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Positive thinkingPositive ThinkingTrain Your Mind ForSuccess AndHappinessFrancisco Bujanwww.vitalcoaching.comwww.vitalcoaching.com-1-
Positive thinkingContentsIntro 12Part 1 - Mind dynamics 13What is self talk and how to make it work for you? 14Mind sets 15How inspiration and influences reach you 17What are your core beliefs 19Thoughts, emotions and feelings 20What is a feeling? 22What is your mindscape 24Your empowering networks 25I’ll be direct, okay? 26The secret of success and happiness 30Every action generates a result 32Your quest 34What is a negative emotion? 36This is a battle 37How to embrace change and renewal 39What to do if you feel lack of support 41Happiness is a choice! 43Happiness is your new territory 46Your spirit is connected 48What is your Universal Identity 49How to stand between your past and your future 50www.vitalcoaching.com-2-
Positive thinkingPart 2 – Powerful strategies to shift your mind set 51Connect with positive streams 52Wake up your mind power 55Protect your mind space 56Energize your being 57Love, respect and positive outlook on life 58Get rid of what holds you back 60What to do first when you are trapped in a negative mind set 66Tackle the real challenge 68Part 3 – Negative thoughts? – Why? 69What is negative thinking? 70Negative thinking as positive force 71The "positive power" behind negative thinking 74Why it happens 79Why it hurts you 80Solving your real challenge 81Part 4 – Power dynamics 84How to strengthen your emotional foundation 85Power kick 88What is your emotional foundation? 89Find your power 92How to build up conquering power 9411 steps to find your conquering power 96What is the challenge? 98www.vitalcoaching.com-3-
Positive thinkingWake up your personal power 102You are the master of your mind 105Master your nature link 109Gaining back control over what is yours 112Where to start 114Are you resisting power? 115Unleash your power 118Clear your mind channels 120Let your instincts do the work 122Find your destiny 1255 key mind powers 126Types of power 129Types of personal power 132Freedom of thought 135Values and ethics 138Power definition 140Part 5 – Power building 143Gaining back control over what is yours 144Personal power areas 145"Agreed" transfers of power 146Power transfer 147What is your balance of power? 148A basic human right 149Where to start? 150Power of thoughts and emotions 151www.vitalcoaching.com-4-
Positive thinkingPart 6 – Mind performance dynamics 152How to increase your mind power 153Respond to challenges 155Wake up your conquering power 156Dare to fight 157Unleash your will power 158Focus 159Total synergy 160Remove resistances 161Peripheral vision 162Focus on what thrills you 163Body power 164Your training ground 165Part 7 – Your performance power weapons 166Emotional fuel 167Will power 170Conquering power 171Survival drive 172Focus only on what thrills you 173Best way to prepare yourself 175The secret door to your mind 176Give rhythm to your day 177Making the right choices 178Action is life! 179Part 8 - 10 powerful mind training techniques 180www.vitalcoaching.com-5-
Positive thinkingActive self talk – technique 181Will power concentration – technique 184Victory drill – technique 187Assertive determination – technique 191Total emotional freedom – technique 193Power vision – technique 196Instant effective strategy – technique 198Dynamic synergy building – technique 200Synchronized action - technique 202Part 9 – Key strategies to get what you want 204How to get exactly what you want 205How to use challenges to project yourself forward 207If you bang your head against a wall, stop right now! 208Synergize! 209Trust and go with the flow 210Integrating new skills 211Jumping without a safety net 212No training! Just life! 213Master your control weapon 214Be aware of side tracks 215Don’t miss your reality check! 216Unhook yourself from the past 217Use your power 218Part 10 – Use your mind power to create happiness 219The secret of happiness 220www.vitalcoaching.com-6-
Positive thinkingYour quest 222This is a battle 223How to be happy on the long term 225High expectations 226Competition between friends 228Competing for success and happiness 231What are negative projections? 233Part 11 – Real life examples with best strategies 235Negative thinking triggers 236How to shift your power level 240Life vision 244Social life 245Business and professional success 247Love life 249Family expectations 251Body 253Foreign country 255Confidence gap 257Sense of connectedness 258I want to be more positive 260Enjoy life more 262You want a solution? 263How do you find inner security and inner peace? 264If you are afraid 265If you feel angry with everything 266If you feel empty inside 267www.vitalcoaching.com-7-
Positive thinkingIf you feel isolated 269I had difficult experiences in the past 270I have lots of negativity in me 271I hesitate too much 272I wish I had a partner 273I lack energy 274What am I doing with my life? 275Feel stacked! 277How do I make this broken record stop? 279Part 12 – Your happiness tools 281It is time for change 282Remove obstacles 283Master your life power 285Quest for beauty and harmony 287Conquering power 289What are the sponsors of your happiness? 292Here is an example: music creates joy 293Where to start? 296Nothing can stop you 297Wake up you happiness skills 299Emotional freedom 3006 easy steps to establish a new positive habit in your life 302Part 13 – Key tactics to wake up your happiness 307Get rid of the victim role 308Connect with positive sources of inspiration 309www.vitalcoaching.com-8-
Positive thinkingConnect with positive streams 314Wake up your mind power 317Protect your mind space 319Energize your being 321Love, respect and positive outlook on life 322Search for meaning 324Get rid of what holds you back 325Connect with your destiny 326Positive mind sets and values 327Master your connection with others 329Stay awake and alert! 330What to do first when you are trapped in a negative mind set 331How to influence your thoughts 332Tackle the real challenge 333Part 14 – Change dynamics 334Change dynamics 335How to shift mind sets 337Every action generates a result 339Mind conditioning 3413 life powers 343Renewal power 346Reconditioning your environment 347The dangers of negative attention 350How to educate your environment 352Where to go next 354What is the challenge? 356www.vitalcoaching.com-9-
Positive thinkingWho should decide? 358What is your source of inspiration? 360Why invest in yourself? 362Part 15 – How to change your life in these situations 365I am not happy right now but I don’t know where to start 366Change job 369Change my life 370Change my life – I don’t know where to start 371Change my life style 372Change something in me 373Change the way I act 375Change the way I act – I need to free myself first 376Change my diet – I don’t know where to start 378Clear clutter 380Clear the past 383Find a new career 385Find answers 386Get fit – I don’t have time 387Get rid of an addiction – I can’t take action 388I need to free myself first 389I would like to move 390Change house – I am not sure of my next move 391Renewal power 392Something has to change 396Something is resisting in me 397Take an important decision 398www.vitalcoaching.com- 10 -
Positive thinkingPart 16 - 7 key steps to change your life 399Free your energy 400Identify and eliminate top resistances 402Identify and focus on priority number one 405Build up your confidence and emotional fuel 407Take action 409Choose an exciting context 411Conclusion 412www.vitalcoaching.com- 11 -
Positive thinkingIntroThe goal of this e-book is to give you effective strategies to empoweryour mind and build up positive mind sets. It is as well to help youconnect with your natural inner sources of happiness.You can't protect your mind space without power.This e-book will give you key strategies and energy to take steps.I cover as well: The dynamics of change and how to invite renewal in your life. Positive thinking and how you can manifest it. Personal power dynamics and hot to tap into your naturalsources of power. Mind performance.Take a minute to print this book.Having is in front of your eyes will help you stay focused!Good luck and stay in touchvitalcoachwww.vitalcoaching.com- 12 -
Positive thinkingPart 1 - MinddynamicsThe first step is to understand some basic dynamics about your mind.Your mind is a complex architecture of thoughts, feelings, emotionsand so much more.Before you even design a strategy or take action, you must see theunderlying dynamics of your mind so that you can measure andperceive exactly the impact of your actions, attitudes and behaviors.The goal is to find out where and how you can impact over whathappens in this inner space.In the next few pages I will describe some of the key mechanismswhich direct the way you think and the way you feel.www.vitalcoaching.com- 13 -
Positive thinkingWhat is self talk and how to makeit work for you?Self talk is the story you tell yourself.When you are trapped in negative thinking loops, your self talk is acycle of thoughts which pulls you down into spirals of limiting beliefs.If you are in a positive mind set, self talk is empowering.Self talk is a stream of inner activity you can consciously influence andshift if you want to.The way you think has a massive impact on the way you perform inlife.Self talk is the result of a conditioning.Every time you are confronted with a given situation in life, you willcreate a mind set which is your “response” to that situation.Now, your mind stores memories, feelings, thoughts and emotions.When you are confronted with the same situation again, you “callback” the corresponding mind set.For instance, you have a given mind set for when you wake up in themorning.You have another mind set when you have a chat with a friend.You have another mind set for sports and another one for romance.Self talk is more than a thought.It is a whole succession of thoughts.It is a story you tell yourself.www.vitalcoaching.com- 14 -
Positive thinkingMind setsYou need to realize one thing: thoughts happen within a mind set.A thought is never an “isolated event” in you.It is part of a vaster stream you can call your mind set.A mind set is an inner architecture.It is the sum of your thinking and emotional habits.When you are in a given life situation, you will tend to react to it in thesame way over and over again.Why is that?Because your mind architecture tends to stay the same.You tend to create emotional and thinking habits and simply keep onreproducing them.This is conditioning.When you are faced with a given life situation for the first time, youwill create a mind set associated with that situation.Suppose you go one day for a walk in nature.You climb to a hill.It is misty and suddenly the sky clears up.You get a fresh wind blowing in your face and you feel overwhelmedby the beauty of the landscape.Your thoughts and emotions at that moment will create a memory.This memory is more than a "suspended picture" somewhere in yourpast.www.vitalcoaching.com- 15 -
Positive thinkingIt is a whole set of thoughts, emotions and feelings.In fact, you will tend to associate hills with the positive mind set youexperienced that day.This mind set will stay imprinted in you unless it is replaced by a newone.This is conditioning.Conditioning happens through work and education as well.It happens through the interaction you have with others.In a life time, your mind builds up millions of mind patterns (thoughts,feelings and emotions).A conditioning is an open and well known path in the landscape of yourmind.It is a path you traveled before.It is a thinking and emotional habit.This habit will stay the same unless you consciously reprogramyourself or go through new experiences.If you want to reprogram your mind, you need to understand how youcan shift a mind set and manifest a new one.You want to create a new conditioning.You need new thoughts and emotions.The idea is to shift what you don't want or no longer need.www.vitalcoaching.com- 16 -
Positive thinkingHow inspiration and influencesreach youYour mind is not an isolated entity.You are bombarded daily by millions of impressions.Some of these impressions are visible.They are what you read, what you hear and anything else youperceive.Impressions reach you through your physical senses or through yoursubtle senses.Your sense of feeling for instance is an inner sense of touch.It is your ability to create an impression out of a combination ofenergies impacting on your mind.Your mind generates feelings and impressions all the time.You are aware of some of these impressions.Some other impressions simply impact on your mind without you evenbeing aware of it.Inspiration is a subtle, invisible stream of energy.When you are inspired you feel an inner drive or force which bringsyou to take action.The word “inspiration” is “in – spiration”.Literally, it means “taking the spirit in”.You are inspired all the time.There is always some form of influence impacting on your mind.www.vitalcoaching.com- 17 -
Positive thinkingTake the example of a cloud of birds.When they fly, you can always see the larger body they are in.Now, every individual bird is in its own world as well.The birds do not perceive the larger “entity” of their group but whenyou look at them from the distance, you can see some form ofcohesion or connection between them.Even when you are sitting and doing nothing, your mind is stillfollowing a stream of inspiration.There might be no action or desire involved, you are still beingpermeated by a flow of life force, right?You are alive!This “being alive” means that there are whole streams of thoughts,emotions and feelings naturally happening in your mind.External sources of inspiration do impact on your mind.Suppose you have an uplifting chat with someone you like, you willnaturally feel happy and energized.Listening to the news, walking through a busy street, surfing the net,having a drink in a café, playing with your children are all activitieswhich will leave an emotional blue print on your mind.Anything which happens in your environment will influence you in oneway or another.www.vitalcoaching.com- 18 -
Positive thinkingWhat are your core beliefsYour thinking is structured in various layers.The surface thoughts are the ones you are not really attached to.They come and go.Core beliefs are deeper than that.They are your inner values and the “inner knowledge” you are reallyattached to.Your core beliefs are what you want to tackle when you want to shiftfrom negative mind sets to positive mind sets.Your core beliefs are the foundation thoughts of your mind.In your self talk, your core beliefs are like miles stones.They are the crossing points.They are the decision making areas.www.vitalcoaching.com- 19 -
Positive thinkingThoughts, emotions and feelingsThoughts, emotions and feelings are waves on the surface of yourmind.When you feel a certain emotion, what you perceive is only the visiblepart of a deeper reality.Thoughts, emotions and feelings are mind patterns.Part of what happens in your mind is totally invisible to yourawareness.The goal is to expand your awareness and see the underlyingdynamics behind your thoughts.Once you understand how these thoughts work and how they aregenerated, it is much easier to shift them or generate new ones.Thoughts are not isolated.They are combined with a set of emotions, feelings and beliefs.Thoughts, beliefs, emotions, feelings and energy level create what wecall a mind set.A mind set is an inner architecture.A mind set will generate a given type of emotions and thoughts.Suppose you wake up one Sunday morning and feel a sudden sense ofinner freedom.You will smile and feel some joy.These are emotions.At the same time, you will start thinking about your day and decide tocall some friends.These are thoughts.www.vitalcoaching.com- 20 -
Positive thinkingYou might feel as well energized in this early morning.You take a fresh shower and feel high on an energy level.All these elements are your Sunday morning's mind set.Any moment in your life has a mind set.Sometimes you perceive emotions.Sometimes you are aware of a feeling.Another time you catch yourself making plans for the future.These are all “visible aspects” of your mind set.www.vitalcoaching.com- 21 -
Positive thinkingWhat is a feeling?Feelings are impressions on the surface of your mind.Your sense of feeling is your ability to perceive invisible impressions.A feeling is the result of an energy impacting on the surface of yourmind.You are bombarded by millions of impressions daily.Some of these impressions touch you through your physical senses.Some other impressions touch you through your psychic senses.Your sense of feeling is your sense of inner touch.If you touch an object, your sense of touch will transmit informationabout this object.Your sense of touch will interpret matter and think elements like:wood, metal, flesh, cold, warm, etc.This is your sense of touch.Feelings work in the same way: a feeling is an impression whichappears in the surface of your mind.Suppose you go downtown and listen to some street musicians.The music and the atmosphere will impact on your mind and generatea series of feelings.When you hear the music, this might wake up a sense of joy forinstance.This feeling is the result of a "message" impacting on the surface ofyour mind.This feeling happens because there is an interaction: you and amusician.www.vitalcoaching.com- 22 -
Positive thinkingYou can get a feeling without having any visible message impactingthrough your physical senses.You can for instance wake up in the morning with a strangeimpression.Your psyche perceives millions of informations a day.A large portion of this information comes from your environment.Other feelings can wake up through different channels and only aportion of these channels are visible.Any state of mind has a set of feelings associated with it.Even when you are quiet, you are still feeling something.You simply are unaware of it.The term impression is defined as:“What stays in somebody’s mind: a lasting effect, opinion, ormental image.”This definition invokes this idea of impact or inner touch.Some impressions can truly come from outside of your mind whileothers are the result of your inner "processing".Your mind is processing millions of perceptions daily.You are only aware of a small fraction of them.www.vitalcoaching.com- 23 -
Positive thinkingWhat is your mindscapeYour mindscape is your mind set.If someone asks you "What do you feel?", you will look inwards andcome with a series of impressions.Your mindscape is your inner territory.It is all these emotions and thoughts you are used to.You tend to identify yourself with your mind space.You will have a system of core beliefs about who you are and what youdo on this planet.You have as well memories, records of what happened in the past.These memories are like pictures on the surface of your mind.Every memory is associated with a specific set of emotions andthoughts.Everyone has a different mindscape.Yours is unique and you go on designing it daily.You are the one who has the greatest influence over the inner territoryof your mind.www.vitalcoaching.com- 24 -
Positive thinkingYour empowering networksOne of the elements which give you a strong sense of power andsupport is any network you belong to.For instance if you work within an organization, this network willimpact on your mind and life.Your family is a network.Your friends represent a network.When you feel isolated, you usually miss a connection with a network.A network is a community as well.You can feel attuned with a “musical style” for instance.You can be a “Hip Hop” fan for instance.This will connect you with a given network and inspire your actions,thoughts and beliefs.In fact, it will give you a mind set you can identify yourself to.If you work within an organization, the culture of this organization willas well have a similar type of input.Networks can be empowering.They can as well be limiting depending on the way you stand in themand the role they play in your life.www.vitalcoaching.com- 25 -
Positive thinkingI’ll be direct, okay?What I am about to say is radical. It is different than anything youheard before:When you are unhappy, you become your worst enemy!Why is that?Because you go into the "nurturing" mode.You accept yourself the way you are and project your problemsoutwardly.When you are unhappy, you often end up complaining about yoursituation endlessly.You talk about your problems day after day and by doing so, youreinforce negative mind sets.When you keep on feeding these negative thoughts, you stimulate thecycle of limiting beliefs and strengthen the "victim role" in you.If you are in this situation, stop!!!Stop right now!I won’t take steps for you.Why?Because it is your job.It is your battle!!!What I can do though, is first send you this wake up call and second,give you effective and powerful strategies to deal with this.If you could see what I see right now, you would kick yourself in thebut!www.vitalcoaching.com- 26 -
Positive thinkingLife is short!If you wait one more day, there are good chances that you won’t everreach what you are looking for.You present mind set pulls you down.There are a series of mistakes you are doing right now.Here is what I know you might be doing wrong: Accepting yourself and where you are at right nowSimple! Don’t. The moment you hate your life enough, that’s themoment you decide to do something about it. Your greatestmistake would be to accept a state of depression orunhappiness as your identity. Believing someone else can do it for you!That’s another big lie. Nobody can do it for you. The momentyou realize this, you stop waiting and start taking action. “It’s because of my past”.It’s not!!! Your mind is your mind. You can shift the way you seeyourself. Use your past as a platform to project yourself intoyour future, no matter what you past is. You have no excuse! Hiding yourself behind self destructive beliefs!It’s safe, aye? When you tell everyone you are worth nothing,this is playing safe. You make sure no one will challenge you,right? Self limiting beliefs are self destructive patterns. Everytime you use one, you destroy your life. Enjoying negative attention!What do you think you are doing? I know you feel nurtured byother’s negative attention. The truth is that taking the victim roleputs you down over and over again.www.vitalcoaching.com- 27 -
Positive thinking Embracing the esthetic of darkness.You believe that being "dark" is cool? It’s not. Darkness is notyour identity.I know that what I am saying is tough.The truth is that I don’t see anything which needs to be fed ornurtured in your unhappiness.You are tolerating and allowing piles of negative emotions to invadeyour life and your mind.Why?Because part of you is still on the “loser’s path”.I see you as a winner!The
Positive thinking and how you can manifest it. Personal power dynamics and hot to tap into your natural sources of power. Mind performance. Take a minute to print this book. Having is in front of your eyes will help
