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“Attraction to Commitment”BONUSSIMPLE SCRIPTS FOR MAKE-OR-BREAKC O N V E R S AT I O N S
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONSAs you’ve probably noticed throughout the main programof “Attraction To Commitment”, so much of attracting andmaintaining a great relationship is about the conversationsyou’re willing to have with a guy.The words we speak can affect how seriously someone takesus, how drawn to us they are, and save us MONTHS or YEARSby communicating our standards early on.So with that in mind, I’ve put together the complete list ofessential scripts from the program to use as your personalcheat sheet for whenever you need them.You’ll see they are a little messy at times because they area true reflection of the scripts I said on stage. As opposedto being designed for the written page, they are designed tosound organic out loud.Disclaimer: There is no reason to learn or recite these exactlyword-for-word. This is real life after all, not a stage play. I’vewritten these scripts out in full for you, but feel free to shortenthem, just use a single line, or use the principles behind themto turn them into your own words.Also, bear in mind, that we all receive language differentlydepending on our culture, our history, and the type oflanguage we use in our individual relationships. What issweet and romantic to me in the context of your relationshipmay give you a toothache. It’s essential to know WHY thesescripts work (which I provide you with context for in the mainmodules of the program). With that ‘why’ in mind, you canalways adapt them to suit your vernacular. These scripts are1 Matthew Hussey
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONSintended to help you see what you need to communicate ina particular dating scenario – but the exact phrasing shouldfeel AUTHENTIC to you.A word of caution – if you change any of these conversations,make sure you’re changing them to sound more natural (likethe way you speak) and NOT because it’s more comfortablefor you. If you are merely trying to stay in your comfort zone,you aren’t going to change things. And if you aren’t changingthings, you are not going to change the results you aregetting.Let’s make this cheat sheet your model for what bold andconfident communication looks like – so you can begin topractice the art of “charming candor” at every stage of therelationship.I’ve also added the module number from the main programwhere specific scripts can be found, where appropriate sothat you can quickly locate the video version for more context.“Attraction-To-Commitment”Scripts#1 – When You’re “Stuck in The Casual Trap” You’re in a scenario with someone who treats you like agirlfriend, but there’s no real progression, and you have nosense of what you actually are Matthew Hussey 2
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONSWhat to Say:“I’m looking for something special. And I see glimpses of thatwith you. But I still really don’t know what this is. And it’s okay ifthis isn’t “a relationship” to you, but if it’s not, I need to separatemyself from this and keep doing my thing keep living. Becauseseeing you is getting in the way of finding that person. I thinkyou’re amazing and I’m having a great time with you. Butnothing is going to be a great enough time for me to sacrificesomething deeper that I want.” (Module 7)Key line “I’m looking for something real/exciting/that’s goingsomewhere. If you’re not that person, that’s totally fine.”Give him the freedom to walk away, but stand your ground.If you haven’t had this conversation until now, this is yourmoment to express exactly what you need going forward, andif he can’t offer that, then you’re happy to say goodbye andmove on without him. Don’t let him feel you’ll be waiting onthe sidelines until he makes a decision.#2 The Conversation to Take Back YourPower (When You See RED FLAGS)If you see signs that the guy you’re dating is flaking, beinghot and cold, or just being vague about what he wants LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 10)3 Matthew Hussey
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONS#3 When You Feel Like He’s CasualHe seems to like you, and maybe you’re dating in the earlystages, but he doesn’t seem to want to be more LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11)#4 When He Says, “I’m Not Ready.”You’re dating or in early stages with a guy, but he says he’s“not ready” LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”MEMBERS#5 How to Figure Out If You’re ExclusiveIf you feel like things are going well, but you’re not totallysure where you stand LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 34)#6 How to Have The “What Are We?”Conversation (Even After Months or Years)If you’ve been seeing him and you’ve been in limbo for along time (months or years), this is the one you need.LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 12)Matthew Hussey 4
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONS#7 Handling His Response to the“What Are We?” Conversation(Especially If It’s Confusing or Negative)If you’ve said how you feel, but he’s STILL giving youconfusing and vague answers LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 13)#8 He Calls/Comes Back Saying,“I Really Want to See You.”You’ve had the conversation from Scenario #5, but heeventually calls/texts and says he wants to see you again LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 14)#9 When He’s Treating You Casually, butMoving Fast Physically (Early Dating)If he seems like he only is chasing sex, or isn’t trying to getyou to know you better LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”MEMBERS5 Matthew Hussey
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONS#10 How to Respond to The Booty Call TextIf he sends you a late night message asking you to comeover (and you are not willing to be intimate at this stage) LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11A)#11 He Asks You to Come Over to “WatchSome Netflix And Chill” Too QuicklyLO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 11A)#12 How to Communicate You Only Wantto Have Sex If You’re in a CommittedRelationshipYou’re dating and getting more intimate, but don’t want tohave sex until you know the two of you are exclusive.LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 25A 33)#13 You’ve Been Hooking Up with Him,but Don’t Want to Keep Doing It Unlessthe Relationship Goes Somewhere The next time he tries to see you/get intimate:LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”M E M B E R S (M O D U L E 25)Matthew Hussey 6
COMMITMENT CONVERSATIONSPLUS: Miscellaneous Conversations Good Questions for a Date: Talking About Your Past: Getting Him to Call You: If He Talks About Other Women in Front of You: He Tries “Sexting” Too Soon(i.e., sending risqué sexual texts) Getting Him to Live Up to Your Standards Ways to Show You’re Relationship-Worthy How to Talk About the Future (Marriage & Kids)LO C K E D F O R “AT T R A CT I O N TO C O M M I T M E N T”MEMBERS7 Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey 4 #3 When You Feel Like He’s Casual He seems to like you, and maybe you’re dating in the early stages, but he doesn’t seem to want to be more LOCKED FOR “ATTRACTION TO COMMITMENT” MEMBERS (MODULE 11) #4 When He Says, “I’m Not Ready.” You’re dating or in early stages with a guy, but he says he’s
