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WHAT’S INSIDEp4Welcome to Volunteersp5How to Use This Bookletp 6–9 BFF Essentials: Support tools fors topics and how to include GirlScout processesp 10You May Be Wondering p 12 Session 1: First Impressionsin the Mazep 14 Session 2: Navigating Friendshipsp 16Session 3: Cliques and Conflictsp 18 Session 4: Caution: BulliesStraight Aheadp 20 Session 5: Let Peace Begin with Youp 22 Session 6: Improving Relationshipsin the Worldp 24 Session 7: Toward Peace:Take Action!p 26Session 8: Pass It Forward
BFF(Be a Friend First)Welcome to BFF (Be a Friend First), which isdesigned to work with the aMAZE! Journey,Girl Scouts’ highly acclaimed leadershipcurriculum. The aMAZE! Journey givesmiddle school girls valuable skills and tools for figuringout relationships. BFF takes girls a step deeper. How? Byfocusing on the confidence and skills they need to preventall-too-prevalent bully behavior.Middle school is a time of transition and adjustment for girls,and also a time when bully behavior peaks. Girls tell us thatthey want to feel safe and protected, and want to help othersfeel the same.How can we get them there? By showing them how to buildmeaningful relationships and resolve conflicts peacefully andconstructively. And by empowering them to educate othersand create more peace in their schools, communities, and whoknows where else?We’ve drawn on our many years of girl expertise, best practices,and research—all delivered right here in BFF and through ouraMAZE! Journey.Healthy relationships are the solution to bully prevention.BFF inspires girls to lead one another—with friendship!
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Adult Guide (begin on page 30)to see how things are laid out and what activitiesmake sense for you. Do the same with your BFFbooklet to see how they match up and to help youplan. Of course, you don’t have to follow the guideor booklet word for word—once you get a topicstarted, listen for where girls want to take it!“life is a maze”and maskingcreatetape willdrawings, orprove handypoems,to bring tolyrics. They mightthe sessions.songPerhapson their ownthisgirlsdoandtheir familiesteams—andsmallroundin helpcanorupbuild from theircanthesetheybasicsupplies—becauseis a mazeleftovers“Lifewill do. Ifpoem. 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Getting Started: What You’ll UseaMAZE! Adult Guide: Usethis to guide Girl Scout Cadettesthrough aMAZE!BFF Booklet: Use this with youraMAZE! Adult Guide for bullyprevention tips, discussion questions,and additional activities.aMAZE! Girl Book: Each girl shouldhave her own aMAZE! girl book. Fromtime to time during this experience,you’ll refer to activities in this book.Here’s How to Use This Bookleta mega-session to diveinto them. Encouragethe girls to discussany “make it your own”journey ideas they mighthave.Write eachquestion onIVEaMRCT EofREATIEAATGscrappaperLSandplace all thehas timeIf the group scrapsin abag. Insteadof throwingA box or(todayor anothera ball, girlsbag withcaninterest,and themarkers,day)thepens,passscrapbag and pickgirls tothea slip.paper, glue,encouragescissors,“life is a maze”and maskingcreatetape willdrawings, orprove handypoems,to bring tolyrics. They mightthe artner.with.the H A N on.each.activity.even.further.OPENING CEREMONYv DO: It’s your firstsession, soeveryone’s boundto feel a littlenervous, andthat’s normal.This activity willhelp breakthe ice, let girlshear their ownvoices, and getcomfortablesharing.sessions also noteother simple materialsspecific to thesuggested activities.* SAY: “Great! Nowsomethingfunny or interestingaboutthemselves thatothers in thegroup wouldn’tknow, like: Pet’sname? Vegetablethey refuse toeat? Sport they’rebest at?One thing they’reafraid of?(could be spiders,riding onplanes, takingtests). Wheretheir name camefrom?Invite the girlsto form one bigcircle. Mentionthat circles areway to relate;everyone canan importantsee one another,so everyone istheir energy togetherequal and canas a team. Then,focussuggest that thefor how this journeyteam now createthrough aMAZEa planwill unfold. Ifwork around,there are anymention themtime limits toup front, so girlsknow the parametersthey can get creative.within whichAnd if the teamhas plenty ofstretch out thetime, encouragetrip.the girls toPerhaps a fewof the girls wouldlike to capturethe big points)what the groupon a large sheetdiscusses (justof paper thatthe team canrefer back toalongthe journey.Introduce eacharea of choice-making,and invite girlsgreat experience.to participateHere are somein creating aof the choicesto discuss andhow to approachsome ideas aboutthem:AwardsFind out if thegirls are interestedin earning thePeacemaker awardsInteract, Diplomat,during the journey.and(They can earnReview the stepsone, two, or allto the awardsthree.)as given on page9 of the girls’ Mention thatbook.the Take ActionProject can beuse their leadershipa team effortskills to contributein which girlswillcommunity ofto building positivetheir choice.relationshipsin a If girls are notinterested inthe DiplomatAction Project,Award, whichwhat would theyinvolves doinglike to do insteada Takethere any topicsduring Sessionsin their book5-7? Arethat they wanttime? Do theto talk more aboutgirls want to planduring thisthese sessionsthemselves?Page 35Using Ceremoniesto Connect atEach MeetingExplain that ceremonies,even short ones,can be a greattime out togetherway to take ato mark eachlittleCadette gatheringthe rest of theas special andday. Ceremoniesseparate fromcan be a funway for girls toto each other.connect and relateAsk the girls ifthey have anyideas for ceremonies,lighting candlesor listening tosuch asmusic—or offerup some of thethe next page.Then ask thesuggestions ongirls if they wantto have ceremoniesclose their timetogether. Findto open and/orout which girlsmight like toceremonies—perhapsplan and leadeven circulatesomea sign-up list.Team AgreementClose the discussionby inviting girlsto make a teamSay somethingagreement.like: As we travelthrough aMAZE,another. Whatit’s importantdo we need tothat we trustpromise eachoneother, so thatpositive experiencewe can have arelating to othersreallyalong this journey?Then, offer these We will watchideas:our body languagewhen we talkand listen (no If we have aeye rolling!)conflict with someonein the group,we can . . . If we have adifferent opinion,we can . . . Gossip wouldbe hurtful because.Going for GoalsClosing Ceremony:don’tinterest thegirls,don’t be concerned.Upcomingsessions offersuggestionsfor simpleceremonies(no planningneeded) thattheCadettes canperformspontaneously,shouldthey decidethey wantan openingof some kind.Perhaps one ofthe girls can capturethe team agreementbrought to allon paper so itmeetings andcan bethe girls can checkin on how theyare doing.ACTIVIT Y35BFF, it’s importantanother and havethat we trustspace to be honestoneand open. Doof you to writeyou want onethe team agreementon a piece of paper,sign the back,and bring it toall of youeach meetingas a reminder?”to promise eachother, so thathave a reallypositive experiencewe canrelating to othersexperience? Arethrough thisthere some groundrules we wantto set up?DO: Invite girlsto brainstorma team agreementfollowing if they.Offerthehaven’t alreadycome up withtheir own:We will watchour body languagewhen wetalk and listen(no eye rolling).If we have a conflictwith someonein the group, wecan If we have a differentopinion, we can Gossip wouldbe hurtful because ? ASK: What do we needv DO:? ASK: What does33333512 BFF BookletCadettesbook, lets the20 of the girls’thinkingfeatured on pageIt also gets themThis team activity,reveal their differences.similarities andhinder their relationships.discover theirassumptions mightimpressions andabout how firstin a circle. Explain:theHave girls standof tape and answerremove one pieceis passed to you, When the ballquestion underneath.turn.not yet had aa girl who hastoss the ball tohad After answering,each girl hasthe process. Afterthe girls to startaboutball to one ofstart a conversationThen give theto a question,some ofthe ball and respondperhaps askinga chance to catchdiscussion byGuide a meaningfulfirst impressions.but found outthese questions:someone elsesomething aboutthought you knew Have you everExplain.you were wrong?teams?impressions impactwe first perceived How do firstexactly the wayif everyone iswhen we act asothers. What happensinclude or excludehow this canelse there, whatthem? Talk aboutknow
Review steps to awards as given on page 9 of girls’ book. Mention that the ake Action Project can be a team effort in which girls will use their leadership skills tocontribute building positive relationships in a community of theirchoice. If girls are not in
