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COLLEGE STRESSORSHAVE AFFECTS ONRELATIONSHIPSSponsor SpotlightOther than my soul crushing score - it wasthe first time I’ve ever bowled under 100 in mylife. a 9-year old beat us!MattAshleyThe food is really good and the lasertag was awesome!30DailyDates.comHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP ADVICE:FACE TO FACE COMMUNICATIONBy Emily.Barske@iowastatedaily.comIt’s easy to sit behind aphone or a laptop and craftthe messages you want tosay to someone. When itcomes time to meeting faceto face with someone youdon’t know, the situation canbe stressful, nerve-wrackingand anxiety-producing —but essential when starting arelationship.“ There is somethingabout texting where you canedit what you’re saying,” saidDaily Dater Michelle. “Is thatwhat that person is reallythinking or is that just howthey want themselves to beperceived in the situation?”While texting has an important role in communication, meeting face to faceallows deep conversationsand interactions that technology cannot provide. For thisreason, one of the key expectations of the Daily Daters wasthat they meet face to face.“There is time where it’s[texting] helpful if you’re inthe midst of a busy day andyou’re just talking, but whenyou’re actually getting toknow somebody, doing itface to face is definitely better,” Brenton said.Though getting to knowsomebody can be awkwardand uncomfortable at first,JOURNAL ENTRIES:preparation before a date canlimit your stress levels. DailyDaters were provided a list oficebreaker questions as a resource for them to use, whichMichelle and Brenton used onthe date described below.If you aren’t sure whatto say, think through talkingpoints you can tell the otherperson.Come up with a humorous story to tell that lets themknow more about you. Ifyou’re uncomfortable makingthe conversation about you,have a mental list of questionsyou want to ask them.How was meeting in person for Michelle and Brenton?Find out below.Stress andanxiety arecommon human experiences.Studentsexperienceunique stressors during theircollege careersthat can impactacademics, interpersonal reGuest column:lationships andTiffany Iskander,overall wellOutreach coordinator —being.student counseling servicesTransitionto college, new social situations, living with aroommate for the first time, new classes andprofessors or new dating relationships can allbe stressful for a student.When a student is experiencing stress itis especially important to take care of oneself.Engaging in the following activities can helpa student cope with stress: Physical activity Eating a well-balanced diet Obtaining emotional support fromfriends and family Engaging in relaxing activities Sticking to a sleep schedule.There is a difference between everydaystress and anxiety and symptoms that impedea student’s ability to navigate daily life.If you or someone you know experiencesthe following symptoms, professional mentalhealth treatment may be helpful: Feeling tense Worried or dreadful more often than notthroughout the day Consistently avoiding activities as a wayof coping; panic or panic-like symptoms Intense fear of specific situations orthings Anxiety in social situationsVisit 30DailyDates.com to get to knowthe Daily Daters, follow along on theirdates and learn about the date locations.What activity did you and your matchdo?Brenton: “I picked Michelle up at 7to go bowling at Perfect Games. 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IOWA STATE DAILYSELFWednesday, April 8, 201511Student encourageschange in lifestyleBy Katelyn.Sim@iowastatedaily.comCourtesy of ThinkstockTILL DEATH DO US PARTStudy finds serious illness may contribute to divorceBy Bailey.Brooker@iowastatedaily.comA recent study at Iowa Statefound that when a wife gets aserious illness, such as cancer,heart disease, lung disease orstroke, the marriage has a higherchance of ending in divorce.Amelia Karraker, lead author for the study and assistantprofessor of human development and family studies, published the study in the Marchissue of the Journal of Healthand Social Behavior.The study suggested that anonset of a serious illness is likelyto end in divorce but it did notestablish a cause.There has been a lot ofspeculation as to what the maincauses are.Researchers evaluated morethan 2,700 married couples withat least one partner over the ageof 50. Although the study lookedat many aspects of the marriedlife, its main focus was on thecorrelation between illness anddivorce rates.Out of the 2,700 couples,more than 30 percent ended indivorce when the wife or husband got sick.When the wife was theone with a serious illness, divorce rates rose a considerableamount. The husband’s illnessstill ended up in divorce but notnearly as frequent.“This could in part be togender socializing of roles within a relationship. In society,women are taught to be caregivers, especially with loved ones,”said Tiffany Iskander, staff psychologist at Student CounselingServices.Gender roles could affectthe divorce rates, which couldthrow off the marriage in a noticeable way, ending in divorce.Another factor that could putpressure on an existing marriageis if the wife believes she is notreceiving the care she needs.Although this theory wasnot proven, this could be a mainreason why there was such alarge difference among divorcerates when illness approaches.“Significant life events mayalso exacerbate already existingissues within a relationship,”Iskander said.Another idea as to why thedivorce rates go up significantlyafter getting a serious illness isthe wife or husband realizedthey were not happy to beginwith.Whatever the reason is fora divorce, it seems the vows, “insickness and in health” and “tilldeath do us part,” may not applyin this case.As spring has finally surfaced,the mild weather has brought withit the reappearance of physicallyactive. Students are now filling thecampus sidewalks with elevatedheart rates, perspiration on foreheads and earbuds connected tothe latest upbeat pop songs. Formany students, this sight resentfully sends thoughts drifting backin time a few months to New Year’sresolutions that have certainlycome and gone.But perhaps it’s not too late.According to Nicole Scott,senior in kinesiology and health,now is as opportune time as any topick up those avoided trips to thegym, untouched salads and onceagain consider ways to revise unaccomplished goals to better matcha healthy lifestyle.Scott understands firsthandthe difficulty in breaking unhealthyhabits. At age 12, Scott was admitted to the hospital with pancreatitis and informed by doctors sheneeded to make lifestyle changesto avoid sickness because of herhigh levels of cholesterol and fat.She began packing her ownlunches to monitor her nutrition and participating in sportsthroughout middle and highschool. Scott is now studying exercise science while balancingtime commitments as a personaltrainer, coach and group fitnessinstructor.Of course her lifestyle changesdidn’t just happen overnight andScott shared the struggles withcollege-aged habits at the diningcenter, not enough sleep or exercise and consumption of sugarysoda and alcohol. However, twoweeks into her sophomore year,she was back in the hospital againand this time it was much morepainful.“This opened my eyes againand made me make permanentchanges. The piece of advice [doctors] gave me is the healthier youare, the better chances you have toremain pain free and not developchronic diseases because of this,and this is true for anyone,” Scottsaid.Scott again began her journeytoward healthier living by eatinghealthier lunches and participatingon sports teams.“You don’t need to make being healthy very hard. Yes, it willadd a little time to your schedulebut you can make it work,” Scottsaid. “Don’t be afraid of the diningcenters, just be aware.”But eating healthy and getting good nutrition is only half thebattle; physical fitness it just asimportant.Scott admitted she was onceafraid of the weight section at thegym, but after the encouragementof a workout partner, dared thearea.“Physical activity isn’t something that has to be painful ormiserable. Schedule that time todo some stretches, meditation, goon a run [and] lift some weights.It will take your mind off of everything you need to do and keep yourmental health in check as well.”Scott discovered a healthylifestyle gave her better physicalhealth, confidence, more energyand happiness as well.“It’s not just about how youlook, but more about how youfeel,” Scott said. “Chronic diseasesare increasing in prevalence and Itruly believe that being healthy canhelp prevent those and push themoff longer.”What’s special about Scott isnot only her value in herself andher health, but also her care forthose around her as well. She hashelped her own family get on tracktoward wellness by advice, creating meal plans and training herparents from afar.“Encouraging others can betricky but always offer help,” Scottsaid.Scott encourages all ISU students to take time for themselves,but to also not be afraid to encourage others. She said having a partner can make a huge differenceand provides someone to hold theother accountable when life getsbusy or tough.“Anything helps and the sooner you start to develop this lifestyle,the easier and better it will be,”Scott said.

12CLASSIFIEDSWednesday, April 8, 2015EMERGENCY p1Racey said the PlannedParenthood clinic in Amesalso offers family planningservices a few days a week.Birthright of Ames Inc.is another non-profit organization that offers assistance to those who experience any type of pregnancy,whether it is planned or unplanned. All services offeredby the organization are freeand confidential.Kristine Holmes, codirector of Birthright, saidthey help a woman cometo the decision of what shewants to do.“We offer support andfriendship for the woman tohelp her carry her pregnancy,” Holmes said. “We’rehere to help her, give herinformation, listen to her,hold her hand through theentire pregnancy and dowhatever she needs.”The organization isstrictly pro-life, but has noreligious affiliation. Theirmotto and goal for the workthey do is “it is the right ofevery woman to give birth,and the right of every childto be born.”PAUL p1site of riots following theshooting of an unarmedAfrican American teenager. Paul also has met withNAACP leaders and spokenat several historically blackcolleges.“He’s taking a littlebit of a different path thanthe other Republican candidates, trying to appealmore to minority voters,which is a bit out of thetea party mainstream forRepublicans these days,”Shelley said. “He has someinteresting libertarianperspectives. If you closeyour eyes and don’t knowwho’s talking, they caneven sound like they areHolmes said they donot try to make the decisionfor women on whether tokeep the pregnancy or not.“We’re pro-life, sowe’re not ever going to saythey should have an abortion,” Holmes said. “We’rehere to show them how wecan help them have theirbaby and what servicesAmes has. Ultimately, it’sthey’re choice.”Holmes said Birthright’s employees offer theirown form of counseling, butthey do not have any type ofprofessional degree.Birthright is run purelyby volunteers. Since theyare not a clinic, they canonly refer women to healthcare providers.The services of the organization include pregnancy testing as well as legaland medical referrals.According to birthrightofames.org, they alsoprovide information on prenatal development, birthing, child care, child safety,career development andhousing.Holmes said Birthrightcontinues to provide services after the child is born,coming from a progressiveDemocrat.”The younger Paul hasembraced some of his fathers staunchly libertarianviews, but has also recentlydistanced himself fromsome positions, like military spending. While Roncalled for a massive reduction in military spending overseas and a lighterrole abroad, Paul has recently supported airstrikesagainst ISIS and offered anamendment to the GOPbudget to increase defensespending around 75 billion.“I think Rand is counting on his father’s charismatic appeal to libertarian voters, and actually to515.294.4123including free baby clothesand referrals to child careproviders and health careproviders.Birthright also referswomen to adoption agencies if a women choosesnot to keep her child afterpregnancy.Holmes said she believes it is important forBirthright to be availablefor pregnant women, andBirthright provides counseling to those who choose toterminate a pregnancy.“We’re a crisis pregnancy center, but most ofthe time it’s not a crisis forthese women because it’smore accepted in society,”Holmes said. “It’s not always, and sometimes it isa crisis and that’s why it’simportant we’re here.”Planned Parenthood,located blocks away fromIowa State’s campus onHayward Ave., is anotheroption for women whoexperience an unplannedpregnancy.Racey said when awoman has a positive pregnancy test, they do “options counseling” at thattime to let them know thereyoung voters, as well, tohelp him through roughstops,” Shelley said.Paul will hit the campaign trail immediately,traveling to early primaryand caucus states including Iowa, New Hampshire,Nevada and South Carolina this week.Paul will be in Iowathis Friday, appearing atthe University of Iowa’sMemorial Union in IowaCity at 10 a.m.Along with Paul, onlyU.S. Sen. Ted Cruz, R-Texas, has declared his candidacy for 2016, but U.S.Sen. Marco Rubio, R-Fla.,is expected to jump in therace next Monday at anevent in Miami.are three options available:adoption, keeping the childor termination of the pregnancy.“We present the patients with all three options,no matter what,” Racey said.The clinic in Ames offers medication abortions,but does not offer surgicalabortions.Medication abortions,or abortion pills are used upto 63 days after the first dayof a woman’s last period.The pill works to block thetransmission of the hormone progesterone, causing the lining of the uterusto break down until the embryo leaves the body.However, Planned Parenthood also offers resources for women who choose tocarry the baby to term.The clinic works withthe Avalon Center, an adoption agency based out ofMason City.Dana Stuehling, healtheducator at Planned Parenthood, said the clinicalso offers comprehensivepregnancy services including prenatal care up to 19weeks.Stuehling said one ofthe things they pride themselves on is making surepeople know all of their options.“We help the peoplewho comes to us, regardless of their age, regardlessof where they are in life,”Stuehling said. “If they arepregnant, we say ‘here areyour options and we’re herewhen you make that decision.’”Planned Parenthoodworks under rules of strictconfidentiality for its patients and will not releaseinformation if the patientdoes not allow it.They also work withpatients in terms of payment, working on a slidingpay scale based on incomeand insurance.“Our goal is really toprovide services to anyonewho needs them and thatincludes the people whocan’t afford that servicebased on lack of insurance,”Stuehling said.Prevention in the first placeThielen Health Centeron campus offers free pregnancy testing, but does notoffer any sort of prenatalcare. One way to preventunwanted pregnancies isthrough education.Stuehling said PlannedParenthood can providethat education and outreach, adding that they takea more comprehensive viewof what sexuality is and educate on any of those topics.“That includes anatomy, birth control, sexually transmitted infections,”Stuehling said. “We also talkabout values and healthyrelationships, communication, dating violence andsexual assault.”Raman said the doctorsat Thielen also offer a veryindividualized and personalbirth control counseling.“We know in this country about half of pregnancies is unplanned, which is ahuge number,” Raman said.“That has a lot of implications for women’s health,infant health, how womenare going to do socio-economically, etc.”Raman said she has theluxury of more time, allowing her to start someone outon the right foot as far as thebest method of birth controlis for her.THERAPY p1this type of pain,” Brintonsaid. “That’s actually partof the advocacy is helpingsurvivors sue on the basisof consumer fraud.”Along with his goal ofending the practice of conversion therapy, Brintonsaid he is a large proponent of seeking out mental health, even throughtherapists.“I think a lot of survivors don’t go because it justbrings back the memoriesof being in that torture. Weare working on building anetwork of therapists whoknow how to help aid therecovery process,” he said.“Everyone should be focused on finding a mentalhealth aspect in their lives.”Jo Rod, a member ofthe Ames community for 54years, said her husband is amental health professionaland he had a lot of experience with gay childrencoming into his office.“He always thoughtit wasn’t a c

nurse practitioner at Thielen, said Thielen offers "top tier" birth control, which is one of the more effective methods and includes intrauterine devices and implants. Thielen also offers a variety of other services, including sexually transmitted infection testing and pregnancy testing. These services include a range of birth control, such as