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GET IN HER MINDGET IN HER BEDTaylor RyanNick Andrewswww.GetInHerMind.com
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bedwww.GetInHerMind.comEmail: Mailbag@GetInHerMind.comNick Andrews: NickAndrews@GetInHerMind.comTaylor Ryan: TaylorRyan@GetInHerMind.comDirector of Marketing: Gary NickelsonVice President of Operations: Ryan LambertCopyright 2008 by Brownfish PublishingAll rights reserved.ISBN 978-0-9816100-0-9LCCN 2008929162Printed in the United States of America
AcknowledgementsNick: “This is for all the girls I was too scared to evermake a move on.”Taylor: “And for all the girls I did make a move on.”iii
ContentsIntroduction to Body LanguageEye ContactThe Alpha MaleProximity: Moving Between the ZonesYES/NO: Picking Up On Her SignalsPUSH and PULL19274155The Pick UpApproach and OpenThe Art of ConversationABCs of ClosingRejection7591105119NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)What Is It?ProcessingMirroringAnchoring12913314114910 Tips1 – First Dates2 – Creative Places to Meet Women3 – Day Game4 – Date Warp5 – Style6 – Cold Reading7 – Quick Date Dinners8 – Easy Magic and Bar Tricks9 – Drink Recipes10 – Drinking Games161167171175179189203209215221v
Introduction to Body Language
Eye ContactOn my move across the country, I had an amazing encounter, at a rest stop no less, and it all started with alittle glance. As I was coming out of the bathroom, I sawa girl sitting in a van. She was in the driver’s seat, thepassenger seat was empty, and two children were in theback. When I walked by her vehicle I glanced in her direction and saw her looking at me. I looked back andcontinued to hold eye contact. She held eye contact aswell, and gave me a little smile. As I drove off she lookedat me again. Now I was thinking that was kind of interesting and what a weird place for this to happen. Awhile down the road she passed me and I realized it washer mother that she was waiting for. At this point I waspissed at myself for letting this opportunity go. I decided I was going to redeem myself. Being that therewere two women and two little children in the car I knewit wouldn't be long until they made another stop. Sureenough about ten miles down the road they pulled off at1
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bedthe next rest area; I followed. When I got out, I wasagain met with her adoring eyes. I asked her, "Are youfollowing me?" She laughed and we started talking.Within a few minutes I found out that she was actuallystaying at a campground nearby. Under normal circumstances I would have continued driving for at leastanother eight hours, but I wasn't going to pass this up.I was actually curious to see how far I could take thingswith her. I followed them to their campsite, ate hot dogswith her and her family, and we ended up spendingmost of the night together. As for my curiosity, I wasrewarded. It took most of the tools in my pick up skillset, but like many girls before, she too ended up in mybed. It all started with a little look.The single most important aspect of being goodwith women, picking up girls, is eye contact. The concepts you will learn in this book all center around eyecontact and the signals women give. Why is eye contactso important? It is how we know a woman is interested.Anything and everything you do in interacting withwomen is directly related to body language and eye contact. Eye contact with any woman will tell you everything you need to know.All body language is important, but eye contactand maybe a little smile will tell you what you reallywant to know. It tells you, “I’m interested in you and I’mavailable.” In the game of pick up that’s all you reallyneed to know. Now of course, you will use body language to do a variety of things: get her interested in you,create and continue to build sexual chemistry, skew aninteraction in your favor to get what you want, all donewith body language, but her eyes are what are telling2
Introduction to Body Language: Eye Contactyou, “I’m interested and I’m available.” If you want to begood with women, this is the foundation to build yourgame upon.Situation: You are terrible with women. You arestanding around a bar table with a couple of friendswhen you noticed a hot ass girl across the room.Imean gorgeous. She walks up to you and says, "Thereis something about you, I'm not sure what it is but I'dreally like to get to know you. I’m not dating anyone atthe moment. Would you like to go someplace quiet andget to know each other?" You go off in the corner withyour future girlfriend or potential bed buddy while yourfriends wonder how the hell you just pulled this girl.She appears to be way out of your league, but somehow,you, this guy who knows nothing about women, justpulled the best looking girl in the bar.That would be great if that is how it worked withwomen wouldn't it? They come up to you and tell youexactly how they feel. Well that is exactly how it works.She tells you those things with her eyes, with her legs,with her arms, and with her body movements. She issending out signals with her body language. When youcatch a glance from across the room and she holds eyecontact she is saying, “I’m attracted to you, I’m available, I want you to talk to me!” You can reassure thatsignal by dropping a little smile on her. If she smilesback she has just told you, "I am interested in you,come over here and talk to me so we can get to knoweach other."In face to face conversation, the words you sayonly account for ten percent of the total message. Thirty3
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bedpercent is vocal, describing your tone of voice and inflection. The rest of the message is nonverbal. Sixty percent of what you say is done through non verbal communication; body language. As hard as you try to hideyour feelings towards a person, your body language willbetray you and tell the world how you really feel.Yes, it would be nice if that beautiful blondeacross the room would approach you. In our society,that just doesn't happen. It's not socially acceptable fora woman to approach a man. Ultimately it is up to theguy to make the first move, but in reality a woman willhave already given over a dozen signals before most guysmake their first move. Women send out these signals toattract guys they are interested in, but are able to saveface by avoiding public rejection. If a guy turns downher signal of advance, there was no harm done, she wasnot on public display. She does not have to take thatwalk of shame back to her seat after getting the coldshoulder. She leaves that up to the guy, if he is interested he will pick up on her signals and come talk toher, he takes all the risk and embarrassment. Theproblem is, most guys don’t know what to look for. Mostguys don't pick up on those signals of advance she issending.Another problem can occur at this point. Thefear of rejection sinks in. You read the signs but yourlack of confidence is holding you back. You start to askyourself, "Is she really interested, what if I go over thereand she ignores me, what if I misread the signs, what if Ican’t think of anything to say?" Yeah, what if? What ifyou grew a pair of balls, and instead of asking yourselfall of those questions, you wasted no time worrying and4
Introduction to Body Language: Eye Contactjust approached her? Well then you might find yourselfin her bed at the end of the night. The guy who is tooafraid of rejection will never make the move to go talk tothat girl. He will continue to struggle with women andnever find the one that he wants. What if there was away to be certain that this would not happen. By learning the signals that women give to men, we can increaseour chances so much, that rejection becomes a non issue. The single most important aspect of being able topick up signals is eye contact. It is how we know awoman is interested. Eye contact with any woman willtell you everything you need to know. Here are somethings to look for:The Extended GazeAnytime you lock eyes with a woman it is a goodthing, it shows you are interested. If she is interested inyou she will lock eyes and hold her gaze for a second ortwo longer than what would be considered a normalglance. Once you catch her gaze narrow your eyes, andI do mean narrow, not squinting or some other dumbass eye movement. Narrow your eyes and hold eye contact. Holding eye contact or a gaze is different thanstarring. You don’t want to find yourself starring at awoman. If you wait too long to approach her, you canget trapped into starring at a woman the rest of thenight. What happens is you continually try to reinforcethe fact that she is interested in you and you make eyecontact over and over again. After three or four timesshe begins to lose interest until she is no longer interested. Once you get that initial eye contact approachher.The Checkout5
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her BedA woman will check out a guy just as much as aguy checks out a woman. The difference between thetwo is that the woman is more subtle in her approachand it can be very hard to pick up on. When you checkout a girl what happens, you see her face then quicklyovert your eyes to her chest. You look back to her eyeshoping she didn’t just catch you checking out her tits,and then move your eyes over the rest of her body.Women do the same thing but in a more subtle way.They start at the face then move downwards checkingout the rest of the package. If she smiles then you knowshe likes what she saw. Now when she is checking youout, there isn't a whole lot she can see. She is lookingfor a few things though. She is going to look at yourhands and your feet. She wants to see that you are wellgroomed, and other than your clothes, the condition ofyour hands and fingernails is a good way to judge. Sheis also going to look at your choice of shoe for reasonsway more in depth I care to discuss. Bottom line, whenshe looks you up and down and smiles, it's time to approach her even if the first words out of your mouth are,“GoFuckAFish!” She may even think that’s cute.Dilated PupilsWhen we see something we like, the pupils of oureyes dilate and grow larger. This holds true for bothmen and women. This is an uncontrollable physiological response and we have no control over this happening. You can tell if a woman is attracted to you by observing her pupils. Studies of photographs have shownthat people with dilated pupils are rated more attractive.Magazines enhance the pupils of their models in theirads to increase their attractiveness. Ever wonder why acandlelit dinner with wine is considered the most ro6
Introduction to Body Language: Eye Contactmantic meal. The dim light dilates the pupils of bothindividuals, making each appear more attractive. Whenwe drink alcohol our eyes dilate, increasing the effecteven more. Familiar with the term, “bedroom eyes?”This is the same effect; you are in a dimly lit atmospherewith a woman you desire. The pupils have dilated thuscreating the effect. One thing to think about when trying to gauge if your new friend is attracted to you, isthat the lighting will affect the size of her pupils. If it istoo dim the pupils will dilate, and if it is bright the pupils will restrict in size. Only use this trick in a regularly lit environment, not the bar.BlinkingDoes she blink at you? Blinking draws attentionto her eyes where she can attract and hold your gaze.The FlickerThe flicker can be seen after you have been talking with the target for a while, building sexual chemistry. When you look into the target’s eyes you will seethem flickering back and forth, looking from one eye tothe other, as if she is trying to figure out if you are interested in her. When you see this, kiss her, she has justgiven you approval.As you are out looking for targets, survey theroom with your eyes. When you find a girl you like, holdyour gaze in her direction. When she looks at you continue to keep eye contact for four to five seconds. If sheis interested she will respond, if not forget her and moveon to the next target. Once you get that look do nothesitate, approach her and start up a conversation. Ifyou are unsure of the signal, continue to catch her eye7
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bedabout every five minutes, no need to stare. Every timeshe holds eye contact with you, she reaffirms her interest in you. After the second or third glance, make yourmove otherwise she will start to lose interest waiting foryou.All body language is important, but eye contactand a little smile will get you far. It tells you, “I’m interested in you and I’m available.” Of course, you will usebody language to do a variety of other things such asgetting her interested in you, creating and building sexual chemistry, and skewing the interaction in your favor. If you want to be good with women, you need toknow it all starts with your eyes.8
The Alpha MaleI hear a girl ask Nick, "Hey what’s your friend’s name?"He replied, "Taylor." She continues, "Does he have agirlfriend?" At this point I turn around and say to themystery woman, "Why don’t you ask his friend?" Iended up dating this girl for few months. I found outfrom her later that the reason she approached me wasthe way I walked in. We were in a group with about fiveother guys and she said we all walked in looking goodand having a good time. I distinctly remember her saying, "You walked in like you owned the place." She obviously picked me out of the group, but we all lookedlike somebody worth getting to know. Based on ourbody language alone, we were interesting, and appearedto be an attractive fun group of guys.Body language is king in the game of pick up andin everyday life. Remember only ten percent of what you9
Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bedsay comes across in the message, the rest is body language. What you say is directly tied to your body language. If you are displaying confident body language,the dialog in your conversation will be coming out in aconfident manner. You won’t be tripping over yourwords. The words will be seemingly meaningless
when you noticed a hot ass girl across the room. I mean gorgeous. She walks up to you and says, "There is something about you, I'm not sure what it is but I'd really like to get to know you. I’m not dating anyone at the moment. Would you like to go someplace quiet and get to know each other?" You go off in the corner with your future girlfriend or potential bed buddy while your friends .
