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Marriage BoostersEngaged couples: you are invited to personalize your marriage preparation with videos that relateto your particular circumstance. Go to marriageboosters.net, register (no charge!), and you haveaccess to videos that relate to your unique situation. Learn from other couples like you! Topicscovered include the Unique Challenges of Military Families, Cohabitation, Forming aStepfamily, Children of Divorce, Second Marriages, Interfaith and Interchurch Marriages, andStrengthening African–American Catholic Marriages. Developed by Marriage Ministries, acollaboration of the Archdiocese of Chicago and The Marriage Group.Website: http://marriageboosters.net/“Saying I Do: What Happens at a Catholic Wedding” – FREE online videoProduced by the USCCB. Walks the viewer through the Rite of Marriage both within and outsideof mass, and answers FAQs about Catholic weddings. Designed for engaged couples, bothCatholic couples and those marrying a non-Catholic. (This video can be viewed on the websitebelow.)Website: ppens-at-a-catholic-wedding/Contact: marriage@usccb.org, 202-541-3013“When Two Become One” - DVDProduced by the Diocese of Rockville Centre’s Office of Faith Formation. In this 25-minuteDVD engaged couples learn about the sacrament of marriage, love, sexuality, natural familyplanning and more through the witness of four couples sharing their experiences, challenges andjoys.Website: e-one/Contact: 516-678-5800 ext. 2231.4 Resources For The Theology Of The Body 2An Introduction to the Theology of the Body (Online Videos)A short series of videos providing an introduction to the Theology of the Body will be ewebsite.(Seehttp://www.diosteub.org/family.)Cost: NoneBeloved: The Mystery and Meaning of Marriage (Online Course)In six sessions (approximately 4 hours), Beloved explores the true meaning of Marriage. Hereyou’ll discover the deepest spiritual, emotional, and practical realities of marriage throughScripture, Tradition, and Church teaching. You’ll see firsthand how to experience the wonder,mystery, and joy of this sacrament—from that first “I do” through the rest of your lives.Available on: http://formed.orgCost: Individuals can access all of the video and audio content of Formed for 9.99 per month;workbooks are available for additional purchase for those interested.2Some marriage preparation programs include a comprehensive introduction to the Theology of the Body, such asGod’s Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage, Agape Catholic Marriage Prep, and Theology of the Body MarriagePreparation Program.[5]

Note: Parishes can subscribe to Formed for everyone in their parish for 159.99 per month;couples attending a subscribing parish would not need to subscribe separately. Digital copies ofworkbooks and handouts are available for free with a parish subscription.Beloved: The Mystery and Meaning of Marriage (Home Edition DVD)In six sessions (approximately 4 hours), Beloved explores the true meaning of Marriage. Hereyou’ll discover the deepest spiritual, emotional, and practical realities of marriage throughScripture, Tradition, and Church teaching. You’ll see firsthand how to experience the wonder,mystery, and joy of this sacrament—from that first “I do” through the rest of your lives. Itincludes the DVD and two Couple’s Guides for marriage enrichment.Website: e/beloved-home-edition-dvd-setCost: 59Theology of the Body - Online Course (taught by Christopher West)An Introduction to the Theology of the Body: Discovering the Master Plan for Your Life, is aneight-part, four-hour study designed to give you a solid understanding of God's plan forhumanity—a plan stamped right into our bodies.Website: heology-of-the-body.aspxCost: 49.001.5 General Resources for Natural Family PlanningAccording to the Diocese of Steubenville Marriage Formation Policy, each couple must attend adiocesan-approved course in natural family planning (NFP). Various methods of training areavailable in the Diocese, although not all are available in each region. Most courses require atleast 3 classes over the course of three months. Refer to the website of the Office of Marriage,Family and Respect Life for contact information and class schedules.The following information, from the USCCB, is provided simply to equip priests and pastoralministers to answer common questions or objections they might encounter.What is Natural Family Planning?Natural Family Planning (NFP) is the general title for the scientific, natural and moral methodsof family planning that can help married couples either achieve or postpone pregnancies. NFPmethods are based on the observation of the naturally occurring signs and symptoms of thefertile and infertile phases of a woman's menstrual cycle. No drugs, devices, or surgicalprocedures are used to avoid pregnancy. Since the methods of NFP respect the love-giving(unitive) and life-giving (procreative) nature of the conjugal act, they support God's design formarried love!Answers to the following questions can be found here: -family/natural-family-planning/what-is-nfp/ Is NFP based on guess-work?Who can use NFP?What are the methods of NFP?What are the signs of fertility?[6]

How does NFP work?What are the benefits of using NFP?How effective are NFP methods for avoiding pregnancy?Responding to Common MythsThere are several common misconceptions regarding the principles and practice of NaturalFamily Planning. Research-based responses to the following myths can be found by visiting thispage: -asked-questions.cfm Myth #1: NFP is based on guesswork: it's what people used before modern sciencedeveloped contraception [i.e., the rhythm method]. Myth #2: NFP can be used only by women with regular cycles. Myth #3: NFP is too complicated to be used by most people. Myth #4: NFP is not a reliable method of family planning. Myth #5: There is no difference between NFP and contraception. Myth #6: NFP does not allow for sexual spontaneity. Myth #7: Couples who use NFP have sex less often than couples who use contraception. Myth #8: The Catholic Church wants people to have as many babies as possible. Myth #9: The Catholic Church does not want married couples to have sex just forpleasure.[7]

SECTION 2 – PLANNING RESOURCES2.1 Workbooks For CouplesA Marriage in the Lord, 6th editionThis Catholic marriage preparation workbook helps couples to prepare for a lifelong happy,healthy, and holy marriage. Bulk discounts available. Provided by the Marriage and FamilyMinistries Office of the Archdiocese of Chicago.Website: item 72&category id 8Contact: Frank Hannigan, fhannigan@archchicago.org, 312-534-8351The Mission of Love: A Sacramental Journey to Marital SuccessWritten by John Curtis, Fr. Dominic McManus, O.P., and Mike Day, this is focused on helpingengaged couples embrace their mission and vocation in the Sacrament of Marriage. Book formatand Couple’s Guidebook with exercises. Available in Kindle version.Website: http://themissionoflove.org/2.2 Liturgical ResourcesA Catholic Bride’s Wedding Plannerby Tracy BeckerPractical tool for Catholic brides (and grooms). Includes reflections on engagement and theSacrament of Marriage, steps for getting married in the Catholic Church, a calendar with stickersto mark important moments leading up to the wedding, and an organizational section forwedding vendor contact information.Website: https://www.guardianangelstore.com/product info-40 10500.html#.WSjGdWj1DIWCatholic Wedding HelpA step-by-step guide to planning a Catholic wedding, including Scripture readings, the vows,various parts of the wedding liturgy, and information about Catholic marriage. Provided by OurSunday Visitor.Website: http://www.catholicweddinghelp.com/Together for Life: Celebrating & Living the Sacrament,by Joseph M. Champlin, with Peter A. Jarret, C.S.C.With more than nine million copies sold, Together for Life provides all of the tools engagedcouples and their ministers need to plan for the liturgical celebration of their wedding – prayers,Bible readings, vows, and sample intercessions. Together for Life also includes catecheticalcommentary to help couples deepen their understanding of the Sacrament of Matrimony. Thefifth edition includes all approved liturgical texts for planning weddings during Mass, outsideMass, or between a Catholic and an unbaptized person. The text is supported by Together forLife Online, which helps couples through their engagement, the first years of their marriage, andbeyond. Also available in Spanish.Website: 4/Together-forLife/#description tabContact: Ave Maria Press, 800-282-1865[8]

SECTIONS 3 – PASTORAL CONSIDERATIONS FOR SPECIAL CIRCUMSTANCESA successful marriage requires that a couple is mature, responsible, and free to marry. There isno single, objective standard by which one can either judge a couple’s readiness to marry, orguarantee their success. However, specific, identifiable circumstances may be present whichindicate a need for further assessment and growth before the final decision is made to proceedwith the marriage.Some impediments (such as the impediment of Disparity of Cult for a Catholic to marry a nonbaptized person or someone whose baptism is doubtful) are resolved simply by obtaining theproper dispensation from the local ordinary. Other impediments (such as a previous marriage),can take months to resolve. In all cases of special circumstance, increased pastoral care iswarranted, so that the marriage can be as strong as possible.For clarification regarding proceeding with the preparation for marriage of couples presentingunusual or complicated circumstances/impediments, contact the Office of Church Law at theChancery.The following is a partial list of special circumstances that may characterize couples presentingthemselves to be married in the Church:3.1 Issues Impacting the Decision to MarryIf one or both individuals demonstrate serious readiness issues, the priest or deacon shouldconsider referring one or both parties to a professional for assessment and treatment whileaddressing less serious readiness issues through his pastoral work. The professional’s role is toadvise the couple and the priest or deacon, not to make a final decision on whether or not themarriage should be delayed. The burden of that decision rests solely with Church authority.AbuseIssues involving abuse of any kind warrant serious attention, with the safety of the abused partybeing the highest priority. Even bringing up the subject in the presence of both partners puts theabused party at risk. In addition, it is not uncommon for a one-on-one conversation witheither/both party(ies) to result in the denial of its presence in the relationship. Once safety isassured, therapy can be helpful. Ministers should exercise care in referring a competent therapist.AddictionIssues involving addiction of any kind (i.e. alcohol, drugs, gambling, Internet, pornography, etc.)demand professional attention. Treatment can involve individual, couple, and/or group therapy,as well as support groups. Twelve-step programs can be effective, and are widely available.AgeThe preparation process should be age appropriate. Special attention should be given to thepreparation of couples in which even one of them is younger than the age of 21. Many couplesjust past their teenaged years are not ready to take on the commitment and responsibilities of[9]

marriage, and would likewise benefit from similar extra pastoral attention. Discussion facilitatedby a premarital inventory can help these couples recognize a need for more time before enteringa lifelong relationship.Concerns about age can also apply to older couples. Despite the tendency to believe they needless preparation because of their presumed maturity and experience, there are many specialissues unique to older couples that merit discussion, such as previous relationships (especially forthe divorced or widowed); finances; transition from a single lifestyle to a marriage partnership;and obligations to family members.Faith Issues: Interfaith or Interreligious MarriagesCouples are urged to learn about their future spouse’s faith – not for the purpose of conversion,but for understanding, mutual respect, and family harmony. Despite the complexity ofcombinations of Catholic partner and the profession/lack of profession of faith of the otherpartner, canon law and liturgical rites are specific about what dispensations and rites are needed.In an interreligious marriage, the Catholic partner must make the following promise to be faithfulto the Catholic Church and raise his or her children in the Catholic faith (Canon 1125):“I reaffirm my faith in Jesus Christ, and with God’s help, intend to continue livingthat faith in the Catholic Church. I promise to do all in my power to share thefaith I have received with our children by having them baptized and reared asCatholics.”3The non-Catholic partner is to be informed of the promise, so that he or she is aware of thepromise and obligation the Catholic partner has made. It is not necessary for the non-Catholicpartner to make a promise or sign a statement.Faith Issues: Non-practicing Catholic(s)While some evidence of faith is required for the reception of the Sacrament of Matrimony, thelevel of faith is not the question. Engaged couples must be accepted and instructed at their actuallevel. “As for wishing to lay down further criteria for admission to the ecclesial celebration ofmarriage, criteria that would concern the level of faith of those to be married, this would aboveall involve grave risks. The faith of the person seeking marriage in the Church can exist invarying degrees. It is the primary duty of pastors to facilitate a rediscovery of this faith,nourishing it and bringing it to maturity.”4PregnancyPregnancy should always be treated as a caution to marriage as opposed to a reason to rush intoit, because this can interfere with a person’s ability to give free consent. If the couple’s firstconsideration of marriage followed discovery of the pregnancy, the possibility of pressure tomarry needs to be carefully explored. However, “in light of our Church’s consistent witness tothe sanctity of human life, the couple’s choice to embrace the pregnancy should be affirmed bythe pastoral minister.”53Diocese of Steubenville Marriage Assessment Form.4 Familiaris Consortio, 68.5 Pastoral Policies and Guidelines for Marriage Preparation for the Catholic Church in New Jersey, Dioceses ofNew Jersey, 2008.[ 10 ]

3.2 Convalidation and RemarriagePreparing Couples for ConvalidationsPastoral discernment is necessary to determine the formational needs of couples seekingconvalidations. Some couples may greatly benefit by participating in some aspects of themarriage preparation process, provided that care is demonstrated for issues unique to theirsituation.If the couple has been married civilly two years or less, they should be encouraged to participatein the marriage preparation program. If the couple has been married more than two years, theyshould be encouraged to participate in some type of marriage enrichment activity – either aformal event (e.g., World Wide Marriage Encounter) or an informal activity (e.g., reading ForBetter FOREVER! A Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage6). Some couples may appreciatecompleting a premarital inventory to help them identify and address areas where growth may beneeded.RemarriageThe first step in preparing for remarriage is to determine the couple’s freedom to marry. “If oneor both of the parties is not free to marry by reason of a prior marital bond, a date cannot be set(not even a tentative one) until the prior attempted marriage is declared null and the party(parties) declared free to marry.”7It is wise to urge an appropriately long period of engagement in order to discourage couples frommarrying “on the rebound” or without having understood responsibility for and/or contribution tothe difficulties of the previous marriage. Furthermore, special attention is warranted to help thecouple understand how the dynamics of a previous marriage will impact their new marriage. Inaddition to typical issues, marriage ministers should also address resolution of grief from theprevious relationship(s), blending families, step-parenting, establishing of new family traditions,etc.The form of marriage preparation can be adapted to the age and circumstances of the couple, butabbreviating preparation for couples who had happy marriages before the death of a spouse is notadvisable. Mentor couples can help the engaged couple discern where they are in the griefprocess, and how they will deal with issues such as merged finances and obligations to childrenfrom the previous marriage.Validation of an invalid marriageValidation occurs in instances in which an invalid marriage is validated in accordance with thecanons of the Church. Invalidity often occurs when one or both parties is Catholic, and theyfailed to have their vows received by a Catholic priest or deacon (such as being married by anon-Catholic minister or before a civil authority without proper dispensation). There are twopaths that can be followed to validate an invalid marriage: convalidation and radical sanation. Aconvalidation is a new exchange of the marriage vows before a priest or deacon, and requires awhole new act of will on the part of the couple. Radical sanation renders retroactively valid amarriage that was invalid from its origin without the renewal of consent by either party, providedthat both the man and woman were free to marry at that time and that their mutual consent6Available from the Pastoral Solutions Institute, online at orever-catholic-guide-lifelong-marriage/.7Diocese of Steubenville Marriage Formation Policy, Appendix B - Liturgical/Canonical Considerations.[ 11 ]

continues from the invalid wedding ceremony. Priests and deacons may contact the Office ofChurch Law at the Chancery if they are in need of additional guidance.Children from this or a previous marriageChildren from a current or previous relationship are in and of themselves neither a reason tomarry nor to refrain from marrying. Of primary concern is that the parent recognizes his or herresponsibility to support children from a previous relationship financially, emotionally, andspiritually. Because of the strain on the couple and the children, special counseling is especiallyimportant, including remarriage preparation if appropriate.Print and Internet Resources for RemarriageRemarriage In The Catholic Church: A Couple’s GuideAuthors Joseph and Linda Sclafani work in remarriage ministry with the Diocese of St.Petersburg, Fla. This book reflects their years of experience in that field and resulted from theirdiocesan remarriage preparation program. The book is a suitable, hands-on resource for a parishor diocesan remarriage process. A couple might pick it up on their own before or after thewedding.Website: mlContact: 800-321-0411Catholic Remarriage: A Workbook for Couple

The Marriage Formation Policy of the Diocese of Steubenville outlines the process for "immediate marriage preparation" (for engaged couples) to be followed in the diocese. Additionally, it highlights the need for a comprehensive approach to marriage formation, offering support throughout the lifecycle of the family. .