Lisa Thorsland27th Beth, daughter of Mary & Jim Hidy29th Xavier, son of Alex & Angie Steiner, grandson of MarySchmidt, and great grandson of Jeanne Schiffer30th T.J., son of Joseph FehringerBIRTHDAY AND REMEMBRANCE TABLEIf it is the Birthday or Remembrance month of your child, sibling, or grandchild, we invite you to use the Birthday &Remembrance Table at our meetings to display photos or other mementos. We do this to celebrate their lives on theirbirthday (you can bring a birthday cake or other treat to share if you wish), and acknowledge them on theirRemembrance Day with others who understand how important it is for us to do so. Even if you don’t regularly attendmeetings, we invite you to come and share your loved one with us.THE ST. PAUL, MINNESOTA CHAPTER OF THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDSAUGUST-SEPTEMBER 2016PAGE-3
LOVE GIFTS are tax-deductible donations,of any amount, given in memory of ourchildren or other loved ones by family,friends, or others who wish to help withthe work of the St. Paul Chapter. Ourchapter is self-supporting and donations fund our chapteractivities, such as meeting supplies, featured speakers;annual Candle Lighting, special events; resources such asbooks, pamphlets and outreach materials for the newlybereaved families; postage and printing for newsletters andflyers, our Children’s Memorial Garden-to-be (see page 5),refreshments and more. Our chapter would not exist withoutyour help. We gratefully appreciate your support!!!“Love Gifts” were given in loving memory by the following: The Constellation Give Committee for the children,siblings and grandchildren of the St. Paul Chapter Kay & Gary Yanka for son, Eric Ben & Deanna Wheeler for son, River Daniel Bill and Cindy Schmidt for son, Jack Dan & Bonnie Boyum for son, Michael Brian Nefzger for granddaughter, Persephone Cathy & Greg Seehuetter for daughter, NinaWestmoreland, and son Chris Colleen Stabeck for second cousin, NinaWestmoreland Craig & Peggy Riggs for son, David David & Cindy Ryan for son, Jesse David & Colleen Hines for daughter, Erin Denise Kiehne for son, Patrick Nicholson Diane Nelson for son, Joey Fouser, and daughter,Danette Payne Don & Julie Larson for son, Gregory Shawn James Franzen for son, David Jan & Phil Navarro for son, Phillip Joannie Kemling for children, Kellie Kaye & MitchellJohn Joe & Denise Kirby for daughter, Nicole Mary Kathy & Al Lesnau for son, Charlie Kok Funeral Home for the children, siblings andgrandchildren of St. Paul Chapter of TCF Linda Bergan for son, Derek, and grandson, Lawson Nancy & John Price for son, Ian Patty & Dan Kelly for Nina Westmoreland Richard Anderson for Kellie & Mitchell Kemling Cliff & Sandy Romberg for son, Jesse Frank Sheryl Staples for son, Tony Sheryl & Mike Staack for son, Paul Michael Steve & Jeanette Westmoreland for niece Nina Susan Diamond for niece Kellie Kaye and nephewMitchell John Kemling Wendy Lockhart for sons, Michael & ThomasTHE ST. PAUL, MINNESOTA CHAPTER OF THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDSSAVE THE DATE: 2017 TCF NATIONAL CONFERENCE“Rays of Sunshine.Oceans of Hope”Orlando, Florida at the Hilton Bonnet Creek Hotel will be thesite of the 40th Annual National ConferenceJuly 28-30, 2017Amy Sky, Olivia Newton John, and Beth Nielsen Chapmanperforming at the Friday luncheon at the 39th TCF NationalConference in Scottsdale, AZ July 8, 2016Candle Lighting at the TCF National Conference in Scottsdale, AZWalk to Remember on July 10, 2017 at the National ConferenceSPONSORING A NEWSLETTEROur chapter members have an opportunity to remember theirchild, sibling, or grandchild by sponsoring the printingand/or postage of an edition of our newsletter. Thenewsletter is our chapter's largest expense (mailed 4times a year), yet one of our most important ways ofoutreach and support for our present and future members.- Cost of printing the newsletter: approximately 160- 200- Cost of postage: approximately 100 (depending on pages andweight of paper)Your sponsorship will be acknowledged in the newsletter and, ifyou like, you can add a photo of the person you are sponsoring inmemory of. However, you can also choose to write up to a columnsaying a little bit about that loved one who you are sponsoring.
Mailing/Folding Newsletters: Carol & Ralph Bauman Chapter Professional Advisor: Lara Shea of Kok Funeral Home Our sincerest THANKS to the above volunteers who give their hearts and time to make this a supportive, comforting and hopeful place!!! You are invaluable to all of us! TELEPHONE FRIENDS When you need to talk, they are your listening ears
