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Introduction toBiblical CounselingHow to Help People ChangeUsing the Word of GodBy Dr. Kevin E. Hurt, PastorGrace Bible ChurchMountain City, GA
Table of ContentsTHE FOUNDATIONS - Essentials for Biblical Counseling Is the Bible Enough? . A Comparison of Psychology and the Bible3 The Biblical Process of Change . The Method and Motivation6Behind Biblical Change Diagnosing the Problem & Discovering the Solution . How to Use8God's Word to Accurately Define and Change the Issues of LifeTHE APPLICATIONS - Areas to Apply Biblical Counseling Counseling Those Who Are Depressed10 Counseling Those Who Are Angry14 Counseling Those Who Are Fearful17 Counseling Those Who Need to Forgive20 Counseling Those Who Have Regret23 Counseling Those Who Experience Rejection26 Counseling Those Who Need an Accurate Self-Image29THE TOOLS FOR THE TRADE - Things to Further Equip You for Counseling The P.D.I. (Personal Data Inventory) . To Help You Gather InitialData from the Counselee The Weekly Counseling Report . To Help You Collect Weekly DataDuring Counseling Sessions Books on Biblical Counseling . Resources That Will Help You Growin Counseling How to Become I.A.B.C. (International Association of Biblical32363738Counselors) Certified . A Certifying Organization For Those WhoDesire Certification As a Biblical CounselorPage 2
Is The Bible Enough?A Comparison of Psychology and the BibleINTRODUCTION - What About Psychology? Understanding the Term “Psychology” Understanding 3 General Categories of Psychology1) Traditional Psychological Counseling2) Integrated Counseling3) Biblical CounselingThe Puritans Were Known as “Soul Doctors” They were committed to the authority of theScriptures. They had a highly developed system of forpersonal problems. They provided balanced , not based on particular“personality theory”, but on Biblical teaching about the heart. They were about indwelling sin, conflicts, andproblems that Christians continually experience in their lives. They understood man as fundamentally a beingand saw that all problems grow out of a “sinful imagination” or an“idol making” heart. They believed the to be belief in the gospel, usedboth in repentance and the development of a proper self-understanding.Adapted from a 1998 article by Tim Keller entitled “PuritanResources for Biblical Counseling”Page 3
LESSONI. THE DIVERSITY OF PSYCHOLOGYSkinner:“It is your .”Freud:“It is your .”Rogers:“It is that you don’t know thepotential that is in you.”II. THE DESIGN OF PSYCHOLOGYIII. THE DECEPTION OF PSYCHOLOGYIntegrationistPage 4
5 Reasons You Should Not Integrate the Bible With Psychology1) The Bible is truth.2) The Bible is truth.3) It substitutes wisdom for wisdom.4) It ignores the of man.5) It leads to on man rather than God.IV. THE DISEASE MODEL OF PSYCHOLOGYIn the field of psychology, many issues which the Bible defines asand have been labeled asa .However, most of the diagnoses are not determined by amethod, but rather by the (the bible of psychiatry).Principles to Remember:Christians should learn todistinguish between “Biblical Counseling” and “Psychological”or “Integrated Christian Counseling”5 questions to make sure you know the answers to1. What is your perspective on the Bible and its contribution to counseling?2. What is your perspective on God?3. What is your perspective on human nature and motivation?4. What is your perspective of the gospel?5. What is your perspective of counseling?Page 5
The Biblical Process of ChangeThe Method and Motivation Behind Biblical ChangeINTRODUCTION - It’s All About Changing!LESSONI. THE METHOD BEHIND BIBLICAL CHANGE—How Does Change Take Place?The Principle For ChangeEphesians 4:22-32“Put off” & “Put on”The Exhortation vs. 22-24The Examples vs. 25-32The Process For ChangeII Timothy 3:15-17For the Sinner v.15For the Saint vs. 16-17The 4-fold process for all change“doctrine” or ning in righteousness”Page 6
The Power For ChangeThe ScriptureThe SpiritII. THE MOTIVE BEHIND BIBLICAL CHANGE—What Drives Us To Change?The Gospel—Past & PresentThe Gospel—Putting It Into PracticeRemind yourself that God is .Remind yourself of the of sin.Remind yourself of what Jesus’ sinless life and substitutionary deathfor you.Remind yourself of, and believe, the precious ofGod’s Word.Principles to Remember:To the degree the is dwelling in us,that is the degree that the is controllingus. Likewise, the is controlling us tothe degree the is dwelling in us.The Gospel is God’s on life as it shows mewhat is and how He it.Page 7
Diagnosing The Problem & Discovering The SolutionHow to Use God's Word to Accurately Define and Change the Issues of LifeINTRODUCTION - What Would Jesus Say?LESSONI. DIAGNOSE THE PROBLEM IN LIGHT OF THE SCRIPTURESCollect the data:Proverbs 18:2Proverbs 18:13, 15, 17Listen for . v. 13Listen for the facts. v. 15Listen actively for the facts. v. 17Consider the data:5 Areas to Consider1)2)3)4)5)Page 8
II. DISCOVER THE BIBLICAL SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEMJames 1:56 Problem Solving Questions:1)What must be put ?2)What must be put ?3)Are there any in Scripture that I must obey to solve theproblem?4)Are there any in Scripture from which a solution can bederived?5)Has in Scripture ever faced the same (or similar)situation?6)Are there any in Scripture that can be claimed?Principles to Remember:Helping people change requires . Romans 15:14Helping people change requires a life-long commitment tounderstanding the . II Timothy 2:15Page 9
Counseling Those Who Are DepressedINTRODUCTION—Some Facts About Depression It is theof mental illness. to are depressed at any given time. out of can be expected to be treated for depression at sometime. (between ages 18–74 yrs old) currently suffer from severedepression. It is three times more prevalent among the higher and. It is two times more prevalent among than men. It is the definite leading cause of .LESSONI. DEFINING DEPRESSION - The ConceptAn extremely unpleasant mood of , , ,, and that is: in itsimpact, in its influence and can be in natureand in duration. —Wayne MackA condition in which the counselee has ceased to hisand does not even care to his. He is functioning , sees littlein , feels , and his speech is studded with theword “ .”— Jay AdamsPage 10
A.Biblical Examples:B.A Look at Psalm 42 (symptoms of depression)1. vs. 1,22. v. 33. v. 44. vs. 5,75. v. 96. v. 10Page 11
II. DIAGNOSING DEPRESSION - The CausesA. influences.B. behavior.Two Common Sins to Look For:1.2.C. thinking.Four Areas That People Think Wrongly About:1.2.3.4.D. Responding to the stresses of life in a way.Page 12
III. DEALING WITH DEPRESSION - The CureA. If possible, identify the and deal with it.B. Don’t withdraw into - .C. Fulfill your God-given .D. Develop a life of .Principles To Remember:Remember that stress is to us all.Don’t follow your , follow your .Depression ChartPage 13
Counseling Those Who Are AngryINTRODUCTION— Anger is one letter short of danger!Two kinds of anger anger: Your objective is to destroy the . anger: Your objective is to destroy the .Two expressions of sinful angerby Dr. Jay Adams “What to Do When Anger Gets the Upper Hand”LESSONI. MAKE SURE YOUR ANGER IS BE HOLY.Nehemiah 5:6Things that are dishonoring to GodPage 14
Righteous AngerSinful AngerGod does not get what He wants.I do not get what I want.—His will is violated.—My will is violated.—Motivated by love for God.—Motivated by love for the idol ofmy heart.—Christ is Lord.—I am lord.Ephesians 4:26James 4:1How can you be sure your anger is righteous?1. Does my anger me?2. Is anger a characteristic of my life?3. Do I and ?4. Do I keep a running of wrongs done to me?5. Am I or hold a against someone?6. Do I that I am angry?7. Do I take into my own hands?8. Do I take out my anger on individuals?II. MAKE SURE YOUR ANGER IS BE HARNESSED.Nehemiah 5:7aHe gained control of his before he spoke a word.This means you need to pick the right and use the rightof voice when you speak.Page 15
III. MAKE SURE YOUR ANGER IS BE HELPFULNehemiah 5:7b-13The goal is to solve the not destroy the .Constructive steps to take:1. the wrong the person has done in terms. vs. 7b-82. Encourage them to God with their lives. vs. 9-103. Give them suggestions for change. vs. 11-13Principles To RememberImmediately ask God to help you handle the potentiallydistressing circumstance in a — way.Remember that God is over the circumstancesyou are in.Thank God for the He is going to give you.Examine yourself to see if you have anything tomake the situation volatile.Guard against your and focus onthe Lord.Always seek to provide .Page 16
Counseling Those Who Are FearfulINTRODUCTION—Is all fear wrong? Fear that you is not wrong. Feat that you is wrong.The Concerns (4 Things)1. Fear of making .2. Fear of making someone else or .3. Fear of losing .4. Fear of physical or .The Characteristics1. A tendency to the things which make them afraid (people,places, and circumstances).2. concerned about what other peopleof them.3. A tendency to concern into the future.Page 17
4. Increased tension.5. : Afraid of what someone or something will do tothem.LESSONI. THE EXAMPLE OF PARALYZING FEARMatthew 14:22-33The Bible makes anxiety a issue: It has to do with ourrelationship to the Lord.We are not , we are .“You of little faith, why did you doubt?” v. 31II. THE EXHORTATIONS FOR PARALYZING FEARMatthew 14:26-33Adjust your vs. 26-271. God is your storms. vs. 22-242. God is your storms. v. 25Page 18
Adjust your vs. 28-331. You must be more concerned with God’sWord than you are with following your .2. You must make your priority. ( See I John 4:18and I Corinthians 13:5b. In the diagram below, cross out the twowords “love” and you will see what fear is related to.)FEARVS.LOVELOVEVS.SELFISHNESSPrinciples to RememberYour goal is to help the anxious person learn how to showto God and others as it relates to the area of theirfear.Help them apply the Biblical alternative to their anxiety fromPhilippians 4:6-9 using the anxiety journal.Biblical vs. 6-7Biblical v. 8Biblical v.9Page 19
Counseling Those Who Need To ForgiveINTRODUCTION—Forgiveness: It is difficult!In Luke 17:3, Jesus said two difficult things related to forgiveness to the person about their . “If your brother sins, rebuke him;” If he repents, him. “and if he repents, forgive him.”LESSONI. THE PROBLEMS WE FACE WITH FORGIVENESSLuke 17:4-10We don’t see immediate . v.4We don’t have enough . vs. 5-6We don’t have the to forgive. vs. 7-10II. THE PASSAGES ON FORGIVENESSWhen you are the offender—Matthew 5:23-244 DirectivesYou are to . “Leave your offering there before the altar.”Then . “ and go.”Page 20
Seek to be . “First be reconciled to your brother.”Then . “.and then come and present your offering.”When You Are The Offended—Matthew 18:21-353 Principles To RememberTo refuse to forgive is . v. 32To refuse to forgive is . v. 33To refuse to forgive invites . v. 34-35III. THE PROMISE OF FORGIVENESSThe concept of remembering it no more:Jeremiah 31:34It doesn’t mean that you have remembrance of the wrong done.It means you do not it to your mind.Page 21
The conditions for remembering it no more:You promise 3 things1. I will not bring it up to .2. I will not bring it up to .3. I will not bring it up to .Principles To RememberFocus fully on God’s of you.Deal directly and honestly with any youcurrently have toward any person.various ways you can youroffender and begin these things right now.Accept the fact that it is always move first:whether you are the offender, or the offended.Page 22
Counseling Those Who Have RegretINTRODUCTION— What kind of regret do you have? Regret because of .The IllustrationThe InsightIn such cases we must ask others to us for our errors injudgment, and trust in the of God. Regret because of .The IllustrationThe InsightThe regret will not change what has happened in the , but God canstill use that emotion of regret to make the best of the .The goal with this type of regret is to give them .Page 23
LESSONI. PEOPLE WITH REGRET NEED TO KNOW CHRISTFOR THEM.Luke 22:31-32The people who are tempted v. 31 “you” is pluralThe prayer for the tempted v. 32 “you” is singularII. PEOPLE WITH REGRET NEED TO KNOW CHRISTTHEM.Luke 22:33-34The insistence by Peter v.33The insight by Christ v.34Page 24
III. PEOPLE WITH REGRET NEED TO KNOW CHRISTTHEM.John 21:15-17The request by Christ “Do you love me?”The reply by Peter “You know that I love You.”Principles To Rememberthe experiences, words, and the actions youhave taken that still arouse feelings of regret.Determine the of regret you have.Learn to find in Christ.Focus on replacing regret with .Page 25
Counseling Those Who Experience RejectionINTRODUCTION— “A broken spirit who can bear it?”Proverbs 18:14 The Reality of Rejectionrejection.rejection. The Results of RejectionIf not dealt with Biblically, it can lead to a whole list of problems .Terrible . This loneliness can lead to ,, and attempts at .They become and toward those whohave rejected them. The Resource in RejectionIsaiah 53the words that rejection and the resultingfeelings.Then what Jesus has for you despite the rejection Heexperienced.Page 26
LESSONI. JESUS’ REJECTION PROVIDES SYMPATHY. vs. 1-4Jesus was rejected because of His v.2Matthew 2:23v.3for sin v. 4Page 27
II. JESUS’ REJECTION PROVIDES SALVATION vs. 4 –1 0Jesus bore 2 things for usHe bore our . v. 4He bore our . vs. 5-10III. JESUS’ REJECTION PROVIDES SECURITY.vs. 11-12Christ’s righteousness makes us to God.Understanding our acceptance to God makes others to us.Principles to RememberThe first step is to begin a life of .Second, lay down all .Take the risk of making new .Page 28
Counseling Those Who Need an Accurate Self-ImageINTRODUCTION– The self-esteem movement The Message of Human GoodnessAccording to the self-esteem movement, there are no ,only people who of themselves.They teach that if people feel about themselves, they willbetter, have fewer , and more.Note: There is plenty of evidence to suggest that self-esteem does not work.In the case of academics:In the area of morality: The Myth of Human Goodness4 consequences of this myth1) It attributes the cause of evil to a force of ourselves.2) It denies within us, and stresses that is normalto us.Page 29
3) It removes the need to teach people what is .4) It focuses on changing outside forces instead of people’s ,, and .LESSONI. HOW TO DEFINE A BIBLICAL SELF-IMAGEThe danger—2 extremes to guard againstMan is .Man is .The definition—How to think of ourselvesSelf-image is the we come to as weourselves. Note When a person says that they have a problem with their self-image, wemust first examine what they are about themselves, rather thanwhat they are about themselves.Page 30
Note When we define what they think about themselves, we must thendetermine if their evaluation of themselves is or not. Wethen must proceed with helping them develop an self-image.II. HOW TO DEVELOP AN ACCURATE BIBLICAL SELF-IMAGEHave the counselee make a of how he himself.Then, take these views and see if they are ,but not , or and sinful.Next, determine what is the way to his evaluationof himself.Inaccurate Perception(Change perception)Accurate but not Sinful(Change values)Accurate, and Sinful(Change behavior)Principles to RememberOur first objective is to discover what they ofthemselves and help them develop the proper Biblicalto these thoughts.As a Christian our concern should not be to pursue , but rather to become a self.When you help a person conform to God’s standard then youwill help them to better.Page 31
GBC Counseling Personal Data InventoryPlease complete this inventory answering all questions carefullyReturn to: Grace Bible Church – P.O. Box 631 – Mountain City, GA 30562Personal IdentificationName: Birth Date:Address: Zip Code:Age: Sex: Referred By:Marital Status:Single: Engaged: Married: Separated:Divorced: Widowed:Education (last year completed):Home Phone: Work PhoneEmployer: Position:Years:Marriage and FamilySpouse: Birth Date:Age: Occupation: How Long Employed:Home Phone: Work Phone:Date of Marriage: Length of Dating:Give a brief statement of circumstances of meeting and dating:Have either of you been previously married: To Whom:Have you ever been separated: Filed for divorce:Information about Children:Name:Age:Sex:Living(y/n):Last Year of Ed.:Step-Child:Page 32
Describe relationship to your father:Describe relationship to your mother:Number of sibling(s): Your sibling order:Did you live with anyone other than parents:Are your parents living: Do they live locally:HealthDescribe your health:Do you have any chronic conditions: What:List important illnesses and injuries or handicaps:Date of last medical exam: Report:Physician’s name and address:Current medication(s) and dosage:Have you ever-used drugs for anything other than medical purposes:If yes, please explain:Page 33
Have you ever been arrested:Do you drink alcoholic beverages: If so, how frequently and how much:Do you drink coffee: How much: Other caffeine drinks:How much:Do you smoke: What: Frequency:Have you ever had interpersonal problems on the job:Have you ever had a severe emotional upset: If yes, please explain:Have you ever seen a psychiatrist or counselor: If yes, please explain:Are you willing to sign a release of information form so that your counselor may write for social,psychiatric, or other medical records:SpiritualDenominational preference:Church attending: Member:Church attendance per month (circle): 0 12345678 Do you believe in God: Do you pray: Would you say that you are a Christian:, or still in the process of becoming a Christian:Have you ever been baptized:How often do you read the Bible: Never: Occasionally: Often: Daily:Explain any recent changes in your religious life:Women OnlyHave you had any menstrual difficulties: If you experience tension, tendency to cry,other symptoms prior to your cycle, please explain:Is you husband willing to come for counseling:Is he in favor of your coming: If no, please explain:Page 34
Problem Check List (Check all that FinancesPerfectionismChange in ationHealthSleepConflict (fights)HomosexualityWife abuseDeceptionImpotenceA ViceDecision MakingIn-lawsOtherBriefly Answer The Following Questions1. What is your problem (what brings you here)?2. What have you done about the problem?3. What are your expectations from counseling?4. Is there any other information that we should know?Page 35
Weekly Counseling ReportCounselee Date TimeSession # Counselor Observer Type of CounselingEvaluation of Last Homework Assignment:[ ][ ][ ][ ]Agenda[ ][ ][ ][ ][ ][ ][ ][ ][ ]Sin[ ]Summary of Today’s Session (Use the backof the page for additional notes)[ ]Hope[ ][ ]Homework[ ][ ][ ][ ]Page 36
Books on Biblical CounselingResources That Will Help You Grow in CounselingBooks available through Timeless Texts:1-800-814-1045www.timelesstexts.comBy Author Jay AdamsThe Christian Counselor’s ManualCompetent to CounselHow to Help People ChangeHelps for Counselors—A Mini-Manual for Christian CounselingSelf-Esteem, Self–Love, Self-ImageTheology of Christian CounselingBy Author Ed BulkleyHow Big is Your God?Only God Can Heal a Wounded HeartWhy Christians Can’t Trust PsychologyBy Author John F. MacArthur, Jr.Introduction to Biblical CounselingBy Author Wayne MackA Homework Manual for Biblical Living— Vol. I Personal & Interpersonal ProblemsA Homework Manual for Biblical Living — Vol. II Family and Marital ProblemsBy Author Martha PeaceBecoming a Titus 2 WomanThe Excellent WifeOther AuthorsBlame It on the Brain, Edward Welch (addresses the issues of chemical imbalances)Christian Psychology’s War on God’s Word, Jim OwenThe Complete Husband, Lou PrioloThe Heart of Anger, Lou Priolo (deals with the subject of children’s anger)How to Grow in Christ, Jack KinneerQuick Scripture References for Counseling, John KruisThe Useful Lie, William Playfair (deals with alcoholism)Women Helping Women, E. Fitzpatrick (deals with women’s related topics)Page 37
Dear New Friend,Thank you for inquiring about the International Association of Biblical Counselors. Enclosed you will find a handbook explaining the membership process. Please read itcarefully, and if you have any questions, feel free to contact our Western RegionalVice President, Dr. Chuck Andrews, at dr68chuck@aol.com, or our Eastern RegionalVice President, Dr. Kevin Hurt at kevin@dnet.net .We are continually developing our growing organization and we’re open to your suggestions. A primary philosophical precept of IABC is that it is impossible to mix psychology with the Bible and remain true to God’s Word. We genuinely believe that theBible provides all of the information necessary for the healing of the heart, soul, mind,and spirit of God’s children (2 Peter 1:3) as we allow the Holy Spirit to work.If you believe that God is just as able to heal the wounded heart in our age, as He waswhen Jesus walked this earth, you will find wonderful fellowship and encouragement inIABC. We hope you will stay in touch with us, visit our website at iabc.net, and joinwith us for our IABC Annual Bible Conference the first week in August in Denver, Colorado.I encourage you to fill out your membership application today and send it right back soyou can grow with us in your counseling ministry. I look forward to hearing from yousoon.President, IABCDr. Ed BulkleyPresidentDr. Chuck AndrewsWestern RegionalVice PresidentDr. Kevin HurtEastern RegionalVice PresidentPage 38
What is the purpose of IABC?IABC is Changing LivesBiblical Counseling is one of the most powerful and fastest growing movements today. Itsimpact is being felt throughout the Church and in the lives of many individuals. As God'salternative to secular psychology, Biblical Counseling is an effective force in changing thelives of those who seek Him.IABC is Training and SupportIABC promotes Biblical Counseling through seminars, conferences and workshops, encourages the development of Biblical research, and offers a counselor network for the exchange of information and client referral.What is the process with IABC?MembershipMembership for those desiring to be part of IABC does not require certification as a Biblical counselor. However, Membership is a prerequisite for becoming a Certified BiblicalCounselor with IABC.A member is not required to be active in a counseling ministry, but is included in the activities and benefits of the Association. Such benefits include updates on the issues relatedto Biblical Counseling, opportunities for you to grow through upcoming conferences, theIABC Newsletter, resources and tools useful for ministry, and much more. By being amember of this organization you will be assisting us in equipping the saints to do the workof the ministry.CertificationIABC offers a rigorous, yet achievable program of certification for those members whomeet the qualifications. Certification allows for counselors to meet a high standard ofcounseling excellence and Biblical integrity, promotes a uniform approach to counselingand provides cohesion in the Biblical Counseling movement.A Certified Biblical Counselor is one who is a member in good standing and has completed all the requirements outlined in the Certification Booklet. If you are considering certification, please include a request for the certification manual when you submit your application for membership. Upon the approval of your membership, you may begin the certification process.Note To obtain an Membership or Certification Booklet please contact I.A.B.C. at303-469-4222Page 39
Introduction toBiblical CounselingPost Office Box 631Mountain City, Georgia 30562706-746-5823706-746-5845 FaxE-mail: g
A Comparison of Psychology and the Bible INTRODUCTION - What About Psychology? Understanding the Term “Psychology” Understanding 3 General Categories of Psychology 1) Traditional Psychological Counseling 2) Integrated Counseling 3) Bibl
