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IntroductionCongratulations. You’ve taken the step most peopleare too afraid to take.What you’re about to learn is the coming together ofwhat has taken years of work to create.Ever since I decided to get this area of my life handledI have been searching vigorously for the best methodsI could use to fight premature ejaculation.I have tried literally every method you could think ofto get this solved and I am now at a point where Iknow what works and have some amazing results.In this guide I will give you only the most potentmethods and techniques you can easily apply to helpyou start lasting longer in bed.I want you to approach the contents of this book withan open mind. What you will learn here you may nothave heard before. Some of the stuff might sounddifferent or weird, but the bottom line is that itworks. I’m asking you to try out what I suggest. If itdoesn’t work for you then drop it and try anothertechnique. What I do guarantee is that if you apply allof the techniques here you will see measurableresults.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 2
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ContentsIntroductionCopyright WarningMedical DisclaimerContentsWho am I?How to use this guideFocus on one method at a timeSetting goalsFocus on what you want, not what youdon’t wantBe very specificSet a deadlineActions to takeTechniques for ending premature ejaculationThe psychological approach to ending prematureejaculationA change of perspective - it’s just sexArousal anchorsUsing NLP to control arousalNLP exerciseWhat happens if I still ejaculate prematurely?Women can like premature ejaculation?The physical approach to ending premature ejaculationLevels of arousalArousal level 1Arousal level 2Arousal level 3Arousal level 4Arousal level 5How to recognize the onset of level 4Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 8
How to masturbate to increase time in bed41Breaking the “fast masturbation habit”42Simulating sex43Treat it like sex44Use lubrication44Get a vagina simulator45Consider using a condom45Use the techniques in this guide46How to use your breathing to control arousal47The perfect way to breathe?49Using your diaphragm50Inhale through your nose and exhale through yourmouth51Applying this during sex52Lowering your arousal levels using breathing52Using your PC muscle to increase level 3 arousal time 54The importance of the PC muscle55Using your PC muscle to stop ejaculation58Timing your PC muscle contraction59The Ejaculation Block Exercise60Strengthening your PC muscle61Rest is very important63Warm-ups63Breathing65Flaccid or erect?65Mini-flexes65Big-Flexes66What to do during sex to last much longer68Choose positions wisely and last longer69Fast ejaculation positions69Medium ejaculation positions70Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 6
Long lasting positionsSuper-fast ejaculation positionsChanging positions to buy timeThe “Full Thrust” stimulation reducerJust go slowGet your partner to orgasm within seconds of sexTeasing your partner until they’re dying for youWithdrawing a kissTeasing nipple lickTeasing your insertionUsing this approach consistentlyWhy this technique is so goodHow to get harder erectionsThe big-flexes exercise while erectGet more physical exerciseImprove your dietThe cheat sheet – tips for instant longer lasting sexChange positionsMasturbate before sexUrinate before sexGive her oral pleasure half way throughGo very slowUse long lasting condomsUse lots of lubricationGo into the one of the “long lasting positions”described earlierTouch the tip of your tongue to the top of yourmouthTo your successP.S. - More sex secretsJack Grave 2009-2012Page 0909293
Who am I?Before we get started you might want to know a littlebit more about who I am teaching this information.I am a professional sex advisor and coach. Whatstarted out as an interest in the workings of thehuman body slowly developed into a passion tounderstand as much as I could.Over the years I have gathered masses of knowledgein how to improve many different areas of our privatelives and now like to teach the best of what I havelearned.I don’t pretend that I know everything and I remindmyself that I am still a student. What I am committedto doing is helping improve the quality of as manypeople’s lives as I can through teaching in the smallarea in which I am an expert.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 8
How to use this guideThere are many different ways in which you cantackle premature ejaculation. Some methods will bebetter suited to some than others. What I have donein this guide is include a whole range of the differenttechniques you can employ to help last longer in thebedroom.As I will explain in more depth in a minute the bestthing to do is try out the methods one at a time andsee what the results are like for you.This guide is structured in a way that you don’tnecessarily have to read it from front to finish. Youcan dip into different techniques if one appeals moreto you than another.I do, however, recommend you read the whole of this“How to use this guide” section first. Here I havegone into detail on how you should approach usingthe techniques I will give you. This could be the mostimportant section you read, because if you don’tunderstand what it takes to achieve a goal and makeit a lasting change then I could give you all thetechniques in the world and ultimately you would notbe able to make the results you want a reality.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 9
So here are some of the techniques I use to makeachieving goals and making changes as easy and likelyas possible and how to make sure they last.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 10
Focus on one method at a timeI remember when I first came across information likethis.I got so excited I tried to do everything at once so Iwould have it finished and mastered by the end of theday.Of course within a few days I was burned out and nolonger motivated.I now know this is not the best way to approachimproving an area of my life.The single best way of approaching these techniquesis one at a time. Try out the technique and practiceuntil you get it right.Then keep practicing it until it becomes anunconscious habit. If you don’t follow this crucial stepand move onto trying a different technique beforemaking the first one a habit, then in a few weeks timeyou will probably notice that you are no longerapplying the first technique and your results in bedwill reflect this.The human mind is designed to consciously focus onone thing at a time.Remember when learning how to drive a car? Ilearned to drive with a stick shift. When I first got inJack Grave 2009-2012Page 11
that car I didn’t know what was going on. I was tryingto stop from crashing into a wall, not drive too fast,change gears, not stall, check my mirrors and take inwhat the instructor was telling me. It took me foreverbefore I could drive safely on the road with othercars.Learning to control premature ejaculation will be thesame for you if you try to apply every technique atonce.The best thing to do is focus on one approach at atime. Do that one approach so often that it becomesnatural and then move onto the next.Soon you will be using all the different techniquestogether without even thinking about it and you willbe in full control in the bedroom.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 12
Setting goalsThe next most important thing you can do is set apowerful goal. Now I can see that it might betempting to skip a chapter like this and head straightto the techniques, but this is a very importantfundamental skill.If you don’t set the correct goals you can easily losemotivation very fast. It’s not hard to have lots ofmotivation at the beginning when you pick up a guidelike this, but with an effective goal you can ensurethat you sustain that motivation for a long period oftime.This sustained motivation is absolutelyessential if you’re really going to make last long in thebedroom a lasting change in your life.So my top tips when it comes to setting goals that youwill actually achieve (not vague fantasy dreams) arethe following.Focus on what you want, not what you don’t wantThe problem with setting a goal of what you don’twant is that it means you’re spending time thinkingabout and focusing on what you don’t want. Themore time you spend thinking about what you don’twant the more likely you are to subconsciously endup moving towards it. Not only that, it’s hardlymotivating to set a goal like “I don’t want to ejaculateJack Grave 2009-2012Page 13
in less than 2 minutes”, because there’s no pleasureto move towards.If you set your goal in the positive your conscious andsubconscious mind will have a place to go. The moretime you spend focusing on it the more likely it is tobecome a reality for you.Be very specificThere’s a big difference between the goals “lastlonger in bed” and “I am able to last more than 30minutes, 4 out of 5 times in the bedroom”.With the first one you will probably not feel verymotivated. It is hardly inspiring to set a vague goalbecause it just doesn’t seem real.On the other hand, the second goal is very specific.This makes you much more inspired because there’s areal sense of achievability about the goal because youcan actually measure it. The fact that you canmeasure it means you know exactly where you arenow in relation to the goal and exactly where youneed to go to achieve it. The beauty of a measurablegoal is that you know when you’ve achieved it andyou can get a real sense of achievement when youmake it.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 14
With a vague goal like the first you can never feel likeyou’ve really achieved it, because you’ll just keeptrying to last longer and longer.Set a deadlineOnce you set a specific goal you need to set adeadline. Without a deadline it’s just a dream. It’seasy to set a goal like “I am a millionaire”, but withouta deadline you’re just giving yourself the illusion thatyou’re doing something to improve your life, when infact you’re not really taking any action.When you set a deadline it suddenly becomes obviousthat you need to take some action in order for thingsto change before you meet your deadline.For example, if you last less than 2 minutes in thebedroom and you want to last over 30 minutes 4 outof 5 times and you want to make this change within amonth, then it’s pretty obvious you need to takesome drastic action to make this change. You aregoing to have to take consistent action to makeconstant incremental improvements in your time inbed. In the first week you could focus on masteringone method, which may add 5 minutes in bed. Thesecond week you could focus on a different techniquewhich may add 10 minutes in bed and on and on.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 15
This is one of those things you have to test out toexperience the real impact of what I’m talking about.So I urge you to put these concepts into practicebefore criticizing or dismissing them.Actions to take1. Ask yourself “if it was possible, how long would Ilike to last in bed?”a. Don’t limit yourself. Pick a how long youwould like to last in bed2. Make this your goal3. Make sure it’s measurablea. Like I mentioned earlier, you’ve got to knowyou can be sure when you’ve actuallyachieved your goal4. Define it in the present tensea. This is really important, because if youdescribe the goal in the future tense thenyou’re directing your subconscious mind tothink it’s something you will never havebecause you will always be moving towardsit, but never actually have it.5. Make sure it’s stated in the positivea. You’ve got to be moving towards your goal,not away from it6. Set a deadline to the goalJack Grave 2009-2012Page 16
a. Depending on how ambitious your goal isyou may wish to set it at anything betweena month to several months.b. You should set your deadline ambitiousenough so that you instantly begin to feel asense of urgency to start taking action. Thepresence of the deadline should make youfeel like you’ve got some changes to makeand work to do.c. If you’ve set a very ambitious goal the bestthing to do is to small chunk it into smallergoals and set deadlines on those as well.This will keep you motivated and remindyou that your big goal really is achievable.7. Create a plana. Now take your goal and think backwards intime. Think what would be the mini goal ormilestone I would achieve before achievingmy main goal. What would be the mini goalI achieve before achieving that mini goal?And so forth b. Keep doing this until you get back to a goalthat is immediately in front of you.c. Your action steps to plan are those that takeyou from one mini goal to the nextd. Read through this guideJack Grave 2009-2012Page 17
e. Once you’ve read through this guide youcan pick various techniques that you willwant to master which will take you fromone mini goal to the next.8. Start todaya. Hopefully the quality of your goal is so goodthat you’re itching to get startedb. Get started today and don’t put anything offc. A rule of thumb is “if you don’t dosomething or make a commitment outsideof yourself today there is no guarantee youwill ever do it.”Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 18
Techniques for ending premature ejaculationNow that you know how to make any change apermanent one let me get down to the varioustechniques you can employ to help you last longer inthe bedroom.I have split the techniques up into two mainapproaches; the psychological approach and thephysical approach.If you want complete control over your ejaculation inthe bedroom you will have to become a master ofboth. Enjoy Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 19
The psychological approach to ending prematureejaculationPremature ejaculation occurs when you are soaroused that there is nothing you can do to stopyourself from ejaculating. It happens almostautomatically.This intense level of arousal can happen because ofone of two reasons. Either the arousal is the result ofphysical stimulation or the arousal comes from thethought patterns inside your head.By mastering the thought patterns in your head youcan regain control of your levels of arousal.When you gain control of your levels of arousal youwill have control over when you ejaculate.So the aim of this section of the guide is to give yousome new perspectives and techniques that will helpyou gain more control over your thought patterns.With control over your thought patterns you will gaincontrol over your levels of arousal and therefore alsoover your ejaculation.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 20
A change of perspective - it’s just sexA common cause of premature ejaculation is buildingup sex to be this great big event in your head.As you slowly work up towards the event you canprobably feel yourself getting more and more excited.You’re thinking about how amazing it’s going to feelto be inside her. You’re probably thinking about howattractive or hot she is. You’re probably thinkingabout the satisfaction of finally breaking all the sexualtension.All the thoughts like this combined together will soonhave you shaking with excitement before having sex.I know I used to feel this way, especially when I wasyounger. The build-up is so intense that when itfinally comes down to it you’re so excited that you’reliterally waiting to blow.This unfortunately is one of the big problems when itcomes to premature ejaculation.If you make sex out to be this tremendous event thenwhen the time finally comes there really is nothingyou can do to save yourself from exploding on entry.If you want to last longer you need to find a way tocontrol your arousal before you even begin starting tohave sex.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 21
One of the best ways of controlling these intenselevels of arousal is to change your perspective on sex.You cannot afford to be thinking that sex is thismassive event where you lose complete control.You need to realize that sex is just sex.People have been having sex for millions of years andit’s no big deal. These millions of people seem tohave survived the process OK. You wouldn’t be hereif they hadn’t.The bottom line is that sex is a very normal andnatural thing and is something that just happens andis nothing to get super super excited about.Most people have sex more than a thousand times intheir lives and some people have sex with more thana thousand different people in their lives. The truth isthat it’s really not that bigger deal.You’ve got to go in with the attitude that whateverhappens this time you have sex; it’s only going to takeup one insignificant fraction of time in your entire life.So relax.The woman you are with has probably had sex beforeand she has probably had sex with some guys whowere incredibly bad at it.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 22
The fact of the matter is that after reading a guide likethis you will probably one of the best guys she hasever slept with.And if your situation happens to be that the womanhas never slept with anyone else before then she hasnothing to compare you to, so relax. She has no ideahow long it’s “normal” to last in bed.You might not be aware of this, but the average timefor a guy to last in bed with a woman is about 5-6minutes. And that’s average! Think of the some ofthe guys she would have been with that would havelasted a lot less than that.After reading and applying what’s in this guide youwill be shattering the average time in bed.What I am trying to get at with what I’ve just said isthat sex is really no big deal.The second you catch yourself getting super excitedabout having sex, just remind yourself that it’s one ofthose natural things that happens all the time and it’snothing to get worked up about.It’s important to realize that it’s no big deal, becausewhen you do you can take control of your arousal andbecome more relaxed.If you’re more relaxed you’ll last longer.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 23
Arousal anchorsAn anchor is an important technical term used todescribe things like events, actions, places orthoughts that carry a strong emotional association foran individual.For example some people have a strong emotionalassociation or “anchor” to heights. When that personsees they are high from the ground they have a strongemotional reaction of fear.The height is therefore a strong emotional associationor anchor for them.This concept of strong emotional associations oranchors also applies to the bedroom.Every person has something different that gets themaroused.For some people just thinking of Jessica Alba will havethem creaming their underwear.For others when they think specifically of intercoursethey get super-aroused.For others it’s touching a breast, stroking a woman’shair or smelling a woman’s neck.It’s different for everyone.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 24
The reason I’m telling you this is because it’simportant for you to realize what causes you to feelintensely aroused.If this intensity of arousal is strong enough you mayhave an arousal anchor. This is a specific event,action or thought that instantly triggers a strongemotional reaction of arousal.Take a minute now to grab a pen and paper andanswer the following question.“What specific event makes me super-aroused?”I’ve already given you some examples above of whatkind of things it might be.What you’re looking for is a specific anchor; it couldbe anything from when a woman touches you in acertain place or when you feel a certain part of awoman’s body, or when you think of a very specificimage.What you’ve got to be sure to do is accurately identifywhat the anchor is.Once you’ve figured out the anchor you can take thenext step.You have to stop this anchor from occurring.Remember, one of the most powerful ways to controlejaculation is to control your arousal.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 25
If you can stop yourself from getting uncontrollablyaroused you can stop yourself from ejaculatingprematurely.So, if for example you get super-aroused when yousmell a woman’s neck then what you need to do isstop smelling a woman’s neck before you have sex.Or if say, you get super-horny when you vividlypicture yourself having intercourse in your head thenyou need to change the pictures running through yourhead before you have sex (more on that in the nextsection).The technique sounds elementary but it really works.The chances are that you have something specific thatstrongly triggers your arousal.It might not always be obvious what it is, but whenyou identify it and then eliminate it you can begin totake control of your levels of arousal.And like I’ve said before, if you control your arousalyou can control your premature ejaculation.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 26
Using NLP to control arousalYou may or may not have heard of a science calledNeuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).NLP is a study of how language and pictures in yourbrain affect your nervous system.What it really comes down to is a study of thepictures and sounds you make inside your head thatcause you to take the actions you take and feel theemotions you feel.By learning to take control of those pictures andsounds you can take control of your actions andemotions.There’s a lot more to NLP than I can get through inthis guide so I recommend you find out more,because some of the principles can really help withpremature ejaculation.What I will give you here is an example of some NLPtechniques you can use to control your arousal.The aim of the exercise is to change how youexperience sex inside your head so that you no longerbuild the event up to be an incredibly tense andarousing experience that leaves you out of control.Instead you will experience sex as a pleasurable eventwhere you are in full control.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 27
This process uses visualization techniques to changethe thoughts that go through your head as you buildup to and experience sex. By changing thesethoughts you change how long you last in bed.If you’re not used to NLP or haven’t heard of it thisexercise may seem a little different, but this type ofexercise has proven to make massive change inpeople consistently. It is also one of the techniquesused by NLP practitioners to eliminate strong phobiasin people.Here’s what you should do Find a quiet relaxing place when you have 5-10minutes free and do the following exercise all the waythrough. (Read the exercise through beforeattempting it)NLP exercise1. Think back to a time when you were about tohave sex and you were super-aroused andexcited. Take a minute to really get back to thattime and experience the moment.a. What were you saying to yourself?i. Did you have a specific phrase runningthrough your head at the time?ii. Where you saying something over andover again?Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 28
b. What were you picturing in your head?i. Where was it? (In front, above, to theleft, etc.)ii. How big was it?iii. How bright was it?iv. How vivid was it?2. Now imagine you are sitting in a theatre and onstage you see yourself on stage about to havesex. The person on stage (you) is experiencingexactly what you described above, except nowyou are watching that person experience thepictures and sounds from a distance.3. As you sit in the theatre just watch yourselfexperience those pictures and sounds. You’regoing to start changing how you see, feel andexperience that event in your head.a. Take that person (still you) on the stage andmake the experience black and white.b. Now play the experience backwards as if itwere a movie being rewound.c. Run it backwards faster and faster.d. Now play some funny music in thebackground, like circus music for examplee. Now add all the colors of the rainbow to theimagef. Keep rerunning it backwards faster andfaster.Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 29
4. If you mess around with the event for longenough in enough different ways, soon whenyou think of the event you should no longer findyourself being as aroused as you were justbefore sex. This process has literally changedthe thought patterns in your brain and if youwere in that situation again you should no longerfeel such intense feelings of arousal.5. Now see a new you on the stage in the samesituation – about to have sexa. This new you is aroused but in control. Youare enjoying yourself and you arecompletely in control of your arousal. Youare aroused, but not so much that you areready to blowb. What were you saying to yourself this time?i. Do you have a different specific phraserunning through your head at thetime?ii. Are you saying something over andover again?c. What are you picturing in your head?i. Where is it? (In front, above, to theleft, etc.)ii. How big is it?iii. How bright is it?iv. How vivid is it?Jack Grave 2009-2012Page 30
P.S. - More sex secrets 93 . Jack Grave 2009-2012 Page 8 Who am I? . The human mind is designed to consciously focus on one thing at a time. . easy to set a goal like “I am a millionaire”, but without
