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TABLE OF C ONTENTSIntroduction .1Richard La Ruina .31. Confidence .51. Confidence starts with comfort .52. The end result.63. Desensitize yourself to what you fear .74. Three popular myths about confidence .75. Formula for confidence .82. Attraction & Attractiveness .111. Attraction basics .112. Stealth attraction and more attraction secrets .143. Building attraction with fashion .183. Pre-Selection .211. Techniques for getting pre-selection .214. Approaching Women .241. Techniques for approaching women .242. Women are programmed to resist us .273. “The Door” fable .28
TABLE OF CONTENTS5. Sexual Escalation .311. Sexual escalation starts with touching .312. Escalate using ‘Good Girl, Bad Girl’ technique .323. Kino is an important tool .334. Three criteria .345. Prime, affect and association escalation.366. Triple Kiss-Close & sexual escalation.377. Kino escalation techniques .388. Funny stories, tricks and kino routines.409. Getting her to go home with you .416. Day Game .431. Three approach techniques .432. Built-in transition openers .443. Common day game mistakes.454. If you’re polite she won’t be rude .455. Hot babes like day game .466. Taking a risk in day game .467. Making an SOI and showing sexual interest with day game .468. Body language in day game.479. Direct approach .477. Bar Game .481. Befriend the right people .482. Get women to buy you drinks .483. Bring a flask .494. Enter the bar with a bang .495. Work the room.496. Observe with your PUA eyes.497. Pre-opener.49
TABLE OF CONTENTS8. Relationship Building .501. Build an interesting life .502. Stay busy .513. Keep your status high .514. Don’t verbalize how you feel .515. Keep demonstrating qualities she was initially attracted to .526. Don’t let her see you sweat .527. Group dynamics.528. How to get the girl you want .539. Resurrection techniques .5310. Multiple girlfriend management .559. Hot Babe Interviews .56 10. Conclusion .87
I NTRODUCTION or years men have been asking for help meeting hot women. Every guy knowsthat walking up to a beautiful woman in a bar can be a daunting prospect. Infact, downright panic-inducing! It requires confidence and a general sense ofcomfort in your own skin to approach a beautiful woman and get her interested in you.You need to feel relaxed, comfortable and in control. But how do you get there? Howdo you go about acquiring that kind of confidence, comfort and the feeling of being atease? How do you know what to say and how to act? In short, how do you develop a‘Natural Game’?FNow there’s “Ultimate Natural Game”, a complete guide for learning how tofeel comfortable and confident with women, learning what to say, and learning theskills to escalate the game from nightclub to bedroom!The best PUA’s in the world have come together to share their secrets for playingNatural Game. They explain what they’ve learned through years of trial and error,mistakes, setbacks, failures and, finally, successes – big successes – with women.They explain exactly how to act and what to say to get women eating out of your hand.Not only that, they also explain the psychology behind gaining confidence. Theydescribe simple techniques for getting comfortable with yourself, which in turn leadsto confidence, which in turn leads to scoring with beautiful women. Here you will find solid, practical pickup advice from experts like Richard “Gambler”La Ruina, Adam Lyons, Rob Beckster, Matthew Hussey and other top PUAs explaininghow to game beautiful women. From building comfort, self-confidence and learningCopyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 20131
Ultimate Natural Game what to say, to techniques for getting the woman to give you her number, kiss you, andeven go home with you! These PUA professionals don’t hold anything back.In addition, you’ll get it straight from the hot babes themselves – exceptionallybeautiful women explain, in detail, what they are looking for in a man, and whatkind of guy can sweep them off their feet. The answers might surprise you – it’s notgood looks!Did you know that some of the best PUAs in the world are just regular guys likeyourself? In fact many started out being scared to death of approaching women, nothaving girlfriends, and not even going on dates. Richard “Gambler” La Ruina, one ofthe world’s top-ranked PUAs, describes in detail how he went from being a 21 yearold self-conscious virgin with no friends, to learning how to build a sense of comfortand self confidence, to leaning how to approach women, to sexual escalation and,ultimately, complete mastery of the Ultimate Natural Game! 2Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 2013
R ICHARD “G AMBLER ” L A R UINA– F ROM L OSER TO L OVER y name is Richard La Ruina,and I’m PUA Training, Inc.Founder, CEO and MasterTrainer. And I’ve been ranked one ofthe world’s top PUA’s.MMost guys won’t believe this, butwhen I was 21 years old I was avirgin, I’d never gotten a girl’snumber, I’d never had a conversationwith a strange girl that went well, I’dnever been on a date, I had no ideawhat to do in the bedroom, I had no idea even how to kiss a girl. I was anawkward person with no self-esteem and no friends. I’d spent my entire adult lifein a small UK city, and hadn’t developed any social contacts whatsoever.I had no value when I lived in Cambridge. A few years ago, when I was24 years old, I had only kissed two girls and I’d slept with two girls. I’d had onelong relationship and one one-night stand, and that was it. I was living in mymother’s house in Cambridge. I was fine during the day, I could distract myself.But in the evenings I’d eat my dinner, chat with my mum, get on the internet,and play with PlayStation – things like that. And then I’d go to bed. It would be10 o’clock and I’d be in my room alone with a book. Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 20133
Ultimate Natural Game No matter how good the day was, no matter how successful I’d been at work,I’d always wished I could have a girlfriend. It wasn’t something I felt was under mycontrol at all. I felt powerless, and that made me depressed. Something goodwould happen at work and I’d feel good, but then I’d think that I didn’t haveanything going on in my personal life and my mood would dip and I’d feeldepressed. I’d been bullied at school, so I’d only go to school four days a week.I used to try to avoid it as much as possible. I didn’t have any friends, peoplebullied me, and it was horrible.After I found out about the game I moved to London. Once I got to London itdidn’t take me five years to turn everything around. It didn’t take me two years. Infact, within six months of moving to London and doing my first approaches, withinfive months of getting my first kiss-close ever in a club, within a few months ofgetting my first phone number, I was at the point where I could go out for acouple of days a week, get numbers and get dates with beautiful women. I wouldhave quit at that point if I was just gaming for myself. But instead, I decided tohelp other guys that were like I had been. I started PUA Training and I’ve beenworking with guys and training people for all that time and I’m immersed in thatworld. So I’ve taken things further than I needed to, and I’ve arrived at a pointtoday where I’m incredibly happy.There is nothing special about me. In fact, when I was in my teens and 20’sI had a debilitating inferiority complex to overcome. Most of the guys I train arefar better off than I was when I found out about game. If I can do it, you mostcertainly can. I encourage you to apply the techniques and tactics that you’ll learnhere to improving your game with women and improving your life. Good luck! 4Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 2013
1. C ONFIDENCE Introduction:onfidence is the foundation of having ‘Ultimate Natural Game’. Infact, most women agree that the men who demonstrate self-confidenceare by far the most sexy and appealing.CConfidence starts with comfort. Simply stated, confidence starts with feelingcomfortable with yourself and your world. The trick is learning how to create thatsense of comfort in your life. Here are the three key areas in which comfort playsa role in building confidence. Apply these tips on building comfort in your ownlife. Learning how to increase your confidence is really as simple as building yourcomfort level with all aspects of your life. 1.Comfortable with the environment.If you seem comfortable with the environment in which you find yourself,you will appear confident. If a woman wants a confident guy, she’s lookingaround the bar for a guy who seems comfortable. A guy that she’s attractedto in any situation looks as though he’s comfortable in that situation. She’snot attracted to the guy who looks uncomfortable.Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 20135
Ultimate Natural GameThe process for getting comfortable in the environment is just mere exposureto that environment. If you go into a bar and hang out for 50 nights in a row,on the 50th night you’re going to be very comfortable in that environment.Women are going to see you and they’re going to think that you’re confidentbecause you seem so comfortable. The more exposure you get to the club,the more people you talk to, the more comfortable you’re going to be, andthe more confident you’re going to appear. Comfort talking to beautiful women. The same thing applies to talking tobeautiful women. The more beautiful women you talk to, the more comfortableyou’re going to feel, and the more confident you will appear. Beautiful women aregoing to see you as comfortable, and that will make you seem confident to them.Beautiful women are not attracted to uncomfortable men. Build comfort bydoing multiple approaches. You need to desensitize yourself to talking withbeautiful women. The best way to desensitize yourself talking to beautiful womenis to pick all the most beautiful women in the bar and approach them with themost low-pressure interaction you’ve got. You do a very quick, simple opener andthen you leave. And you do this over and over and over again until you’redesensitized. The resulting comfort level will increase dramatically and you’ll beginto feel confident. Comfort in your own skin. Shyness is the fear of exposing your weaknesses toothers and being embarrassed about it. Comfort in your own skin means that youno longer have that shyness. Comfort in your own skin means you’re interactingwith a woman and there’s nothing you’re trying to hide. Nothing she can find outabout you and throw at you. The way to deal with this is to write down yourweaknesses and all the things you’re not happy with and then write an action planto handle all of them. A lot of it is the actual fear of public performance and havingattention focused on you and being judged. The best way to get over this is to putyourself in that position as much as possible.2.The end result.Once you’ve addressed these three areas of learning how to be comfortable,your scenario will change. You’re in a club and a beautiful woman sees youacting comfortable, because you’ve been going to this club many times inorder to desensitize yourself to it, so she recognizes you as being confident,because you are so obviously comfortable. When you talk to her you’re notfazed by her beauty. You’re comfortable with her because you’ve talked tolots of beautiful women and desensitized yourself to them. She will see that6Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 2013
CONFIDENCEyou’re comfortable talking to her and sense that you’re confident. When shethrows a little test at you to see if you’re man enough, it bounces off. You’recomfortable and confident in your own skin.3.Desensitize yourself to what you fear.Confidence comes from doing that which you fear, over and over and overagain until you are desensitized to it. Confidence is only going to comethrough practice. Practice is the key.4.Three popular myths about confidence: You’re born with it. If your confidence is destroyed it’s gone for good. You either have it or you don’t.5.Formula for Confidence: C-A-N-D-O: C COMPETENT: Confidence is about doing something. If you want to beconfident, the first logical thing you can do is get competent. You becomeconfident with something when you are competent with it. Confidence iscompetence. What does confidence mean to you? What does it mean to beconfident and self-assured? It’s different for different people. There are many areasof your life where you feel confident. Perhaps it’s your job. Maybe it’s a hobby.Whatever it is, there’re areas of your life in which you are confident. Familiarity breeds confidence. The area of your life where you feel confident isthe area in which you are competent. Familiarity breeds confidence. When you getfamiliar with something you become more confident. Confidence is just a state ofcertainty about something – feeling certain about something. Being certain she’ll say yes. If there was an HB in the next room and you weretold that no matter what you said to her, she was going to say “Yes”, would youfeel confident about talking to her? No matter what you said. You could sayanything at all to her and she’s going to say “Yes”. Then of course you’d feelconfident talking to her, because you are certain of what her response will be. Youare confident because you have certainty.Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 20137
Ultimate Natural Game Get competent. So start to get competent in the area in which you wantconfidence. You have started that process already by reading this ebook. You’restarting that process already by learning how to meet women. You’re starting toget some competence in that area by learning the skills and techniques we teach Perfect practice. Do you believe that practice makes perfect? You might besurprised to learn that practice does not make perfect. Practice makes permanent.If you want to make some area of your life permanent, practice it non-stop. Ifyou’re not getting out and meeting women, it’s because you’re very practiced atnot doing it. Perfect practice makes perfect. If you practice doing something thewrong way, you will never get good at it. But if you practice doing somethingperfectly, you will become perfect at it. A ATTITUDE. What is your attitude like? Attitude is about the way you viewthe experiences in your life. Talking to women is like cold calling. The no’s areguaranteed, and so are the yes’s. It’s a numbers game. Each no brings you closer to a yes. You know logicallythat if you approach 100 girls, not every experience will be a negative one. Andeven if you got 100 no’s, you would at least be getting better at approachingwomen. That’s just plain common sense. But the principle is the same as coldcalling. If you cold call 100 prospects your chances of making one sale becomepretty good. If you talk to 100 women you’re chances of making a “sale” becomepretty good. Even if you make 50 approaches to women in a club over the courseof the night, and all 50 reject you, it’s still a win-win situation because at the endof the night you’re better at approaching women than you were at the beginning.And frankly, if you approach 50 women in a night, chances are that something isgoing to happen with one of them.It’s a numbers game, and you choose how you want to feel about the game. Youchoose how you want to feel about the rejection. Attitude is what bridges the gapbetween not being able to do something and being able to do something. If you’renot quite competent talking to women you can use attitude to help you bridge thegap between where you are now with your confidence and competence andwhere you want to be. Attitude will carry you through. N NURTURING. Confidence is nurturing. Try to nurture the small successes.Every time you have a success, keep it close to you and remind yourself of it allthe time. Hold on to the little successes. Stop stacking up the failures and startstacking the successes. As you nurture your successes they will become easier toduplicate because you will have nurtured them until they’re a part of who you are.8Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 2013
CONFIDENCE D DOING. Confidence is doing. This is something very different thancompetence. Competence is doing that at which you are trying to get confident,it’s practicing in order to gain familiarity and make that experience known toyourself. Doing confidence is something different. We may not be confident atapproaching women. But confidence is not some elusive thing that is inside us.Confidence is an action. It is something we do. We do confidence. A person isn’tconfident, a person does confidence. Mimic confidence. There are confident things that we can mimic, that we can doright now. For example: Body Language Voice Gestures Facial Expressions DynamismThese are some of the outward things that you can do straightaway which will leadother people to believe you are confident. The most beautiful thing about confidenceis that it can be faked. It’s not hard to fake confidence. Confident people have certainmannerisms. You have a choice about the way you act. You can choose to act like aconfident person by doing the things a confident person does. You can use the bodylanguage of a confident person.When you start portraying the actions of a confident person, you will actually becomemore confident. When you start acting like a confident person, other people are goingto start calling you confident, and when they do that you start to believe it. O OPTIMISM: Optimism builds confidence. When it comes to meetingwomen, you have to feel like you’re in it to win it. You have to feel optimistic. If youact like a pessimistic person, you’ll get pessimistic results. Try to act as optimisticas possible. Laugh off your failures and start celebrating your successes. Actoptimistic and start feeling like you deserve your successes. Your peer group. Your peer group is very important. Don’t let your peer groupbring you down to a low level. Surround yourself with people who are supportive.Old friends do not necessarily suit new lifestyles. If you surround yourself withnegative people they will bring you down. You will meet the level of your peergroup. If you hang around with people who are very good with women you’ll startCopyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 20139
Ultimate Natural Gameto raise your game. Surround yourself with mentors who can help you. Immerseyourself in groups of people who already have what you want. If you want tobecome more confident, start hanging around with confident people, don’t hangaround with the same insecure people that you may have been hanging aroundwith before. Ordinary things done consistently produce extraordinary results. Youdon’t go to the gym once, work out and expect to have the body you want. But ifyou go to the gym 3 days a week for a year, then you’ll have the body you want.You did something quite ordinary on a consistent basis and got extraordinaryresults. It’s the same thing with meeting women. If you consistently practice yourgame, you will eventually get extraordinary results.10Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 2013
2. ATTRACTION & ATTRACTIVENESS Introduction:f you think about attractiveness, it’s really the key to pickup. Why? Because awoman is not going to give you her number, or meet you for a date, or kissyou if she’s not attracted to you. Attraction has to enter the picture at somepoint. But if you don’t feel that you’re attractive, never fear. You can createattractiveness in your life. It has a lot to do with beliefs, attitudes, and technique.I1. Attraction Basics:Following are some key concepts and tools for creating attraction: Technique doesn’t work in the long run. If you apply pure technique in asituation, what will happen is you’re using alpha game and it’s not a representationof who you really are. So that means it will work in a limited situation. It will work ina bar; it will help you get the number. But when you see the girl again on a dateyou start to lose the attraction because these techniques are just alpha game,they’re just a shell. You don’t understand that they actually relate to core qualities.The people who teach these techniques may or may not have the core qualities,but they are models of the core qualities of an attractive man. The act of beingcocky and funny comes from a position of indifference. It comes from a strong,powerful guy who’s feeling good about himself and doesn’t have much insecurity.Copyright RLR Media Ltd. (MU) 201311
Ultimate Natural Game Think about what’s behind the techniques. You can fake it, but you willeventually be found out. So the best thing to bear in mind when you’re looking atthese techniques, lines, routines, and all the alpha game stuff, is it’s great but youcan make it even more valuable if you take each one and think about how itapplies on a deeper level. Think about what kind of qualities a man would have inorder to be saying these things. This is an area of your life in which the more youfocus on one particular woman, it actually makes it harder to get her. The best wayto get women into your life is to focus on yourself and to build an attractive,powerful character. Instead of thinking about techniques to get a particular girl,you should think about how you can build yourself into an attractive male. Thinkabout how to make yourself into a man that every girl would like. Physical looks are only about 20% of attractiveness. You need to feelgood about yourself and have a positive outlook, a good energy and a good vibe.You should work towards feeling comfortable and confident in any situation thatincludes beautiful women, because they will sense that you are comfortable andconfident. And as we know, it’s all about confidence. Your looks are not acritical factor. Men are attracted to the physical. Here’s the difference between menand women. Men look at a woman and they’re very logical in terms of herattractiveness. They make a decision in under a second of whether they want tosleep with her or not, and it’s decided purely on her physical appearance, andmaybe a tiny bit on her energy. If she’s smiling and moving nicely, that gives her alittle more cachet in the man’s eyes, but essentially the man’s attraction to thewoman is based purely on the physical. It’s something entirely visual that’sdecided very quickly. Women get a feeling. Women on the other hand do not make that snapjudgment. They look at a man and they get a feeling, a positive or negative feeling.And they’re not deciding at that point whether they would sleep with him. They’redeciding at that point how they feel about him – how they feel about his vibe, hisenergy, whether they’d like to talk to him, and whether he looks interesting. They’renot deciding anything sexual at that point
y name is Richard La Ruina, and I’m PUA Training, Inc. Founder, CEO and Master Trainer. And I’ve been ranked one of the world’s top PUA’s. Most guys won’t believe this, but when I was 21 years old I was a virgin, I’d never gotten a girl’s number, I’d never h
