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The Language of LustGetting Her Addicted To Youby Lawrence LanoffWebsite: http://www.DigitalRomanceInc.comEmail: support@digitalromanceinc.com
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Getting Her Addicted To YouGetting Her Addicted To YouThis technique is not about romance novels or prince charming shit.It's about learning to tune in to the Sexual SUPERHERO at the core ofwho you are.It’s about being true to your deepest desires, sensations, vulnerabilities andlearning to powerfully use your words to make her pussy swell, her clitscream, and her G-spot squirt.Does that excite you? I hope so.It's normal to feel shy or even ashamed about letting your guard down andexpressing such pure sexual emotion with another person.However, when I explain the potent effect your voice and your languagewill have on your partner, you will be trying it out – tonight.Plus, I have some exercises for you that will ease any anxieties you haveand get you so comfortable, you'll be using your sex words in no time.Here’s a question: Why do women make so many pleasure sounds duringsex?Because it's what they’ve been taught by porn, romance novels, andmovies. Heavy breathing and moaning means pleasure.Actresses writhe around making loud noises on screen.The technical term for female sex noises is copulatory vocalization. I callit complicated.Here’s why. If you've ever seen When Harry Met Sally, you remember thefamous fake orgasm scene in the deli. And the punch line, “I’ll have whatshe’s having.”Humorous. True. Every woman has done a version of the fake orgasm atsome point. And fake orgasm sounds mean that you may be doing it2
Getting Her Addicted To Youwrong, boring her, or not turning her on – and you’ll never know there’s aproblem.And because we all know these examples of what sex is “supposed to looklike,” culturally we’ve agreed that THIS is how “good sex” is supposed tobe.So men and women, we all do our part to play the game. Which isstressful.I can’t tell you how many dudes say their great lovers and when I speak totheir partners, the partner is like, “not so much.”The point is that women moan as a form of sexual communication. If herpleasure is real, then moaning lets her partner know that she likes what’shappening.We've already discussed why we feel uncomfortable talking about sex(much less giving specific directions . . . but I'll teach you that, too).So moaning, sighing, and ‘yessing’ become your default “language”during sex – which sucks for everybody. It creates lack of clarity,uncertainty, and misunderstandings. It can also create harboredresentments.In theory, a woman's moaning tells her partner, “Excellent job!”So men have learned to interpret female sex noises as positiveaffirmations.Also, many women know that a few well-timed moans and “cum for me”can help get your partner to climax.But there’s another kind of vocalization that comes from men. AMasculine Moan.3
Getting Her Addicted To YouThe Power of The Masculine MoanI was in Southern Africa during a vacation – and one night, while in thebush, I heard a sound that would change the way I looked at sounds andsex forever.In the middle of the night, I woke up inside my tent to the sounds ofpanting, breathing, growling. At first I thought it was the couple in thenext tent.But then it got louder, more chaotic, and finally exploded with a ROAR. Alion's roar. And if you have never heard a lion roar in the middle of thebush, in the middle of the night, you haven't heard the sound of raw,primal power.When I heard that sound, my heart went racing out of control. It was asound that was so deep, so primal, it kept me and my girlfriend up for therest of the night. But for a good reason. My girlfriend leaned over and saidto me, "That was kinda hot. Will you fuck me and roar like that?"I thought, "Why not?"And as she was cumming, I was roaring from my belly, breathing heavily,panting, and ultimately climaxing myself. She dug her fingers into myflesh. She was lost in sound, lost in pleasure, lost in the primal sexualbeing that she is.Sometimes, as men, we are just too domesticated.The masculine moan is authentic, gutteral, and driven by pure pleasure. Itcomes from deep inside the belly. It’s raw, real, alive. It's wild. It's feral.Scientists have shown that making noise during sex serves as a desiredriver. The moaning, breathing, low growling enhances pleasure for bothpartners. You will benefit from your Masculine Moan as much as she will.Because when you are free with your vocalizations and moan and growlwith wild abandon, without fear or anxiety, the end result is bliss.4
Getting Her Addicted To YouWhy this will blow her mind?Because it’s primal. Women are wired to respond to confidence – and aroar and moan of confidence is really exciting during sex. Andunexpected.That's because most men fuck like they masturbate. Fast, furious, andquiet.Which is not a good thing.Your moans and growls actually tap into the primal part of her brain. Theyexcite something deep inside of her. Something inexplicable.And when your “copulatory vocalizations” are expressed while beingtotally in touch with your desires, the result is nothing short of pleasureand more sexual freedom for you both.Plus, some kind of vocalizing allows the self-conscious mind to let go. Itstimulates breathing and the vegas nerve, which helps regulate the centralnervous system.By vocalizing your sounds, not only is the primal part of her brainactivated, her feeling of being desired is totally amped.And it will boost HER sexual confidence because, frankly, she must bedoing something right to make you moan/scream/curse/roar like that!When she knows she’s making you feel good, too, that helps her relax andnot feel so self-conscious about her own pleasure sounds.This is a great dose of pure sexual confidence for a woman.You are giving her this incredible vocal affirmation about her sexual effecton you . . . while activating her brain chemistry at the same time.So let's learn the Masculine Moan.5
Getting Her Addicted To YouStep 1: Find Your Lion's GrowlIn order to tap into your authentic pleasure vocalization, you need topractice. It may take some preliminary growls and moans and grrrrrrrsbefore you feel comfortable expressing them during sex.The first step is to perfect those warm-up vocals alone. Warming up andpracticing helps you access your deep emotions and feelings. Here aresome exercises to do just that:Say her name – with a growl.Practice saying her name out loud.Now lower the pitch of your voice and say it again. Relax yourthroat and your tongue. The sound should be coming from yourbelly and resonating in your chest.Now say it slowly, like you are growling but whispering also.Try it out a bunch of ways and see what makes your chest vibrate themost.Step 2: Make Pleasure Sounds in Daily Life.Savor your food. Savor a sight. Savor her body. Let things in the externalworld affect you in a positive way.Not fucking road rage. That's the external world affecting you in anegative way. Let it affect you positively, let your body respond. Let yourvoice respond.Moan while eating. Get a scoop of your favorite ice cream.Dip your spoon in and lick it off. Taste the flavor. Little by little and letout some mmmms, ohhhhs, and ahhhhhhhhs. You can even growl inpleasure.Get into it. Imagine the ice cream is her pussy. You are seducing her withthe way you are eating that delicious food.6
Getting Her Addicted To YouDoes this feel silly at first? You bet. However, the more you get used tothe sound of your voice, the easier it is to use it.Step 3: Verbalize Your Desires.Grab your journal and worksheets from this module. Say out loud thethings that turn you on or the sex acts you enjoy. Just read down your list,“I am turned on by . . .”Now, I want you to say them as if you are directing your partner or givingthe play-by-play.For example:I love it when you (lick/suck/bite/fuck/pound/kiss/nibble/spank)my (cock/neck/ass/balls).You feel so (tight/good/incredible/fucking amazing) when you(fuck me/put my cock inside of you/ are on top of me/ lift your assto me).Ask for what you want to experience. Direct her.The point of saying your desires and the play-by-play out loud is to getcomfortable with these words. You may end up saying these things as partof your Masculine Moan or you may not.But verbalizing your desires accesses a slightly different part of yourbrain, which increases your connection to your core sexuality. It alsoopens the door to those deeper desires you may not have recognized wereeven there.It may be hard to see, but there's definitely a method to my madness here.7
Getting Her Addicted To YouStep 4: Moan and Growl While Masturbating, Fantasizing, orLooking at Porn.Finding some private time is ideal so you can really let your vocalizationsfly as you orgasm. For some of you, alone time isn't easy to come by. Inthat case, lock the door to your room (or bathroom) and crank up somemusic to give yourself some privacy. (I love my portable BOSE radio forthis.)Think of your list of what turns you on. Mentally conjure up your deepest,darkest, wildest fantasies.As you start to self-pleasure, begin growling. As you build to orgasm,continue your moaning and growling, but feel free to let out whateverhappens naturally. Including a roar.There is not one “right” way to growl and moan. The important thing is tolet it OUT.Don't think about what it is you are saying. Release self-judgment. And doNOT censor yourself. Just make the noises and say the words that happenas they happen.It is normal to feel completely self-conscious when you do this at first.I felt like a complete idiot when I first tapped into my lion's roar. It waslike I'd been possessed and was letting my animal out.Afterward, I was a bit shy and embarrassed by the sounds that had cometumbling out of my body.But there was something so powerful and fierce about expressing myselfthat way, and I let those feelings of power outweigh my insecurities.I want you to do the same.Practice accessing your growls and moans from that primal anduninhibited place. When you feel comfortable, move to step 5.8
Getting Her Addicted To YouStep 5: Share your soundsOne important thing to note: you may find that your “moan” may differaccording to your mood or what you are fantasizing about when youmasturbate. Your Masculine Moan isn't a one-size-fits-all noise.Your Masculine Moan is when you are so tuned into your desires andemotions in the moment that you let go of your inhibitions. You access thecore of your sexuality and you express what shows up.I tell you this because when you share your growls and moans with yourpartner, they may not be the same as when you practiced alone.That's normal.There isn't an elaborate set-up to getting ready for vocalizing. You justneed to relax your thoughts and simply focus on how you feel, bothemotionally and physically.What helps me is to mentally switch off the logical side of my brain andswitch on my feeling side – my pleasure sensing side.You also need to banish any thoughts of self-consciousness. Remember,you are powerful. You are fierce. You are damn sexy, and you are goingto blow her mind and her body.It doesn't matter if this is a long drawn-out, tantric love-making session(see my program, Tantra-X) or a hot and heavy quickie, you can shareyour sounds in any sexual expression.I found one way that is easy for me to get to my Masculine Moan place isto start by saying her name and that I like what she's doing. From there, Iallow myself to verbalize whatever shows up. I definitely don't thinkbefore I speak.I let it flow. Sexual flow. Verbal flow. Energy flow.And I let my Masculine Moan take over and just go with what happens.THAT is why this is powerful.9
Getting Her Addicted To YouBecause it is completely in the moment and uncensored. Remember, thereisn't a wrong way to do this!Her reactions:She may react in a few different ways.She may growl right back at you in obvious approval. She may be inspiredto join in and moan and let her own string of words fly out – and I call that"sex jazz."And she may be stunned into silence. This kind of primal display of yourphysical pleasure may shock her. This does NOT mean she's judging youor doesn't like it.Quite the contrary.This may be the first time she's ever witnessed her own ability to bring aman to the brink of orgasmic ecstasy. Especially if either of you have beenthe quieter type in the past.You can smooth over any awkward silences by simply saying somethinglike, “Wow, you really got me going tonight!” with a big grin and asnuggle.She may ask you why this time was different or what she did to make youmoan like that. Your response is totally up to you.One idea is to tell her that you finally feel free enough to express yourselfthat way with her. That she makes you feel safe and comfortable enoughto be uninhibited.Or you could just say "I don't know, it just sort of came out!" and leave itat that.No matter how she responds, just know that you've solidified your sexualconnection. You've gotten her more and more close to her primal voiceand flow. You've shown her how much she satisfies you and how in touchwith your primal sexuality you are.10
Getting Her Addicted To YouHer brain and body – and even her pussy – are now more in tune with youthan ever! And this technique builds on itself.What if you get too nervous?If you find you are letting stage fright take over, it's okay. It's normal tofeel a bit scared to reveal this very vulnerable and real side to yoursexuality.The first time may not go like you thought it would. That's okay. Thepoint is to keep trying. Go back to Steps 1 and 2. Then next time you havesex, try out Step 3 again.The only thing I ask is that you try it out for 30 days! Add the growl andsee what happens.Your Moment of Sexual Zen: Your breath. Your growl. These are thesounds of primordial ancestors making love in caves. This is our history.Make it yours NOW.11
NOT censor yourself. Just make the noises and say the words that happen as they happen. It is normal to feel completely self-conscious when you do this at first. I felt like a complete idiot when I first tapped into my lion's roar. It was like I'd been
