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Radical Acceptance is thepathway home. It is a practicethat trains us to meet life’s joysand sorrows with an awake andopen heart. By staying in thepresent moment we tap intounconditional love, werediscover the freedom andpeace of our true nature. Tara Brach

AA Big Book “Acceptance is the answer to all myproblems today. When I amdisturbed, it is because I find someperson, place this or situation- somefact of my life- unacceptable to meand I can find on serenity until Iaccept the person, place thing orsituation ab being exactly the way it issupposed to be at this moment.”

Radical Acceptance Of What is Freedom of requires acceptance from deepwithin- Let go of fighting reality. Acceptance is the only way out of hell Pain creates suffering only when you refuseto accept the pain “Deciding” to tolerated the moment isacceptance Acceptance is acknowledging what is To accept something is NOT the same asjudging it

Radical Acceptance is NOT Radical Acceptance is not resignation for your continuedbad behaviors Radical acceptance is not defining ourselves by ourlimitations-No dependence, avoidant, withdrawal- no fearbased stories Radical Acceptance is not self-indulgence-this is who Iam know I am going to act on it Radical Acceptance does not make us passive Radical Acceptance doesn’t mean accepting a ‘self”returns us to the origin of who we are.

Detach my beliefsDetach my emotionsStick to the Facts*

Securityand Survival Affection and Esteem Power and Control Undisciplined mind

We choose to separate ourselves from“others”Ineffective behaviors keep you from what youwant-no peaceHealing you core beliefs change thatReality IS living in the present momentSeparate behaviors from core selfPower of choice

Perfect love casts our fearWhen I thought as a childLoving what is accepts realityThought projects and perceptionsAll but the Grace of God there go IOur suffering becomes our identitySuffering is always ObjectiveEliminate the attachment to outcome

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Where do they come fromWe all have them Prefrontal Cortex Insight, Hindsight, ForesightFind irrational Beliefs –FIBS Absolutely necessity for .Its horrible when I should feel fear .I must be.

Solvethe problem Change your emotional reaction toproblem Tolerate/accept the problem Stay miserableHow do I use DBT to solve problems? What is missing between “knowing and doing?” Match solution to goal, needs, desire.

MINDFULNESSIS THE CORE TO EMOTIONAL E-MINDFULLYEFFECTIVELY

REALITY VS Your storySurrender to the Truth of theMomentAm I resisting the moment?Am I in “flight or fight”

No longer am I willing to lose my self-esteem,self-respect, my children’s well-being, my job,home, possessions, safety, credit, sanity, ormyself to preserve a relationship.I am learning how to choose to give appropriatelyand with a sense of high self-esteem.I am learning I can occasionally decide to give upsomething during conflict negotiations. But I’mno longer willing to mindlessly lose everything Ihave for the sake of relationships, appearance, orin the name of love.Melody Beattie

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Tara Brach. AA Big Book "Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place this or situation - some fact of my life- unacceptable to me and I can find on serenity until I accept the person, place thing or