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SPOON THEORY - FROM JEWISH DISABILITIES ADVOCATESSpoon TheoryMany people with chronic health conditions plan around and ration their energy throughout the day.Christine Miserandino used a bouquet of spoons to explain to her best friend, who already knew a lotabout the medical aspects of her Lupus, what it was like to live with the disease. Spoons became thetangible representation of the amount of mental and physical energy she had available for activitiesof living (e.g., getting out of bed, taking a shower, making breakfast) and productive tasks (e.g., goingto class or doing work). Each activity required a number of spoons, and, as she explained “when your‘spoons’ are gone, they are gone.”She chose spoons becauseshe wanted her friendto hold something thatcould be taken away, sincemost people with chronicconditions feel a ‘loss’ ofa life they once knew. Sheshares, “I can never make itgo away and I can’t forgetabout it, I always have tothink about it I hate feelingleft out, having to chooseto stay home, or to not getthings done that I want to.”As Christine explains, “thebeautiful ability to not thinkand just do” is a freedommany with chronic healthconditions don’t have.If you invite someone with achronic health condition toyour Seder, do not be upsetif they need to change plansat the last minute. Considercreating a virtual way for them to participate, and, if they do join you at your table, feel special becausethey are actively choosing to give you one (or several) of their spoons.Additionally, this Passover, consider adding a spoon (or spoons) to your Seder plate to remind us thatnot everyone has the freedom of energy to live life as they wish. Let the spoon also serve as a symbolof nourishment, empathy and care we might extend to those with chronic health conditions and otherdisabilities who may benefit from our support.To learn more about JFS Jewish Disability Advocates, resources, activities and how to support individualswith chronic health conditions, visit jewishfamilyservice.org/JDASources: ButYouDon’tLookSick.com, Jweekly.com, Center for Disease Control, Cleveland Clinic162

Below is a special version of Dayeinu that you are encouraged to include in your Seder.Dayeinu (We are enough)If we must plan each day based on the limited amount of energy or number of spoons we have.Dayeinu (We are enough)If we only have one spoon to get out of bed. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we can get out of bed and get dressed, but don’t have enough spoons to do work or go toschool. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we go to work or school and have no spoons left to talk with our partner or family.Dayeinu (We are enough)If we talk with our partner or family but eat frozen dinners because we do not have a spoon left tomake a meal. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we make a meal but have piles of laundry because we do not have spoons to do both.Dayeinu (We are enough)If we do laundry but are wiped out and do not have any spoons for the planned dinner with friendsand must send our regrets. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we exceed our energy limit on one day and can’t get out of bedthe next day. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we mask our pain or suffering to avoid stigma, shame, orembarrassment. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we have to explain ourselves to people who say, “Well, youdon’t look sick.” Dayeinu (We are enough)If we need help but don’t know how to ask.Dayeinu (We are enough)If the freedom we seek is from the bondage of our bodies or thebondage of exhaustion. Dayeinu (We are enough)If we don’t feel “fine” and share our challenges with others.Dayeinu (We are enough)If we connect with others who give us support and understanding. Dayeinu (We are enough)Dayeinu. Dayeinu, Dayeinu! We are all enough!317

DAYEINU – WE ARE ENOUGHIlu hotzi, hotzi-anu, hotzi-anu mi-mitzraryim (2X), Dayeinu Ilu natan, natan lanu, natan lanu et ha-Shabbat (2X), Dayeinu Ilu natan, natan lanu, natan lanu et ha-Torah (2X), Dayeinu Had we only been willing to leave behind what we knew, Dayeinu,it would have been enough.Had we only transformed our freedom into a weekly practice ofShabbat - Dayeinu, it would have been enough.Had we only leaned to engage Torah as a guide to use freedomwell, Dayeinu, it would have been enough.THE THIRD CUP: NOURISHING OUR SOULSWe are beginning to see evidence of spring outside. Some flowersare beginning to grow up from their winter slumber and buds areforming on trees. This growth cannot happen without essentialingredients and conditions. We too cannot thrive withoutnecessary elements and circumstances. In particular, we cannotrise out of our personal mitzrayim without spiritual nourishment.Each of us feed our souls in different ways- laughter, prayer, timewith friends/family.: הגָפֶן ַ פּרִ י ְ מלְֶך הָעֹולָם ּבֹורֵ א ֶ ּבָרּוְך אַּתָ ה יהוה אֱֹלהֵינּו Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam borei pri ha-gafen.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, who creates the fruit of thevine.18

ROCHTZAH - WASHING OUR HANDS מצְֹותָ יו ִ ב ּ ְ שׁנּו ָ ּ ְ שׁר קִד ֶ א ֲ ֱֹלהינּו ֽ ֶמלְֶך הָעֹולָם ֵ ֽ בּרּוְך אַתָ ּה י ְי ָ א ָ: וְצִו ָנּו עַל נְטִילַת י ָדָ י ִם Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam asher kid’shanub’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al n’tilat ya-dayim.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, bringing holiness to our liveswith the mitzvah of washing our hands.THE EXODUS AS TOLD THROUGH OUR FOOD.The Orange: Why eat it? The orange contains within itself theseeds for its own rebirth. So too we carry within us the tools forrenewal.: העֵץ ַ ּפּרִ י ְ מלְֶך הָעֹולָם ּבֹורֵ א ֶ ּבָרּוְך אַּתָ ה יהוה אֱֹלהֵינּו Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam borei pri ha-etz.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, who creates fruit from trees.Matzah: Why eat it? To remind ourselves that we fledenslavement before the dough had risen, even before we werereally ready to leave.19

מלְֶך הָעֹולָם הַמֹוצִיא לֶחֶם מִן ֶ ּבָרּוְך אַּתָ ה יהוה אֱֹלהֵינּו : האָרֶ ץ ָBaruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam ha-motzi lechemmin ha-aretz.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, who creates bread from theearth. מצְֹותָ יו ִ ב ּ ְ שׁנּו ָ ּ ְ שׁר קִד ֶ א ֲ ֱֹלהינּו ֽ ֶמלְֶך הָעֹולָם ֵ ֽ בּרּוְך אַתָ ּה י ְי ָ א ָ: מצָה ַ ַ אכִילת ֲ וְצִו ָנּו עַל Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam asher kidshanub’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al achilat matzah.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, bringing holiness to our liveswith the mitzvah of eating matzah.Maror: Why eat it? To taste and feel the bitterness of oppressionand poverty and homelessness, just in case we ever forget. מצְֹותָ יו ִ ב ּ ְ שׁנּו ָ ּ ְ שׁר קִד ֶ א ֲ ֱֹלהינּו ֽ ֶמלְֶך הָעֹולָם ֵ ֽ בּרּוְך אַתָ ּה י ְי ָ א ָ: אכִילַת מָרֹור ֲ וְצִו ָנּו עַל Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam asher kidshanub’mitzvotav v’tzivanu al achilat maror.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, bringing holiness to our liveswith the mitzvah of eating maror.20

Haroset and Hillel Sandwich:“What happens when we feel two competing emotions at thesame time? Can two seemingly contradictory things both betrue?Welcome to being human! Competing emotions andcontradictory thoughts are messy and can feel uncomfortable,vulnerable, even irritating. But it’s important to remember thatthis push-pull is a reflection of our complexity, and if we’re willingto stay with it and say curious, complexity is one of our greatestteachers Bittersweet is a mixed feeling of happiness and sadness.”Dr. Brene Brown, Atlas of the HeartThe Afikoman:The Afikoman, the larger piece of matzah that was broken nearthe beginning of the Seder, is missing. It must be found. In somehomes, the children hide the afikoman and the adults must findit. Of course, the adults are not successful and have to offer thechildren a prize for returning the afikoman. In other homes, anadult hides the afikoman and the children must find it.Reflect on something you have lost touch within your life that youwant to find. Maybe it is a hobby you have not made time for, afriend you have not seen in ages, or a part of yourself that has laiddormant for many seasons or years. Dig deep and find that lostpart or your life and commit to finding it in the coming season. Ifyou feel comfortable writing, write it on your post-it note and afterthe Seder, put it up someplace to serve as a reminder.21

KOSI REVAYA: MY CUP IS FULLIn Psalm 23:5 the language “kosi revaya” is used, meaning “mycup is full.” There is an idea in Judaism that humans are sacredvessels. As we come to this point in the seder, we share gratitudefor the food we have eaten and for the freedom and blessings wehave in our lives.Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi RevayaWe give thanks to the unknown blessings already on their way.We give thanks to the unknown blessings already on their way.We give thanks to the unknown blessings already on their way.We give thanks to the unknown blessings already on their way.Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi RevayaWe will not look back in anger, forward in fear, but around withawareness.Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi Revaya, Kosi RevayaMusic by Rabbi Shefa Gold22

OPENING THE DOOR FOR ELIJAH“Love and belonging are irreducible needs for all people. In theabsence of these experiences, there is always suffering We cannever truly belong if we are betraying ourselves, our ideals, orour values in the process. That is why it is a mistake to think thatbelonging is passive and simply about joining or ‘going along’with others. It’s not. Belonging is a practice that requires us to bevulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be present withpeople without sacrificing who we are.”Brene Brown, Atlas of the HeartToward the beginning of our Seder, we shared the iconicstatement “May all who are hungry come and eat.” As weconclude our Seder, once again, we demonstrate the importanceof inviting others in. This time, we open our doors to invite in theprophet Elijah. Who knows, he just might be wandering pastlooking for a place where he can feel welcomed.As we sing Eliyahu HaNavi and symbolically invite in Elijah, you’reinvited to think about times in the past year when you havesacrificed who you are in an attempt to “fit in.” As we begin thisfestival of freedom, how might you be vulnerable with others sothat you may more fully belong?23

ELIAHU HANAVIEliyahu haNavi, Eliyahu haTishbi, Eliyahu, Eliyahu, EliyahuhaGiladiBim-heira v’yameinu, yavo aleinu, im moshiach ben David, immoshiach ben David(Folk Melody)Eliyahu haNavi, Eliyahu haNavi, Eliyahu haTishbi, EliyahuhaGiladi, Eliyahu haNaviBim-heira yavo aleinu, Bim-heira yavo aleinu, Bim-heira yavoaleinu, im moshiach ben DavidBim-heira yavo aleinu, Bim-heira yavo aleinu, Bim-heira yavoaleinu, im moshiach ben DavidEliyahu haNavi, Eliyahu haNavi, Eliyahu haTishbi, EliyahuhaGiladi, Eliyahu haNaviMusic by Rabbis Annie Lewis and Yosef GoldmanElijah the prophet, Elijah the Tishbite, Elijah from Gilead.Soon and in our day may he bring us, with the messiah, son ofDavid.THE FOURTH CUP: NIRTZAH / RISING UPWe’ve been on a journey together this evening from Mitzrayim,the narrow place, to this point, where we are on the brink ofredemption. But we are not done yet, for even when we finish ourjourney to freedom, we know that none of us are free until we allare free. So this last cup is to continuing the journey to freedom.24

As we raise our cups for this last toast, hold in your heart all thework that still needs to be done to bring about a truly free world.: הגָפֶן ַ ּפּרִ י ְ מלְֶך הָעֹולָם ּבֹורֵ א ֶ ּבָרּוְך אַּתָ ה יהוה אֱֹלהֵינּו Baruch atah adonai eloheinu melech ha-olam borei pri ha-gafen.Blessed is the Source, Life Unfolding, who creates the fruit of thevine.NEXT YEARIt’s at this point in the Seder when we look toward next yearat this time. In many haggadot, there is a reference to beingin Jerusalem in the coming year. Jerusalem is made up of twoHebrew words “Ir,” meaning “city” and “shalem,” meaning “whole”or “peace.” We pray that next year at this time we experiencewholeness and peace, both in ourselves and in the world.OSEH SHALOM עלֵינּו וְעַל ּכָל ָ עׂשֶה ׁשָלֹום ֲ ַ ּבמְרֹומָיו הּוא י ִ עֹוׂשֶה ׁשָלֹום : עלֵינּו וְעַל ּכָל יִׂשְרָ אֵל ָ עׂשֶה ׁשָלֹום ֲ ַ י : אמֵן ָ אמְרּו ִ ְ יִׂשְרָ אֵל ו 25

Oseh shalom bimromav hu ya’aseh, hu ya’aseh, hu ya’asehshalom aleinu. Oseh shalom bimromav hee ta’aseh, hee ta’aseh,hee ta’aseh shalom aleinu.May the One, may the One who makes peace, bring peace down,bring peace down.Music by Elana Jagoda-KayeWE RISEWe rise, humbly heartedRise, won’t be dividedRise, with spirit to guide usRise!In hope, in prayer, we find ourselves hereIn hope, in prayer, we’re right here (x2)We rise, all of the childrenRise, elders with wisdomRise, ancestors surround usRise!In hope, in prayer, we find ourselves hereIn hope, in prayer, we’re right here (x2)We rise, up from the wreckageRise, with tears and with courageRise, fighting for lifeWe rise!Batya Levine26

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Ain't nobody coming so it's up to you and me Tell Mariam, tell John Say the hourglass is empty and judgment day has come Tell preacher, farmer Brown Say Joshua's blown his trumpet and the walls are coming down Tell sister, brother too Tell them where they're going to meet us and what we're gonna do Tell Stephen, tell Shawn