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THE PRESIDENT’S PENContrasts and IntrospectionOnce again thetime machine is atwork. As I writethis I am in themidst of the Hagim, while you, thereader, see theHagim receding inthe rear-view mirror. In writing this column I will try to be true to both visions.Because of the calendar, the Holidayswere late this year. This produced an odd“pregnant pause” between Labor Day andRosh Hashanah. Then, in Tishrei, wemoved through the usual intense feelingsof renewal, and the even more intensefeelings of Yom Kippur, and then, with asigh of relief, we celebrate Sukkot.Which brings us to Heshvan. As I said lastyear, Heshvan is sometimes referred to asMar Heshvan. In Hebrew, “mar” means“bitter.” Our Sages explain this“bitterness” is because there are no special occasions in this month. Even Av, themonth when we mourn the destruction ofthe two Holy Temples, is not referred to as“bitter,” because even sad days offer us anopportunity for introspection. A monththat is bereft of any special days, even sad I remember in college, in Psychology 101,days, is truly more bitter than anything.we learned that you can’t accurately evaluate something unless you could contrastWell at FHJC Heshvan is not at all bitter.it with another object. That was veryWe start with Veterans Shabbat. We intro- much what was happening here. We haveduced this special Shabbat last year and it a long, rich tradition of ritual and custom.was a success beyond our hopes. In addi- Sometimes a subtly nuanced tradition,tion to the attendance of Jewish veterans other times as subtle as a hammer blow.from the local area, numerous members Comparing how this woman of anotherbrought in memorabilia of relatives no faith viewed these passages, and thenlonger with us. I remember walking contrasting it with my own views, gave mearound with the Torah processional as a whole new dimension of clarity of ourpeople waved dog tags. It gave all of us a history and traditions.chance to think about where we are, howAnd of course Heshvan is Jewish Socialwe got here and the people who made itAction month. Our Religious School ispossible.working in partnership with the interfaithNext we will have our Thanksgiving Inter- nutrition network, and our members volfaith service.unteer at the Queens Community HousePantry as part of the Forest Hills InterfaithHaving been raised by refugees from NaziFellowship. Our Sisterhood has done aEurope, I have always felt uncomfortablecollection for Transition House, a nonbeing involved with ceremonies involvingsectarian shelter for women and children.other faiths. Last year I had a surprise. IAnd of course we regularly send volunwas sitting next to a woman from one ofteers to serve food at Masbia.our Christian churches. She was fascinatedby our Siddur. We spent some time look- So, “Mar Heshvan,” sorry, not this year, ating at various passages, and I was sur- least not at the Forest Hills Jewish Center.prised at how differently, consistently There will be plenty of opportunity fordifferently, we viewed those passages.(Continued on page 5)MEMBERSHIP & COMMUNITY AFFAIRSSince this article for the Messageis being written right after SimchatTorah, I am reflecting on the beautiful and meaningful holidays thatwe shared together at the ForestHills Jewish Center over the lastfew weeks. So many different individuals and families took part indifferent synagogue events andservices. This is what makes ourshul so special. All are welcomeand we hold a special place in thepast, present and future of ourForest Hills community.But as wonderful as the past hasbeen, we struggle to engage ourmembers to step up and volunteertochaircommitteesandevents. Please contact me withyour ideas and willingness to chaira program. We will support you in4this endeavor and help you succeed. Honestly, volunteering tochair many programs over theyears has helped me improve somany skills that were applicable for work and life that I definitely got back more than Igave. Volunteering can give you asense of accomplishment, thegood feeling of doing somethingthat helps others in the community, the camaraderie of working aspart of a team or committee andthe respect and appreciation ofthe people who participate.Please do complete the surveyand return it, so we can be betterat what we do. We have engageda social media volunteer to helpbrand us and send out throughFacebook and other social mediachannels some of the fun activitiesthat are happening here everyday.In closing, we have much to begrateful for and in that vein I wishyou a great Thanksgiving holidayand let's all enjoy Hanukah together again as members of this greatsynagogue.Over the next few weeks, we willBest personal regards,be sending out by email a shortsurvey on how we can improve Helaine Fox, VP of Membershipour communications and find out and Community Affairswhat you would like to know, whatprograms or events interest you.

UNITED PARENTSIt’s been a verybusy fall for United Parents atFHJC! So muchhas been happening over the lastseveral weeks.The school yearhad a fantastic kickoff with Shacharit onthe Beach. Our Director of CongregationalLearning, Lynn Lancaster, arranged thisunique and beautiful program, on September 18. The Religious School and manymembers of the Congregation spent themorning at Rockaway Beach. RabbiSkolnik and Hazzan Rosenblum led theShacharit service beside the ocean, whichwas followed by Rabbi Skolnik’s blowingof the Shofar. Children participated in Israeli dancing, adults studied with RabbiSkolnik and Rabbi Mark Borovitz and everyone had an opportunity to go surfing!This was an amazing pre-Rosh Hashanaprogram that involved learning, reflectionand fun!chot and enjoyed a light dinner.The children had a great timewhile also seeing the beauty ofShabbat.United Parents also helpedcelebrate Simchat Torah onMonday evening, October 24with our Ice Cream Party! Theevening started with a specialfirst Hakafah for children. Itwas wonderful to have somany families participate inthis special Hakafah. Afterwards,all the children went up to the CrystalRoom to enjoy ice cream and candy!United Parents is also pleased to onceagain be sponsoring an Israeli Dance classon Sunday mornings. “Dancing Danny”Pollock is returning to teach the class. Lastyear, all the participants raved about Danny, and there was an enormous amount ofenergy in the class. Please contact themain office for further information.Mark your calendars for Sunday, December 11. United Parents is excited to anA week later, the Nursery School held itsnounce that it will be holding a PJ LibraryWelcome Back Picnic on Sunday, SeptemRead-a-thon and Book Fair.ber 25 in Cunningham Park in Fresh Meadows. It was a wonderful way for the nurse- We also would like to thank everyone whory school to start the new school year. participated in our schools supplies andParents and teachers mingled while Rosh Hashanah honey fundraisers. Bothcoaches from Soccer Friends helped keep were very successful and allow us to conthe children entertained. To top it off, the tinue planning great events that benefitthe children of FHJC.weather was beautiful!On Friday night, September 30, UnitedParents sponsored a “Dress Your BestShabbat.” The Rabbi and Hazzan sangShabbat songs with the children, whowere all dressed in their finest for Shabbat. Afterwards, everyone sang the bra-Please join us for our next United ParentsMeeting on Monday, November 14, 2016at 8:00 PM.Thank you for all your support.Alyssa Pollack and Richard Chase(The President’s Pen continued from page 4)introspection, thinking about our lives,our faith, our traditions and the world welive in. I hope that we are all better off forthat experience.As I’ve said many times before, we areliving in a country and in a time that isperhaps the best place and time to be aJew. This year in Heshvan, let’s take a moment and appreciate where and when weare.Let me take an opportunity in advance tothank all the volunteers who make theseevents possible. This is YOUR shul and itdepends on YOU to make it the greatplace that it is.I look forward to seeing you at each ofthese events. I wish you all a happy,healthy and joyous secular and Jewishholidays.Jack GostlOngoing Chesed Opportunities at FHJCThroughout the year, there are many chances to offer nothing but time to help others.Monthly Evening Food Pantry at the Queens Community House. On the last Wednesday of each month, you have two two-houropportunities to help. At the afternoon session, volunteers from Forest Hills faith communities--including FHJC--help creategrocery packages of donated nonperishable foods from The Food Bank for NYC as well as from within the congregations. At theevening sessions, volunteers monitor the pick-up of these packages by the recipient families. To volunteer, contact Hal Berkowitz,Volunteer Liaison, at redzonehal@aol.com. If you've already volunteered, thank you; we look forward to you honoring thatcommitment.Nonperishable Food Drive at FHJC. This ongoing project, spearheaded by Ron Sternberg, splits nonperishable food donated byFHJC congregants between City Harvest and the Monthly Evening Food Pantry. There's no signup needed; just drop off packagedfood items in the FHJC office.Volunteering costs nothing, but it's worth millions!5

Kids KongregationChildren ages 2-6 year old, with a parentCome join us every Shabbat from10:45 AM – 11:45 AMSINGING—DANCING—PRAYERP’ri Yadehah: Fruit of Her HandsJoin us forSisterhood’sTorah FundCampaign BrunchSunday, December 4When We HonorOur Woman of AchievementJudith BeizerAnd our Guest Speaker will be Karen SteinGraduate of The Jewish Theological SeminarySisterhood member and FHJC Ritual Committee cochair, Judy Beizer, has led a number of Sisterhoodsponsored lectures on medication-related issues inaddition to being our reliable Sisterhood Shabbat aide.And, Judy is a dedicated Torah Fund supporter!Karen Stein, an active Forest Hills Jewish Center volunteer and teacher within our Religious School, will sharethe personal journey that led her to JTS, and ultimately, our spiritual community.Learn more about Judy’s and Karen’s commitment toJewish education by attending this important fundraiser dedicated to supporting the students of JTS and itsaffiliated institutions.Your 100% tax-deductible donation will help secure afuture generation of rabbis, cantors, educators andlay leaders within Conservative/Masorti Judaism.10:30 AM —The Estelle Feiner Crystal Room 38 per person/ Minimum donation: 18RSVP by Monday, November 28Event Chairwomen: Miriam Chait, Anise Parnes andShirley Rossman-Zucker6News From Nursery SchoolSusan Rosenbaum(Adapted from ChooseMyPlate.gov “Be aHealthy Role Model for Children —10 tips forsetting good examples”)You are the most important influence on your child. You can domany things to help your child develop healthy eating habits for life.Offering a variety of colorful foodshelps children get the nutrientsthey need from every food group.Children will also be more likely totry new foods and to like morefoods. When children develop ataste for many types of foods, theyexpand their palates.Let your child see that you enjoyeating fruits and vegetables assnacks. When we lead by example,children tend to follow. Groceryshopping together can teach yourchild about food and nutrition. Discuss where fruits, vegetables,grains and dairy come from. Letyour children make healthy choices.Reward your child with attention,not food. Show your love with hugsand kisses, and comfort your childwith hugs and talks. Choose not tooffer sweets as rewards. It lets yourchild think that sweets are betterthan other foods. If your child ishungry, offer a healthy snack. It canhelp hold them off until the nextmeal.Focus on each other at the table.Make sure you talk about fun andhappy things at mealtime. Try tomake eating meals a stress-freetime. Be a good food role model bytrying new foods yourself. Offeronly one new food at a time, andserve something your child likesalong with the new food. Offer newfoods at the beginning of the mealwhen your child is most hungry asthey will be more likely to try thenew food.Be creative in the kitchen. Cut foodinto fun shapes with cookie cutters, Shop together, cook together, eatname a dish after your child, and together, talk together, and makelet them help with the preparation. mealtime family time.MERCAZ UPDATESupportreligiouspluralisminIsrael.Join MERCAZ USA. The more members MERCAZ USA has, the stronger the Conservative/Masorti voice in the World Zionist Organization will be. Having a strong voice in theWorld Zionist Organization ensures the sustainability of religious pluralism in Israel. The strengthof Conservative/Masorti institutions in Israel depends on your joining MERCAZ USA.Suggested membership dues have gone backdown to their 2015 fiscal year rates! 54 for families, 36 for individuals and 12 for students. Formore information and to join MERCAZ orcontactDavidSnyder(dasnyder76@gmail.com) for more information.

Religious School ReflectionLynn LancasterOne of the challenges that every educator faces is assessment. How do I know Ihave achieved the goals I have set for mylearners? This is difficult enough whenone teaches tangible concepts that canbe assessed through particular models. In Jewish education we face the challenge of assessinglearning that takes place not only in the head, but in the heartand hands as well.noted and named. At a Shabbat service when two young girlsborn and raised in our community saw a new classmate sittingacross the room with her parents they walked over and invitedher to sit with them. Their teacher noticed and wrote them anote expressing her pride. When the air conditioning malfunctioned in a classroom on a hot afternoon, the class next doorinvited the grade below them to learn with them for the afternoon. The students recognized this as an act of chesed beforethe teachers did. I am happy to say that the list goes on and on.In our work over the summer, the Religious School staff decidedto focus on the Jewish concept of chesed—loving kindness. Asour country seemed to move from one contentious news cycleto the next, we believed as a group that the ability to teach ourchildren to express chesed in our school and our communitylarge and small was a way of empowering them to make adifference in an edgy world. We grappled as a staff with howchesed could be explored and explained on different cognitiveand emotional levels. We also grappled with how to assess ifour learners had internalized the lessons we were trying toteach. Were the experiences we were providing moving thelearning from head to heart to hand?In and of itself, these conscious acts of chesed and the recognition of these acts would be enough, but we have begun tonotice something equally important. As we focus as a staff onthe positive acts of our students, our relationships with thembecome deeper and more meaningful. We believe that this istrue of their relationships with each other as well.We decided that on every developmental level we would woulduse noticing targets to assess the learning, but that rather thanjust note the actions we saw for educational purposes we wouldmake sure to share them in real time with our children. So every time an act of chesed is noticed by a teacher or a student it isIn a few days we will mark the beginning of the month of Heshvan. We will mark the event with a Rosh Hodesh group for ourgirls and a “Bro” Hodesh group for our boys. Though they willhave slightly different foci, both groups will be focusing on thewords we speak to each other. We will explore the characteristics of Lashon Hara, bad speech, as well as the characteristics ofLashon Hatov, good speech. Words have the ability to affect useither positively or negatively and once again we hope to toempower our students to recognize and use that power to maketheir world and ours a little bit better through Jewish learning.Hodesh Tov.Adult Education—Ongoing Learning OpportunitiesTwo Talmud Classes with Rabbi SkolnikThursday morning Talmud resumes meets right after minyan in the Rabbi’s office. The text is Chapter 4 ofTractate B’rakhot, dealing with issues related to Jewish prayer, and the political structure of rabbinic leadershipin Talmudic times. Classes will meet on 11/3, 11/10, 11/17, 12/1, 12/8, and 12/15.Monday evening Talmud class meets at 7:45PM right after the evening minyan, in the Little Synagogue.Classes will meet on 11/7, 11/14, 11/21, 11/28, 12/5, and 12/12 .Hazzan Rosenblum teaches The Essential Torah ReaderHazzan Rosenblum will offer a class called "The Essential Torah Reader." For beginners and goodreaders who wish to become "expert" readers by learning both Tropes and Biblical Grammar.Meets Wednesday at 7:45 right after evening minyan in the Little Synagogue. Classes will meet 11/2,11/9, 11/16, 11/30, 12/7 and 12/14.Back to the Beginning– Bereishit Rabbah with Rabbi Simeon CohenThis year, to coincide with the beginning of our Torah reading cycle, we are going to be studying Bereshit Rabbah, the classical compilation of midrashim on the book of Genesis. Come learn whatthe rabbis had to say about the creation of the universe, the expulsion from Eden, the Tower of Babel,the Binding of Isaac and much, much more. Studying Bereshit Rabbah is an excellent way to begin thestudy of midrash, and will hopefully add great depth to the way you think about Genesis.Meets Tuesdays at 2:30 PM in room 110.7

Join our community as we come together to celebrate ShabbatFriday Night, December 16Reservationsrequired fordinner,all classes andchildcare.5:00 PM Kabbalat Shabbat and Ma’ariv in the Estelle Feiner Crystal RoomFollowing services, there will be a traditional Shabbat dinner (by reservation only)7:45 PM Keynote Presentation– Louis Brandeis: A Look at His Life & Legacy (open to all)We will join Hazzan Rosenblum in singing Zemirot throughout the evening.Friday night Dinner reservations: Age 13 and up— 30 per person / Age 4-12— 10 per personSaturday, December 17Shabbat services at 9:00AM followed by a Cholent Kiddush in the Heller Family Ballroom8 different classes to choose from for afternoon study (Childcare available)3:50PM early Minha Rabbi Skolnik will give the final presentation during Seudah Sh’lishit(the third meal of Shabbat)We will conclude Shabbat with Ma’ariv at 5:30PM and a musical HavdalahLenny Picker will deliver our keynote presentation:Louis Brandeis: A Look at His Life & LegacyOne hundred years after Louis Brandeis became the first Jewish US Supreme CourtJustice, recent decisions such as Citizens United and National Federation of Independent Business v. Sebelius (upholding ObamaCare), have made even clearer the importance of the least-known branch of the federal government. With current JusticesRuth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen Breyer and Elena Kagan, it is easy to take for grantedJewish representation on the court. But the road to confirmation was not an easy onefor Brandeis. Lenny will look back at the battle to get Brandeis confirmed, his term asa Supreme Court Justice, as well as his influential role in American Zionism, and onAmerican case law.Lenny Picker has practiced law for almost 30 years, and hopes, soon, to get it right.While he was a college student, he was fortunate enough to work on federal organized crime prosecutions in the 1980s, including the trial of the Mafia’s ruling body,the Commission, and the case that became the basis of the movie Donnie Brasco, although his courtroom assistance did not, somehow, make the final cut of the film. Before graduating from Yale, Lenny also served as an analyst for the President’s Commission on Organized Crime, and, while in law school, probed the Reagan administration’s arms for hostages deal with the Independent Counsel investigating Iran/Contra. After graduating fromCardozo, Lenny served as an assistant district attorney in Manhattan, where he specialized in domestic violencecases, before becoming New York City’s first inspector general for procurement investigations. For the last 11years, Lenny has handled property tax fraud for the New York Ci

November—December 2016 Heshvan -Kislev-5777 Vol. LXX No. 2 סליה טסרופ'ד ידוהיה זכרמה December 17, 2016 inematek Forest Hills Presents Join the Forest Hills community for the 2016 Interfaith