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THE SECRETL ANGUAGE OFAT T R AC T I O NHow to speak a woman's secret languageand trigger her instant attraction.M AT T A R T I S A N

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Foreword:Your Life TransformedWhen it comes to romance women speak a radically different language thanmen. Men are from Mars, women from Venus and all that jazz. It’s the oldestjoke in the book, but what we keep forgetting is that with patience anylanguage can be learned.And this book is your Rosetta Stone.When you understand how to speak this “secret language,” you will tapinto instant attraction, a deep connection, and even feelings of arousal in amatter of seconds. While mastering female attraction might be thrillingenough, this book is intended to do far more than just improve your love life.As a condensed version of our intensive training courses, this book can changeyour entire life. I hear your chuckle, but think about it.The average guy goes through life never truly understanding women andnever becoming the best, most attractive version of himself. He doesn't have alot of dating options, so he settles for what he can get and then lives a life ofregret. And it’s not just his love life that suffers. Even in non-romanticrelationships with female coworkers, bosses, teachers, etc., this fellow neverquite seems to read women right and keeps getting off on the wrong foot withthem, which only feeds the regret monster.Let’s call this average fella Joe, though there are tens of millions of guysjust like him. Same as his old man, he works hard and while not perfect, has apretty decent moral compass. He’s doing his best in life and can’t wait to settledown and start his own family. He is an all-around good guy, Joe’s biggest faultis his obsession with what others think of him, and a hard-wired need to pleasethose around him, especially the ladies in his life.Joe’s friends say he’s pretty smart, fun but not exactly the life of the party.The ladies say he’s a “nice guy,” at least the few that can remember his name.Basically Mr. Average Joe.Since he devoted most of his time to school, work and his small group offriends, Joe never really bothered to “play the field” as a young man. Sure, he“hooked up” with a small handful of girls over the years, but nothing lasted

long enough to be considered serious. No matter how hard he clung to everynew girl or how much he bent over backwards to please them, for some reasonthey always began grumbling about him being “too clingy” and treated himmore like a friend than a boyfriend.But during a party in his senior year of college, a mutual friend introducedJoe to a sweet, pretty dark-haired undergrad named Veronica. They both hit itoff immediately, spending the rest of the night chatting and making outwithout even any booze to lubricate the mood. Joe’s whole world changed whenhe begged to take her out for a proper date and she giggled, “I can’t wait.” Afterhis poor track record with the fairer sex, the fantasy that this kind-hearted soulcould be attracted to a boring ‘ole nice guy like himself blew Joe away.Naturally, as they kept seeing more and more of each other, Joe pulled outall the stops to impress her. Veronica seemed uncomfortable at first with thepedestal he lofted her upon, but soon grew accustomed to the princesstreatment. She never quite returned the favor, but she was friendly and niceenough to keep him satisfied. After a few months, they both tossed around theL-word, even if the word rang a little hollow. Maybe it wasn’t a Hollywoodrom-com, but they both enjoyed each other’s company and felt safe together.Like an old, worn-in pair of underwear, their relationship might not havebeen sexy and exciting, but it was comforting and reassuring.Fast forward a year down the road with graduation right around thecorner and Joe had a major decision to make. Veronica kept talking about a jobon the West Coast, while Joe landed an interview for a great company on theEast Coast. The writing was on the wall.The icy fear of being single again, of starting all over in the dating gamewith no guarantee he’d find anyone better kept Joe awake at night. With all thepressure, it didn’t take Joe long to convince himself that he wasn’t settling, butrather settling down.Veronica had a mini-panic attack when he finally popped the question, butlike her mother before her, she convinced herself that “love isn’t found, it needsto grow.” After a few moments of stunned silence, or a few breathless years toJoe’s pounding heart, Veronica took a deep breath and wrapped him close,whispering the most exciting yet terrifying words he ever heard:

“I do.”The honeymoon briefly rekindled their earlier passions, but the effect woreoff faster than Joe ever dreamed. Not that things fell apart immediately though.They both slipped into a comfortable domestic routine in the first few years ofmarriage. To the outside world, their relationship had the slightest hint ofstrife or conflict.But it was easy to avoid conflict when the couple lived more like roommatesthan lovers. It wasn’t until after their first child came along that either partyfelt the cold tinge of permanence crushing their dreams for the future. Unableto point at any one thing that went wrong, both still felt trapped in their “ideal”marriage.To be fair, neither Veronica nor Joe tried to hurt their partner. They wereboth good people, but good God they couldn’t be communicating in moredifferent languages.For his part, Joe was a pleaser, always trying to make Veronica happy byputting her needs before his own. He lived by the old motto that his father hadingrained into his brain: “Happy wife, happy life.”For example, he always dreamed of writing a novel. A dream he clung tosince boyhood. Yet whenever he sat down in front of the computer during hislimited free time after work, Veronica would beg him to take care of somechore around the house. And without fail each and every time, he would meeklydrop what he was doing and scurry to obey. Needless to say, even after years ofwriting, he never got past the first few pages of that novel. Nor past the seedsof resentment blossoming in his frustrated soul.As for sweet Veronica, she never meant to take advantage of his overly niceguy behavior. She genuinely appreciated everything he did for her, and secretlyresented herself for being so demanding, but she could not shake the way hemade her feel. Veronica never asked to be treated like a queen. Why did he keepmaking all these unnecessary sacrifices and guilt-tripping her into returningthe favor?It’s not that she wanted her man to be a selfish a-hole, but there was nobalance of power in their relationship. She held all the cards, which ashamed

her as much as the power scared her. Joe would bend over backwards to herevery whim, never once standing up for himself, and then get frustrated whenshe wouldn’t do the same. She knew it wasn’t logical, but what does logic haveto do with the heart? His cowardice made her feel unsafe and insecure. Hisexcessive kindness read like manipulation. Combined with the cold fact that thetwo of them always seemed to communicate on opposite spectrums to beginwith well, it wasn’t long until she was subsumed by the darkest feeling that awoman knows:Being hopelessly lost.Still, Joe and Veronica reached a tipping point. There were some happytimes, but for the most part they stayed together for 15 years just trying tomake it work for the sake of their child. Even outsiders could tell theirmarriage grew purely professional as time wore on. A business relationship,with the only passion seen when they were fighting about some nonsensething. Which seemed to happen more and more frequently as the years draggedon. At some point in the last year of their marriage even their sex life putteredout. Joe resented having to beg for sex despite everything he did for her andVeronica hated being treated like a sexual vending machine that had to “putout” when he accrued enough romance points.You can probably guess where this old tale is going. As the judge at theirdivorce hearing pointed out, it didn’t matter who’s cheated. Only the futuremattered.Which wasn’t something Joe wanted to think about. Now almost in his40's, with half of his life savings gone, no wife, few friends, poor social skills,depleted confidence, and a child he could only see on the weekend, Joe had tostart all over.Sounds pretty grim, right? Well, this is an all-too-common story. In fact,my dad recently went through a horrible divorce in his 60's with a woman hestayed with for 20 years just for the sake of my half brother and sister. I betyou have a friend or family member in a similar toxic relationship. No onewants this for their life.

But Joe’s tale, my father’s or the struggles of millions of similar men don’thave to be so common. With just a little effort, any man can become the sort ofperson with options who doesn’t have to settle.Now I’m not running down marriage or any other long-termrelationship as long as you’re truly settling down with your soulmate andnot just settling for what you have at the moment. That’s just not fair to eitherof you and won’t end well for anyone.When you know the secret language of attraction, you’ll not just knowhow to meet the woman of your dreams, but you’ll know how to keep thepassion and love alive.

ContentsFOREWORD: YOUR LIFE TRANSFORME .3CONTENT .8INTRODUCTION: MAY YOUR DATING LIFE BE FOREVER CHANGE1How I Got Her .5Subconscious Attractio .11What’s In Store For You .14Phase I: Preparation - Understanding the language of attraction. .14Phase II: Approach – Breaking the ice and making a lasting impression.15Phase III: Closing the deal – Advanced techniques for every situation .16PHASE I: PREPARATION – MASTERING THE LANGUAGE OFATTRACTIO .17CHAPTER 1: UNDERSTANDING HER PRIMARY MOTIVATO .18What Do Women Want .23SAFETY AND SECURITY – THE GREATEST INFLUENCER OF WOME.25Female Intuition - A Woman’s Sixth Sens .27The Biggest Attraction Trigge .27CHAPTER 2: SPEAKING A WOMAN’S SECRET LANGUAG .31Make Her Hear What Isn’t Sai .34The Grammar Rules of Speaking Womanes .351) Context over Content – She feels what you are not saying .352) Female Intuition - Women notice everything. .353) Emotional Contagion – What you feel, she will feel as well.364) Talk is cheap. .36CHAPTER 3: THE KEY TO ATTRACTING WOME .37Tension Is A Grounded Man’s Secret Weapo .41DNRENDenerd?n?feNSGrounding Yoursel .43

The Nice Guy VS. The Bad Bo .44Passing Her Subconscious Tension Test .45How To Instantly Ground Yoursel .47#1 - Embrace The Feelings, Good And Bad .48#2 - Deep Breathing .49#3 - Scan the Vicinity .50How To Stay Grounded Over Tim .51Seek Out Safe But Tense Situations Every Day .52Take a cold shower.53Serenity .54Chapter Reca .54Exercise .55CHAPTER 4: BEING A HIGH STATUS MA .56Nine Steps To Master High Status Body Languag .58Step 1: The Rule of Investment .59Step 2: Be More Comfortable Than Her .59Step 4: Open Up .61Step 5: Take Up Space .62Step 6: Your Feet Tell All .63Step 7: Piercing Eye Contact .64Step 8: Slow Down Your Movements .64Step 9: The Perfect Smile.65Nuts and Bolts of Talking to Wome .65Volume – Turn up the con dence dial. .66Speed – Slow is smooth. .66Tone - Don’t be afraid of your “power voice” .68eNysnefyfipsYour Psychology Determines Your Physiolog .70