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“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”1 Shoreline Unitarian Universalist Society, Madison, CTThe Rev. Jeanne LloydFebruary 10, 2019Sounding of the GongGathering MusicA Change In Me, Menken#WelcomePreludeNick Stanford, PianistLiz Miranker, Member at LargeBoard of TrusteesWaldszenen, Eintritt, SchumannChalice Lighting(The flaming chalice is the symbol of our free faith)Opening WordsRev. LloydAll That We Have Been, All That We Will Become2 by Leslie Ahuvah FailsAll that we have been separatelyand all that we will become togetheris stretched out before and behind uslike stars scattered across a canvas of sky.We stand at the precipice, arms lockedtogether like tandem skydiversworking up the courage to jump.Tell me, friends:1Portions of this service may be inspired and augmented by Soul have-been-all-we-will-becomeFebruary 9, 2019 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 2 of 10What have we got to lose?Our fear of failure?Our mistrust of our own talents?What have we got to lose?A poverty of the spirit?The lie that we are alone?What wonders await us in the spacebetween the first leapand the moment our feet, our wheelshowever we move our bodies across this precious earthtouch down softly on unknown soil?What have we got to lose that we can’t replace with somepreviously unimaginable joy?[And so, may we have courage in our leaping,and gratitude in our landing.Let us begin today!]#*Opening Hymn 1015StoryI Know I CanThe Forest by Claire Nivola#Sing the Young People OutNew Member CeremonyAnn Kadlecek, TDREChildren’s Recessional(see back of hymnal)Rev. Lloyd & Jenny Lee, PresidentAlice Fleming, Congregational Life Co-Chair 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 3 of 10Shoreline Unitarian Universalist SocietyAntiphonal CovenantBetween the Congregation and New MembersMinister:I invite forward our President, Jenny Lee, and the Co-Chair of the Congregational LifeCommittee, Alice Fleming. I invite Lemi Luu and her son, Sebastian, and, Xandi Garinoand Frank Sirianni, to come forward.For over 57 years, among the most sacred moments in this congregation’s life has beenthose times when we welcome a new member. Today, we are pleased to welcome Lemi(and Sebastian), and Xandi & Frank as new members of SUUS.Congregational Life Co-Chairperson:Here you will find curious minds and kindred spirits. We seek to be a people of goodwill, who assume good intentions, and who listen thoughtfully to one another, evenwhen we may disagree. Here, we commit not only to your spiritual growth, but also thespiritual growth of all those who share our path.Introduction of New Members Lemi Luu and Sabastian Xandi & FrankBoard President:Lemi, Frank and Xandi, those who choose to become members can claim a proudheritage of religious and spiritual freedom. In freely choosing to come together, weaccomplish so much more than alone, working to create a community of love, justice,and peace.Will the current members of this congregation please rise as we enter into covenantwith Lemi, Frank and Xandi?Congregation: (please stand)With joy, we welcome you as new members. We encourage you to speak your mindwith compassion; to love without prejudice; to live with integrity; to respondcourageously to the demands of justice; to work to fulfill the ideals of ourcongregational covenant, and to participate in our democratic process. We pledge tosupport you in your search for truth, to celebrate with you in times of joy, and, to helpyou in times of sorrow. 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 4 of 10Minister: Lemi, Frank and Xandi, is it your choice to join this congregation as amember?New Members: It is.A BlessingMinister: May the embrace of our community offer comfort and courage in theunfolding of life’s joys and sorrows.Congregation: May we, in seeking truth and justice, become effective instruments ofservice to humanity; making fruitful, our common ministries.Minister: May we, by our example, nurture into being the Spirit that is Life and Love.Congregation: May its presence and our love endure.Minister: So may it be.Honoring Our Joys and SorrowsAnd, now, if you woke this morning with a sorrow so heavy that you need the help ofthis community to carry it; or if, in the spirit of thankfulness, you woke with gratitude inyour heart that simply must be shared, now is the time for you to speak.Please come forward to the mic as you are able. Or, we will bring a mic to you, asneeded.PAUSELet us reflect with reverence in our hearts for the joys and sorrows spoken andunspoken today.Sung Meditation 1011Offertory WordsReturn AgainFebruary Share the PlateSupporting Shoreline Soup Kitchens & Food PantriesHere, we share with generosity what treasure we have with others whose needs aregreater than our own. Our Share the Plate program donates half of our cash offeringeach week to a designated community program that serves others. This month yourcash contributions will go to our Shoreline Soup Kitchens and Food Pantries.Please give generously. 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 5 of 10Offering & Offertory MusicReflectionKinderszenen, Der Dichter Spricht, SchumannChoosing to Grow SpirituallyRev. LloydHave you ever given any thought as to what the deepest character qualities are that arerequired of us in order to make a conscious and active decision to grow spiritually? NowI don’t mean that kind of growth that you have little to no control over, as in when yougrow three inches between age 15 and 16. Nor do I mean when you go to college andturn your life over (for a great sum of money) to other people to guide you through acarefully prescribed course of study that they’ve chosen for you. Neither method ofgrowth requires the kind of pioneering courage nor faith that I’m talking about whenyou choose to grow spiritually, that is to transcend and make whole, who you are today.PAUSEWe move through the motions of our day to day lives, trying to make some progress,setting goals for ourselves, doing some good, failing at times. But, most often, we fail toacknowledge the root of our anxieties, the fears, and the distractions that get in the wayof achieving spiritual wholeness. In our ignorance, rarely do we display the pioneer-inthe-wilderness type of courage to be ourselves/with others that would allow us to facedown the lions and tigers and bears of our spiritual lives! What kinds of courage must ittake to accept the anxieties and fears of our lives, to accept our mortality, to acceptwithin ourselves a future reality of “non-being”; and, . . . nonetheless, move forwardwith courage, faith and confidence that something good will come from all our efforts toimprove ourselves and this world?Most times it is easier to bury this kind of fear of risk and failure, this kind ofanxiousness about the past, present or future, in the day to day busyness of our lives. //But, we do so at our own risk. For, when we choose make-believe over transcendence,we risk our spiritual wholeness and centeredness. Have you thought about this kind ofanxiety that derails our desire to live to our fullest spiritual potential?Let me introduce you to someone who has.PAUSEPaul Tillich3 (1886 – 1965) was a German born, existential philosopher and protestanttheologian who initially served as a military chaplain in the first World War. War, and itscarnage, was a shattering experience for many, calling much of humanity to -Tillich February 8, 2019 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 6 of 10their previous understandings of G*d4 and the meaning of life. Neither Christianity norhumanism could justify or explain the destruction witnessed in the wars of the 20thcentury. Tillich, as a teacher, philosopher and theologian sought answers for hisstudents, in particular, and for humanity in general. As the second world warapproached, “Tillich [was critical] . . . of Hitler and the Nazi movement[.] [In] retaliationhe was barred from German universities in 1933[.] [He was] the first non-Jewishacademician “to be so honoured,” as he wryly put it.”5 He ended up in the UnitedStates, first at Union Seminary in New York City, then Harvard, and finally at theUniversity of Chicago, where he became one of our most influential theologians. Howdid he do this? He challenged all the boxes into which G*d had previously beenpackaged, and established new ways to look at what drives humanity, and how it canstill find spiritual health and wholeness.Tillich recognized that in the aftermath of the war, at a time when G*d had beendeclared dead, the inevitable outcome for humanity in its deepest psyche was aheightened sense of fear and anxiety about the meaning of life. He understood thatmany were simply trying to put one foot in front of the other, perhaps trying to grow inpositive and healthy ways, but something was missing. They/we’d lost our spiritualcenteredness, the ground, the foundations upon which we’d relied for resilience andfortitude. It was a superficial way of living because there was no deeper there, there.Previously, western religious thought had stepped in to address all our anxieties aboutmortality and our non-existence after death (our future “non-being”). It had providedus comfort by offering answers about what happens when we die. It gave us rules tosuggest that we had some control over our mortal lives, and our afterlife. But, in itsabsence, once the veil had been pulled aside, our greatest fears became more obvious.Without those comforting rules and dogmas, our greatest fear of “non-being” becameclear, and with it, its primary symptom, anxiety.What Tillich saw is that that which destabilizes us and holds us back is our unconsciousanxiety and mortal fear of death, of “non-being” . . . of not being. That at the root ofour many fears and anxieties, is not just the fear of failure or hurt or loss, but the fearthat our lives (after all is said and done), do not have meaning. When the balm ofinstitutional religion that rewards right and wrong behavior went missing, he sought toanswer these questions: 1. What types of courage is needed to move through the4Rev. Lloyd does not spell out the word, “G*d,” because the term is loaded with many misconceptionsand preconceptions. That which is the spirit of life and community, the spirit of love and death, the spiritof humanity, cannot be relegated to one three letter word. Rev. Lloyd invites others to reconsider themeanings of this word, and, to contemplate whether it is a noun or verb. Is G*d Love? The reader isinvited to expand their vision and understanding . . h February 8, 2019 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 7 of 10anxiety and fear that daily threatens our attempts to grow in spirit and love? 2. How dowe again find a spiritual centeredness from which to draw that courage?In his book, The Courage to Be, here’s the gist of what Tillich says:“Courage is not bravery. It is not climbing into a really really tall tree to rescue a kitten,nor is it standing in the way of a charging bull. Courage is a [quality of character]” thatone has in response to [a] perceived threat of non-being.”6 (emphasis added) In otherwords, though we have many worries, it is how we understand them and what we doabout them that matters. True enough, “[we] have anxiety about life, we haveexistential crises . . . [we] worry about control of our lives, the problems of fate anddeath. We worry about [our] purpose . . . and we worry about our own abilities [whenwe feel] . . . guilt and condemnation. All of these are linked, and they point to the same[source].”7 As humans, we are anxious about our mortal threat of “non-being”, and, atleast subconsciously, we know this. This fear of “non-being” is the root of the anxietythat threatens our spiritual centeredness and wholeness.Now you might ask, “What then, is being [as opposed to “non-being”]?” Tillich wouldsay that “being is to be, which is to say, to exist, to act, to be in a dynamic [state ofbeing].”8 To achieve that state of being one must demonstrate the courage to be in twodifferent ways, ways that must be held in balance with each other.The first way, is when we demonstrate the courage to affirm our own being even as weacknowledge that “non-being” exists. That means: to have the courage to affirm one’sown selfhood; to accept yourself (warts and all) and to be affirmative towards life andlove . . . even in the face of a future “non-being”. The second way is to have thecourage to be vulnerable enough to be part of a group larger than yourself, a group thatoffers values that help you make sense of life. He calls these two ways, individuationand participation9. True “courage to be” is when we align and unify our individuationand /02/paul-tillich-courage-to-be.html February 3, ich-courage-to-be.html February 3, lich-courage-to-be.html February 3, 20199Shelby Condray, Boston University, ources/review-tillich-paul couragetobe.htm February 9,201910Shelby Condray, Boston University, ources/review-tillich-paul couragetobe.htm February 9,20197 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 8 of 10So . . . to be a dynamic vital being, (1) affirm your own self-hood even in the face of“non-being”, and (2) choose to participate in a group that offers wisdom and support, inspite of a future state of “non-being”. (Both types of courage must happen inrelationship, in balance, to each other. They inform the other and neither is wholewithout the other. It is both/and, not either/or. Otherwise, one’s self-affirmation candeny the value of others and our relationships to them, or, groups can become toopowerful and require you to subjugate your authentic self to them.)PAUSEOn the front of your order of service is a quote from Tillich that says, “One cannotremove anxiety by arguing it away.” What he is saying here is that our naturalanxieties over fear of loss, failure and meaninglessness, cannot be argued away. Theywill always exist because mortality exists, our “non-being” over which we are anxious,will someday exist. But, what one can do is to have the courage to BE, to choose toaffirm your own self-hood in the face of “non-being”, and to choose to participate ingroups that inform you and can lend their courage to you.So far, that’s a lot of work for us, as mere humans, to do by ourselves. It might be hardfor us to demonstrate these types of “courage to be”, all the time. You might feel asthough you’re alone, as though you’re missing a spiritual center from which to also drawcourage. That’d be true, if it weren’t for one more concept that Tillich offers us. Thefoundation from which individuation and participation arise, is a foundation that hecalls, “Being-Itself”. In so doing, he reintroduces us to g*d, but in a new way. “BeingItself” can be described in as many ways as there are words to do so, including, “theground of being”, “the ground of all power and being,” “Grace” and I would add, the“Spirit that is Life”. It is from “Being-Itself”, the Ground of All Being, Grace, the Spiritthat is Life, that our courage to be our authentic self and to be part with others, arises!Tillich says, “The courage to be is rooted in [the Ground of All Being] when [for us] Godhas disappeared in [our] anxiety [and] doubt.”11 Repeat: “The courage to be is rootedin [the Ground of All Being] when [for us] God has disappeared in [our] anxiety [and]doubt.”12 It is a grace that accepts us even when we have trouble accepting ourselves.It accepts us as an act of grace, one that we neither deserve nor earn.He says,“Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness. It strikes uswhen we walk through the dark valley of a meaningless and empty life. Itstrikes us when our disgust for our own being, our indifference, our1112Tillich, Paul. The Courage to Be (New Haven, Yale University Press) 190.Tillich, Paul. The Courage to Be (New Haven, Yale University Press) 190. 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 9 of 10weakness, our hostility, and our lack of direction and composure havebecome intolerable to us. It strikes us when, year after year, the longedfor perfection of life does not appear, when the old compulsions reignwithin us as they have for decades, when despair destroys all joy andcourage. // Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into ourdarkness, and it is as though a voice were saying:“You . . . are . . . accepted.”13 (emphasis added)14I believe there is a Spirit of Life that sustains us even when we can’t explain who or whatG*d is. It is with this type of courage and ability to accept our mortality as part andparcel of life, that “[the] true power of [our spiritual] being is revealed.”15 (emphasisadded)A storyYears ago, driving home on the last day from a job that I hated, I left the window halfdown, to enjoy the summer breeze and my freedom! As I drove along, a black fly clungto the edge of my driver’s window. It crawled ever so carefully, tensely, rigidly, alongthe edge as though afraid to fall off. I drove faster, thinking he would fly off quicker asthe car sped up. But, he clung tighter, he hunkered down even more. I talked to him! Ireminded him that he had wings and could fly away! That, he would not fall! I drovefurther, and then, entering a curve in the road and changing the aero-dynamics, he flewoff.Projecting, it seemed as though he may have been challenged by his own fear of “nonbeing”. But he was released from his anxiety, moving past his stuckness and flying on tolife. It was a reminder to me of the cycle of life within which we all exist. Within ourchallenging and sometimes frightening lives, may we each have the courage to be,knowing that we are each a part of the larger force of life, that grounds us and gives lifemeaning.So may it e-strikes-us-when-we-are-in-great-pain-andFebruary 9, 201914Note: If you think of these concepts as a triangle, where “Being Itself” is the base of the triangle, andthe courage to love and accept oneself is one leg, while the courage to be part of a larger and affirminggroup is the other leg, then, as I see it, what is created within the triangle is a field of faith and confidencefor approaching life, even the risky and scary parts.15Jenn Lindsay, Boston University, 2012. s/reviewtillich-paul couragetobe.htm February 8, 2019 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

“Choosing to Grow Spiritually”Rev. Jeanne Lloyd, 2-10-19Page 10 of 10*Hymn 1020Woyaya*Closing Words & Extinguishing the ChalicePlease remain standing as you are able, and join hands as you are willing . . .We extinguish this flame, but not the light of truth, the warmth of community, or thefire of commitment. We extinguish this flame but not the sure knowledge that we holdfor each other the courage needed to live a life of love and faith. These we carry in ourhearts until we are together again.Closing Hymn 1057Go Lifted UpGo lifted up,love bless your way,moonlight, starlightguide your journey into peaceand the brightness of day. A Moment of SilenceAnnouncementsLiz MirankerBoard of Trustees* Please rise in body or spirit.# Latecomers may be seated. 2019. All notes, research, sermons and other products are the sole intellectual property of Rev. Lloyd,unless otherwise noted as the intellectual property of another. Sermons may be copied for individual use,only. If quoted, appropriate attribution to Rev. Lloyd is expected.

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